Leanne Yau
@polyphiliablog.bsky.social
polyamory educator and sex therapist in training, posting about queerness, sex-positivity, and radical relationships
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January 21, 2026 at 5:46 PM
I've started a new series about KINK on my Patreon, where every month, I talk about one of my many sexual fantasies: what they are, what makes them hot, where they might come from, and how I turn fantasy into reality with my partners. Here's a preview: www.patreon.com/posts/nsfw-i...
You can’t say you want to be polyamorous and then flake on dates whenever you feel like it, have zero consideration for your partners’ feelings and needs, get defensive when they try to communicate with you, and bail as soon as things start to feel inconvenient or uncomfortable. I said what I said 🤷🏻♀️
January 19, 2026 at 7:05 AM
You can’t say you want to be polyamorous and then flake on dates whenever you feel like it, have zero consideration for your partners’ feelings and needs, get defensive when they try to communicate with you, and bail as soon as things start to feel inconvenient or uncomfortable. I said what I said 🤷🏻♀️
a real text that my 17-year-old non-monogamous ass sent in 2016 to my partner:
January 18, 2026 at 8:28 AM
a real text that my 17-year-old non-monogamous ass sent in 2016 to my partner:
We all need to get better at recognising and boycotting AI generated content and content “creators” because if I see yet another bunch of short sentences like “No A. No B. Everything is C” followed by “it’s not X, it’s Y” with a bunch of em dashes and generic language I am going to fucking scream.
January 18, 2026 at 5:28 AM
We all need to get better at recognising and boycotting AI generated content and content “creators” because if I see yet another bunch of short sentences like “No A. No B. Everything is C” followed by “it’s not X, it’s Y” with a bunch of em dashes and generic language I am going to fucking scream.
This is WILD - I just found screenshots of my first ever dating app profile from 2016 while looking for photos to post for a throwback! I made this in October, so I had turned 18 three months before (😱), and I was in my first non-monogamous relationship of 8 months. Would you have swiped right? 🤣
January 16, 2026 at 6:37 PM
This is WILD - I just found screenshots of my first ever dating app profile from 2016 while looking for photos to post for a throwback! I made this in October, so I had turned 18 three months before (😱), and I was in my first non-monogamous relationship of 8 months. Would you have swiped right? 🤣
Dan and Phil reacting to Heated Rivalry was my crossover of the century. I am living in the best timeline. My year has been made.
January 16, 2026 at 5:27 AM
Dan and Phil reacting to Heated Rivalry was my crossover of the century. I am living in the best timeline. My year has been made.
Mononormativity taught us that your partner having other partners is a "one up" on you, that you're the "weak" one being "taken advantage of", "cucked", and perceived as "losing" to them.
January 16, 2026 at 3:20 AM
Mononormativity taught us that your partner having other partners is a "one up" on you, that you're the "weak" one being "taken advantage of", "cucked", and perceived as "losing" to them.
7 questions to ask yourself if you're looking to transition to a non-sexual, but still romantic, relationship with a partner:
January 14, 2026 at 10:43 AM
7 questions to ask yourself if you're looking to transition to a non-sexual, but still romantic, relationship with a partner:
If you still feel jealous despite having done a ton of research about polyamory, the reason is simple: there's a world of difference between intellectualising and internalising.
Your brain might have understood something, but your body hasn't yet. Let me explain...
Your brain might have understood something, but your body hasn't yet. Let me explain...
January 13, 2026 at 9:26 AM
If you still feel jealous despite having done a ton of research about polyamory, the reason is simple: there's a world of difference between intellectualising and internalising.
Your brain might have understood something, but your body hasn't yet. Let me explain...
Your brain might have understood something, but your body hasn't yet. Let me explain...
so having a boyfriend is allegedly “embarrassing” now, but what about two? if they kiss, does it cancel out?
January 12, 2026 at 5:45 PM
so having a boyfriend is allegedly “embarrassing” now, but what about two? if they kiss, does it cancel out?
I have a theory that if you are a polyamorous person who grew up with siblings, how you respond to your partner's other partners is directly linked to how you were treated by your parents compared to your other siblings growing up.
January 9, 2026 at 8:35 AM
I have a theory that if you are a polyamorous person who grew up with siblings, how you respond to your partner's other partners is directly linked to how you were treated by your parents compared to your other siblings growing up.
If you’re new to non-monogamy, here are 20 polyamorous reminders to start your year right ✨ let me know which one resonates with you the most…
January 7, 2026 at 7:54 AM
If you’re new to non-monogamy, here are 20 polyamorous reminders to start your year right ✨ let me know which one resonates with you the most…
Your polyamorous life doesn’t have to be sunshine and rainbows 100% of the time to be valid or rewarding. You get to decide what is worth it to you 💛☀️
January 2, 2026 at 5:13 PM
Your polyamorous life doesn’t have to be sunshine and rainbows 100% of the time to be valid or rewarding. You get to decide what is worth it to you 💛☀️
In light of the head of Instagram, Adam Mosseri, posting yesterday that in 2026 "authenticity is becoming infinitely reproducible", this is a friendly reminder that this is an anti-AI account 🤖🚫 and just to be clear: I have NEVER and will NEVER use generative Al to create my content.
January 1, 2026 at 7:47 AM
In light of the head of Instagram, Adam Mosseri, posting yesterday that in 2026 "authenticity is becoming infinitely reproducible", this is a friendly reminder that this is an anti-AI account 🤖🚫 and just to be clear: I have NEVER and will NEVER use generative Al to create my content.
Shoutout to all the people who have decided to try non-monogamy for the first time in 2026 💕
December 29, 2025 at 11:24 AM
Shoutout to all the people who have decided to try non-monogamy for the first time in 2026 💕
Normalise politely rejecting your dates rather than ghosting them, giving mixed messages, or saying you’re not ready for a relationship when that isn’t the truth.
It’s ok to say “I didn’t feel a spark but I wish you the best”. Your dates will appreciate your honesty and respect for them.
It’s ok to say “I didn’t feel a spark but I wish you the best”. Your dates will appreciate your honesty and respect for them.
December 29, 2025 at 7:07 AM
Normalise politely rejecting your dates rather than ghosting them, giving mixed messages, or saying you’re not ready for a relationship when that isn’t the truth.
It’s ok to say “I didn’t feel a spark but I wish you the best”. Your dates will appreciate your honesty and respect for them.
It’s ok to say “I didn’t feel a spark but I wish you the best”. Your dates will appreciate your honesty and respect for them.
you’d think that non-monogamous dating would be better considering that most non-monogamous folks have at least ONE person who thinks they’re halfway decent enough to be in a relationship with, but nooooooo 🤣
December 27, 2025 at 6:10 PM
you’d think that non-monogamous dating would be better considering that most non-monogamous folks have at least ONE person who thinks they’re halfway decent enough to be in a relationship with, but nooooooo 🤣
In the Heated Rivalry finale, a scene between Shane and his mum made me loudly sob into my partner’s arms for a good 5 minutes afterwards. Like Shane, I am an autistic queer Asian, and it brought up so much grief around my coming out to family and how I wish it had gone. I love this show so much ❤️🏳️🌈
December 26, 2025 at 9:15 PM
In the Heated Rivalry finale, a scene between Shane and his mum made me loudly sob into my partner’s arms for a good 5 minutes afterwards. Like Shane, I am an autistic queer Asian, and it brought up so much grief around my coming out to family and how I wish it had gone. I love this show so much ❤️🏳️🌈
If we can agree that it's problematic to demand a new partner date an existing one and you'll break up if it doesn't work out because you want to be in a throuple and can't handle dating separately, then it follows that it's also problematic to demand they be friends because you want kitchen table.
December 15, 2025 at 7:53 PM
If we can agree that it's problematic to demand a new partner date an existing one and you'll break up if it doesn't work out because you want to be in a throuple and can't handle dating separately, then it follows that it's also problematic to demand they be friends because you want kitchen table.
Your feelings of jealousy don't have to mean your partner needs to immediately stop what they are doing.
Your insecurity about a metamour doesn't have to mean they're a terrible person you need to cut out of your life.
Your insecurity about a metamour doesn't have to mean they're a terrible person you need to cut out of your life.
December 4, 2025 at 5:57 PM
Your feelings of jealousy don't have to mean your partner needs to immediately stop what they are doing.
Your insecurity about a metamour doesn't have to mean they're a terrible person you need to cut out of your life.
Your insecurity about a metamour doesn't have to mean they're a terrible person you need to cut out of your life.
Gift ideas for polyamorous people:
- harness or rope (for sex or rock climbing)
- a book about relationship psychology
- a diary for their schedule
- a medieval outfit for their next renfaire/sex party
- a bag for overnight dates
- D&D dice
- anything with an infinity heart on it
- harness or rope (for sex or rock climbing)
- a book about relationship psychology
- a diary for their schedule
- a medieval outfit for their next renfaire/sex party
- a bag for overnight dates
- D&D dice
- anything with an infinity heart on it
December 2, 2025 at 11:16 AM
Gift ideas for polyamorous people:
- harness or rope (for sex or rock climbing)
- a book about relationship psychology
- a diary for their schedule
- a medieval outfit for their next renfaire/sex party
- a bag for overnight dates
- D&D dice
- anything with an infinity heart on it
- harness or rope (for sex or rock climbing)
- a book about relationship psychology
- a diary for their schedule
- a medieval outfit for their next renfaire/sex party
- a bag for overnight dates
- D&D dice
- anything with an infinity heart on it
Polyamory doesn’t mean you have to be okay with everything, nor does it mean you have to ‘work on’ being okay with everything. Being flexible can be a good thing, but that doesn’t mean your boundaries and limits are ‘wrong’ or don’t matter.
November 30, 2025 at 2:19 PM
Polyamory doesn’t mean you have to be okay with everything, nor does it mean you have to ‘work on’ being okay with everything. Being flexible can be a good thing, but that doesn’t mean your boundaries and limits are ‘wrong’ or don’t matter.
I love being a polyamorous bisexual dating other polyamorous bisexuals. That is all.
November 28, 2025 at 11:36 AM
I love being a polyamorous bisexual dating other polyamorous bisexuals. That is all.
never beating the slutty polyamorous bisexual allegations and you know what? i'm okay with that.
November 27, 2025 at 4:10 PM
never beating the slutty polyamorous bisexual allegations and you know what? i'm okay with that.
I don't know who needs to hear this, but polyamory doesn't mean you have to settle for less time/energy/commitment. Your partner having other partners isn't a reason to sacrifice what you need to feel loved/valued. You deserve to have your needs met by people who are willing and able to meet them ❤️
November 27, 2025 at 3:25 PM
I don't know who needs to hear this, but polyamory doesn't mean you have to settle for less time/energy/commitment. Your partner having other partners isn't a reason to sacrifice what you need to feel loved/valued. You deserve to have your needs met by people who are willing and able to meet them ❤️