Richard Nicholls
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Richard Nicholls
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· Aug 26
A word of advice for you.
You could be the ripest and sweetest peach in the entire world and there will still be someone who tells you that they hate peaches.
Don't worry.
Let them hate peaches, let them hate you.
It doesn't change anything about you.
You are still good enough.
You could be the ripest and sweetest peach in the entire world and there will still be someone who tells you that they hate peaches.
Don't worry.
Let them hate peaches, let them hate you.
It doesn't change anything about you.
You are still good enough.
Pathological limerence doesn’t come out of nowhere.
February 8, 2026 at 10:02 AM
Pathological limerence doesn’t come out of nowhere.
Sometimes your brain is trying to protect you… very badly.
February 7, 2026 at 2:11 PM
Sometimes your brain is trying to protect you… very badly.
Can AI replace your therapist?
AI can feel validating. Sometimes even understanding.
Maybe it's better than nothing. But I think that until something really radical changes in our culture, for most people, no.
AI can’t replace therapy. Not in the way people usually mean it.
AI can feel validating. Sometimes even understanding.
Maybe it's better than nothing. But I think that until something really radical changes in our culture, for most people, no.
AI can’t replace therapy. Not in the way people usually mean it.
February 6, 2026 at 9:42 PM
Can AI replace your therapist?
AI can feel validating. Sometimes even understanding.
Maybe it's better than nothing. But I think that until something really radical changes in our culture, for most people, no.
AI can’t replace therapy. Not in the way people usually mean it.
AI can feel validating. Sometimes even understanding.
Maybe it's better than nothing. But I think that until something really radical changes in our culture, for most people, no.
AI can’t replace therapy. Not in the way people usually mean it.
You know it’s a fantasy.
You’re not under any illusions. You’re not telling yourself it’s a real relationship. But even so… stopping the thoughts, the obsession, the what‑ifs — it feels impossible.
That’s limerence.
You’re not under any illusions. You’re not telling yourself it’s a real relationship. But even so… stopping the thoughts, the obsession, the what‑ifs — it feels impossible.
That’s limerence.
February 6, 2026 at 9:01 AM
You know it’s a fantasy.
You’re not under any illusions. You’re not telling yourself it’s a real relationship. But even so… stopping the thoughts, the obsession, the what‑ifs — it feels impossible.
That’s limerence.
You’re not under any illusions. You’re not telling yourself it’s a real relationship. But even so… stopping the thoughts, the obsession, the what‑ifs — it feels impossible.
That’s limerence.
Happy Friday!
And happy 60th to Rick Astley!
#FeelGoodFriday
And happy 60th to Rick Astley!
#FeelGoodFriday
February 6, 2026 at 8:14 AM
Happy Friday!
And happy 60th to Rick Astley!
#FeelGoodFriday
And happy 60th to Rick Astley!
#FeelGoodFriday
Being busy isn’t the same as being focused. And your brain knows the difference.
February 5, 2026 at 12:04 PM
Being busy isn’t the same as being focused. And your brain knows the difference.
The goal isn’t perfection — it’s building a life you can actually live.
February 4, 2026 at 12:03 PM
The goal isn’t perfection — it’s building a life you can actually live.
Limerence gets dangerous when it doesn’t fade.
February 4, 2026 at 9:02 AM
Limerence gets dangerous when it doesn’t fade.
If you’ve ever had a thought that scared you, this one’s for you.
February 3, 2026 at 3:48 PM
If you’ve ever had a thought that scared you, this one’s for you.
You know that first stage of a relationship? When your brain feels like it’s been dipped in glitter. You can’t stop thinking about them, you’re checking your phone every 10 seconds.
That’s limerence.
That’s limerence.
February 2, 2026 at 9:02 AM
You know that first stage of a relationship? When your brain feels like it’s been dipped in glitter. You can’t stop thinking about them, you’re checking your phone every 10 seconds.
That’s limerence.
That’s limerence.
Monday Motivation!
Do something today that your future self will thank you for.
#MotivationMonday
Do something today that your future self will thank you for.
#MotivationMonday
February 2, 2026 at 7:00 AM
Monday Motivation!
Do something today that your future self will thank you for.
#MotivationMonday
Do something today that your future self will thank you for.
#MotivationMonday
If your alarm clock woke you up this morning, this one’s for you.
February 1, 2026 at 12:03 PM
If your alarm clock woke you up this morning, this one’s for you.
We often turn to habits like nail biting when stressed, but it's less about calming down and more about having depleted all our willpower during the day.
January 31, 2026 at 3:03 PM
We often turn to habits like nail biting when stressed, but it's less about calming down and more about having depleted all our willpower during the day.
Where you start isn’t the problem — the story you tell about it is.
January 30, 2026 at 3:03 PM
Where you start isn’t the problem — the story you tell about it is.
Happy Friday!
#FeelGoodFriday
#FeelGoodFriday
January 30, 2026 at 7:53 AM
Happy Friday!
#FeelGoodFriday
#FeelGoodFriday
Sausage Wars
January 29, 2026 at 10:45 PM
Sausage Wars
Habits don’t stick when we secretly plan to abandon them.
January 29, 2026 at 12:04 PM
Habits don’t stick when we secretly plan to abandon them.
There isn’t a single secret to getting more done. And that might actually be good news.
January 28, 2026 at 11:02 AM
There isn’t a single secret to getting more done. And that might actually be good news.
Keeping expectations low might seem protective, but it often reinforces negative outcomes. True freedom isn't in low expectations, but in having none at all.
January 27, 2026 at 12:05 PM
Keeping expectations low might seem protective, but it often reinforces negative outcomes. True freedom isn't in low expectations, but in having none at all.
People make the mistake of thinking that it makes them weak or naive to accept and let go of something.
But I see it as the opposite.
It takes a lot of strength to be the bigger person, and say "The only one hurting over this is me."
But it doesn't mean you have to forgive and forget.
But I see it as the opposite.
It takes a lot of strength to be the bigger person, and say "The only one hurting over this is me."
But it doesn't mean you have to forgive and forget.
January 27, 2026 at 9:10 AM
People make the mistake of thinking that it makes them weak or naive to accept and let go of something.
But I see it as the opposite.
It takes a lot of strength to be the bigger person, and say "The only one hurting over this is me."
But it doesn't mean you have to forgive and forget.
But I see it as the opposite.
It takes a lot of strength to be the bigger person, and say "The only one hurting over this is me."
But it doesn't mean you have to forgive and forget.
Homework may be a pain, but in some cultures, it's seen as practice for making school easier. We all need that weekend free of tasks, don't we?
January 26, 2026 at 3:02 PM
Homework may be a pain, but in some cultures, it's seen as practice for making school easier. We all need that weekend free of tasks, don't we?
Monday Motivation!
There will always be angry people in your life, who seem to look for conflict everywhere they go. Walk away. The battle they fight is with themselves not with you.
#MotivationMonday
There will always be angry people in your life, who seem to look for conflict everywhere they go. Walk away. The battle they fight is with themselves not with you.
#MotivationMonday
January 26, 2026 at 7:00 AM
Monday Motivation!
There will always be angry people in your life, who seem to look for conflict everywhere they go. Walk away. The battle they fight is with themselves not with you.
#MotivationMonday
There will always be angry people in your life, who seem to look for conflict everywhere they go. Walk away. The battle they fight is with themselves not with you.
#MotivationMonday
Habits become automatic not because our muscles remember — but because our brain stops needing to supervise.
January 25, 2026 at 12:07 PM
Habits become automatic not because our muscles remember — but because our brain stops needing to supervise.
Expecting perfection in relationships invites disappointment. Real connection arises from embracing human flaws and sharing an authentic life together.
January 24, 2026 at 12:03 PM
Expecting perfection in relationships invites disappointment. Real connection arises from embracing human flaws and sharing an authentic life together.
A quiet message for anyone struggling today.
January 23, 2026 at 12:03 PM
A quiet message for anyone struggling today.