Rey (he/him) 🏴
@reydar.bsky.social
Mostly only post when feeling at my most unhinged. Queer, relationship anarchist, abolitionist. Cymro Cymraeg. He/him (ef/ei yng Gymraeg).
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Rey (he/him) 🏴
@reydar.bsky.social
· Apr 12
Sorry for using social media as my therapy journal again everyone! If you ever have insights into the stuff I'm posting they're always welcome :)
My partner doesn't seem to want to message me and barely replies to my messages :( they insisted it doesn't matter that they led their family to believe we broke up. I guess I'm slowly accepting that my partner doesn't love or want me and this probably means they will end our relationship soon :(
December 21, 2025 at 1:22 PM
My partner doesn't seem to want to message me and barely replies to my messages :( they insisted it doesn't matter that they led their family to believe we broke up. I guess I'm slowly accepting that my partner doesn't love or want me and this probably means they will end our relationship soon :(
I always said I'd keep my grubby puberty tache from T but honestly it looks so bad it might have to go
December 18, 2025 at 4:17 PM
I always said I'd keep my grubby puberty tache from T but honestly it looks so bad it might have to go
Held my coffee between my thighs to add my sugar and managed to tip it exactly into my crotch. I am wearing light grey sweatpants and tbh even last time I pissed myself it looked less like I had pissed myself than rn
December 18, 2025 at 3:09 PM
Held my coffee between my thighs to add my sugar and managed to tip it exactly into my crotch. I am wearing light grey sweatpants and tbh even last time I pissed myself it looked less like I had pissed myself than rn
I made a post on Reddit and it's got over 80 comments and I don't care for it. 7 comments tops please. I don't want to risk being on one of those "read Reddit posts" tiktok channels!
December 18, 2025 at 1:43 PM
I made a post on Reddit and it's got over 80 comments and I don't care for it. 7 comments tops please. I don't want to risk being on one of those "read Reddit posts" tiktok channels!
If Ur supposed to meet someone at 10 how long after 10 is it no longer rude to call and check where they are
December 16, 2025 at 10:09 AM
If Ur supposed to meet someone at 10 how long after 10 is it no longer rude to call and check where they are
I so so hate that I grew up in a family where any disagreement has to have a winner and a loser and one person was right and justified and one person was a bastard piece of shit. I try so hard not to fall into that thinking but it takes so much effort and when I'm really upset I forget and am awful
December 13, 2025 at 4:14 PM
I so so hate that I grew up in a family where any disagreement has to have a winner and a loser and one person was right and justified and one person was a bastard piece of shit. I try so hard not to fall into that thinking but it takes so much effort and when I'm really upset I forget and am awful
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Day 41 of Amu’s hunger strike.
Still, the Justice Secretary refuses to meet with me.
Still, the Justice Secretary refuses to meet with me.
My constituent, Amu, is on Day 40 of their hunger strike in prison.
Last month, I requested an urgent meeting with the Justice Secretary to discuss their wellbeing.
He has now officially declined my request.
What an absolute disgrace.
Last month, I requested an urgent meeting with the Justice Secretary to discuss their wellbeing.
He has now officially declined my request.
What an absolute disgrace.
December 12, 2025 at 11:20 AM
Day 41 of Amu’s hunger strike.
Still, the Justice Secretary refuses to meet with me.
Still, the Justice Secretary refuses to meet with me.
I feel like I'm letting down the entire trans community but I feel worse and uglier since my top surgery than I did before :(
December 10, 2025 at 2:02 PM
I feel like I'm letting down the entire trans community but I feel worse and uglier since my top surgery than I did before :(
Top tip to doctors if you ask someone if they're happy with their surgery results and they say "I was told to expect X and it didn't happen and I feel uncomfortable with my results because of it" don't say "well that's a good thing" and then kick the patient out when they get upset
December 10, 2025 at 10:55 AM
Top tip to doctors if you ask someone if they're happy with their surgery results and they say "I was told to expect X and it didn't happen and I feel uncomfortable with my results because of it" don't say "well that's a good thing" and then kick the patient out when they get upset
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Reading Rooms at the British Library are closed *all week* because so many of its workers refuse to work for pitiful wages in a contemptuously authoritarian and obliviously managed environment.
We need leaders who get it and are big enough to sort it out!
It’s a mess and a disgrace.
Lift it up!!
We need leaders who get it and are big enough to sort it out!
It’s a mess and a disgrace.
Lift it up!!
December 8, 2025 at 2:51 PM
Reading Rooms at the British Library are closed *all week* because so many of its workers refuse to work for pitiful wages in a contemptuously authoritarian and obliviously managed environment.
We need leaders who get it and are big enough to sort it out!
It’s a mess and a disgrace.
Lift it up!!
We need leaders who get it and are big enough to sort it out!
It’s a mess and a disgrace.
Lift it up!!
Weird fact about me is that when I was very young I knew the word "infantry" but not "infant" so the line in silent night "holy infant so tender and mild" was an absolute mind fuck
December 8, 2025 at 12:31 AM
Weird fact about me is that when I was very young I knew the word "infantry" but not "infant" so the line in silent night "holy infant so tender and mild" was an absolute mind fuck
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My dad abhors any negative comments about immigrants. Asked him recently why he’s so strong on it: ‘Because we’re always happy to take the rich and clever ones. Which means it’s not about disliking immigrants. It’s about disliking the poor and vulnerable. And that’s a bad human instinct.’
December 7, 2025 at 8:31 AM
My dad abhors any negative comments about immigrants. Asked him recently why he’s so strong on it: ‘Because we’re always happy to take the rich and clever ones. Which means it’s not about disliking immigrants. It’s about disliking the poor and vulnerable. And that’s a bad human instinct.’
It feels absolutely wild to me that I've been in therapy for 3 years and I've just realised there's like a whole huge chunk of my childhood I've only ever skimmed over
December 5, 2025 at 10:50 AM
It feels absolutely wild to me that I've been in therapy for 3 years and I've just realised there's like a whole huge chunk of my childhood I've only ever skimmed over
Top tip to organisers is please don't ask people if they're comfortable with doing something and then when they say no just pressure them into doing it. I won't be coming to another action for a while.
November 26, 2025 at 10:45 AM
Top tip to organisers is please don't ask people if they're comfortable with doing something and then when they say no just pressure them into doing it. I won't be coming to another action for a while.
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News people: sex scandals draw readers because they’re so salacious and naughty!
Readers: if you print one more stomach-churning word of RFK’s hornt poetry we will burn down the Grand Canyon
Readers: if you print one more stomach-churning word of RFK’s hornt poetry we will burn down the Grand Canyon
November 23, 2025 at 12:11 AM
News people: sex scandals draw readers because they’re so salacious and naughty!
Readers: if you print one more stomach-churning word of RFK’s hornt poetry we will burn down the Grand Canyon
Readers: if you print one more stomach-churning word of RFK’s hornt poetry we will burn down the Grand Canyon
Once again feeling furious about what techbros did to "AI" because llms are/were a genuinely useful and powerful tool *for the purposes they were designed for* and now all of it is thrown in the same bucket all together and grraaaaghh
November 22, 2025 at 11:20 AM
Once again feeling furious about what techbros did to "AI" because llms are/were a genuinely useful and powerful tool *for the purposes they were designed for* and now all of it is thrown in the same bucket all together and grraaaaghh
I don't think this will be helpful for the wider Movement For Trans Acceptance but if someone challenges me for going into the "wrong" toilet I am gonna scream and roar my loudest, and kick and scratch and piss on them. I think it's important that we each have a plan ahead of it actually happening
November 21, 2025 at 12:33 PM
I don't think this will be helpful for the wider Movement For Trans Acceptance but if someone challenges me for going into the "wrong" toilet I am gonna scream and roar my loudest, and kick and scratch and piss on them. I think it's important that we each have a plan ahead of it actually happening
I wish I was physically capable of putting away laundry rip
November 16, 2025 at 11:31 PM
I wish I was physically capable of putting away laundry rip
Why is flossing your teeth such an absolute ordeal
November 16, 2025 at 11:25 PM
Why is flossing your teeth such an absolute ordeal
Every time I feel good about how I look I try to take a selfie and I just look so pathetic in the selfie I end up not posting it :( why do my arms look like absolute fucking twigs omg
November 16, 2025 at 1:19 PM
Every time I feel good about how I look I try to take a selfie and I just look so pathetic in the selfie I end up not posting it :( why do my arms look like absolute fucking twigs omg
Whoever taught tiktok the phrase "anxious attachment" needs to be taken out back and shot
November 12, 2025 at 3:11 PM
Whoever taught tiktok the phrase "anxious attachment" needs to be taken out back and shot
Feeling very horrible and anxious and bad today
November 11, 2025 at 12:37 PM
Feeling very horrible and anxious and bad today
The gender service has discharged me because they cancelled my appointment so I didn't turn up for it and now under their "missed appointments policy" I have to be discharged. Not to be dramatic but I will burn the building to the ground!
November 11, 2025 at 12:37 PM
The gender service has discharged me because they cancelled my appointment so I didn't turn up for it and now under their "missed appointments policy" I have to be discharged. Not to be dramatic but I will burn the building to the ground!
[Caveat that I am confident I can keep myself physically safe at the moment]
I have not thought about killing myself this much possibly ever. Definitely not since I was 14 and my boyfriend dumped me because I got SAed and maybe I'm even thinking about it more now
I have not thought about killing myself this much possibly ever. Definitely not since I was 14 and my boyfriend dumped me because I got SAed and maybe I'm even thinking about it more now
November 3, 2025 at 8:07 AM
[Caveat that I am confident I can keep myself physically safe at the moment]
I have not thought about killing myself this much possibly ever. Definitely not since I was 14 and my boyfriend dumped me because I got SAed and maybe I'm even thinking about it more now
I have not thought about killing myself this much possibly ever. Definitely not since I was 14 and my boyfriend dumped me because I got SAed and maybe I'm even thinking about it more now
I miss my dad I want my dad
November 2, 2025 at 3:12 PM
I miss my dad I want my dad