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Dee Whitnell (they/them)
@s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social
2.2K followers 100 following 210 posts
🍌 Author of Beyond Bananas & Condoms
🌈 Multi-award-winning Nonbinary for hire
📢 Founder of #TransKidsDeservetoGrowUp @transkidsdeservetogrowup
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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · Apr 4
🩷 A re-introduction of lil ol me!

Hey folks! I’m Dee Whitnell (they/them) a multi-award winning s3x educator and content creator… but that’s not all I am 👇 here’s some topline points!
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🤭 Boyfriends are out… but my trans bf is in!

Here’s a piece I wrote this week for Metro on why I will never date a cis man again as a nonbinary person.

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Sex with a fellow trans person put me off cis men for life
My only regret was not meeting my trans boyfriend earlier; it would have saved me a lot of time soul-searching.
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December 7, 2025 at 3:18 PM
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🔬 Every so often, a story hits the mainstream media of a parent unhappy with the S3x Education their young person has received in class.…

Here’s the deets & my thoughts as a S3x educator 👇

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Aussie mum wants to sue school after this sex ed lesson: lets investigate 🔎
Another article, another sex educator picking it apart! 👏
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December 5, 2025 at 12:22 PM
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🎙️ Oop… they did it again…

I think it’s important to use these moments for educating others on how *not* to act when hiring a trans+ individual & how *to* support someone who has been misgendered or deadnamed in front of you!

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Deadnamed by someone who commissioned me... again
Oops they did it again...
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December 2, 2025 at 1:40 PM
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🏳️‍⚧️ This #16daysofactivism, I made an easy-every-day list of ways you can be a Trans ally!

For the full piece, head over to my Substack & why not subscribe! ✨

I’m trying to post every week so if you have any blog ideas, let me know below!

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🏳️‍⚧️ Every-day ways to be a Trans+ ally
16 Days of Activism:
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November 26, 2025 at 1:47 PM
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🍆… ever heard of peen filler before? It’s a new trend amongst Gen Z peen owners

Here’s what you need to know 👇

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Penis filler is on the rise in Gen Z... but why?
Yes, young penis owners are getting penis filler!
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November 4, 2025 at 12:22 PM
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📺 Growing up, there was one horror film that was always talked about, purely for its topic: a vagina with teeth that bit off penises…

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Why are vaginas and periods so scary?!
As a sex educator, and a horror fan, I want to know: why are vaginas and periods so scary?!
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October 30, 2025 at 12:07 PM
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🚨 It’s finally happened!! Emergency contraction is now free of charge from local pharmacies! 👇
October 29, 2025 at 2:36 PM
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🎃 Checking your chest isn’t scary.. so let’s check ours this Halloween, with help from some pumpkins!
October 27, 2025 at 9:19 PM
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Free the pubic hair.. don’t buy it?!

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Bush-gate ... the hairy vagina saga
... insight from a sex educator who has a bush 💇‍♂️
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October 28, 2025 at 1:21 PM
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🎃 Checking your chest isn’t scary.. so let’s check ours this Halloween, with help from some pumpkins!
October 27, 2025 at 9:19 PM
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Day in the life of a s3x educator 🎥

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Day in the life as a s3x educator 🩷✨
YouTube video by Dee Whitnell
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October 23, 2025 at 4:25 PM
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🚨 I’m booking for speaking opportunities, content curation & collaboration, & author gigs for Trans Awareness Month (October!) 🧵
October 16, 2025 at 6:54 PM
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🩷 Today is the start of Black History Month & I have a reminder: Black Trans & Nonbinary folks deserve to see their history too! #BHM
October 1, 2025 at 7:37 AM
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Plus Ezra, John, Hafsa from @transactualuk.bsky.social Kate, Rachael, Emily, Avi, Tash, Claire, Grace, Ella, Timon, Dhiren and Jordan.

You were all superstars. I am so tired in my mind and so weary in my body, but it was worth every ache.
August 31, 2025 at 11:38 PM
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🏳️‍⚧️ You’ve heard of the gender tax, but what about the trans tax?

For many trans+ folks, there’s higher costs when it comes to just feeling good in yourself! So here’s five of my top *cheap & easy* ways to affirm your gender identity!

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My top five *easy and cheap* ways to affirm your gender identity!
Here's how I affirm my gender on a budget! 🧼👕💅
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September 3, 2025 at 11:15 AM
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As young people across the globe return to school, these are the headlines trans youth are seeing 👇
August 25, 2025 at 1:28 PM
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☀️ Last year I went viral for talking about genderseason… but this year I’m feeling it more than ever!

New Substack piece available now 👇

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☀️ Summer is here, and so is my dysphoria
Personal essay on how my gender shifts depending on the season
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August 18, 2025 at 12:38 PM
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✨ Recently I’ve seen the uptake in using the term ‘women+’ when discussing period education & rights…

But the reality is that this language is not the inclusive haven many brands using it claim it to be.
August 17, 2025 at 12:25 PM
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🩷 Want to know how I became a published author? Or do you want to win a signed copy of my book? 👀

Head over to my YouTube for more deets!!

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How did I become a published author?? 🤔
YouTube video by Dee Whitnell
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August 15, 2025 at 12:53 PM
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Every community has bad eggs, but the media is using them to fuel anti-trans hate 👇

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📰 Every community has bad eggs, yet when its a Trans person, the whole community is then targeted
Every time we see a trans individual arrested for a crime, we see the media and politicians use it as a moment to back up their transphobia, the reality is, every community has bad eggs...
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August 14, 2025 at 11:07 AM
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The pronoun pipeline is such an underrepresented part of the nonbinary experience 😭
August 14, 2025 at 10:29 AM
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🏳️‍⚧️ I love literature & I love the singular they so I thought this post was perfect!
August 13, 2025 at 7:51 AM
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More fantastic work from @transsolidarity.bsky.social.
Please forward a copy of this open letter to any businesses or orgs you know who are concerned about the new EHRC Code of Practice, and ask them to sign.
#StrengthInNumbers
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Letter to Secretary of State for Business and Trade (Jonathan Reynolds) and the Minister for Women and Equalities (Bridget Phillipson) ​ Dear Secretary of State for Business and Trade and Minister for Women and Equalities, ​ We, the undersigned businesses and organisations, are writing to express our deep concern at proposals seeking to enforce blanket, mandatory exclusion of trans people from gendered spaces and services. The proposals made in the EHRC's draft Code of Practice to the Equality Act would have serious and far-reaching consequences for UK businesses, our employees, and our customers. Any final code similar to this draft would tell organisations that we must adopt practices that are incompatible with modern business values, create unworkable operational challenges, and cause significant economic harm. ​ Conflict with business values Many of us have spent years building inclusive environments where all customers and staff feel safe and welcome. These proposals would tell us to act in ways that directly contradict those commitments; undermining trust, damaging reputations, and risking the loss of valued staff and customers. They are rooted in an assumption that trans people are a threat and that exclusion is the only acceptable outcome. This framing is both harmful and disconnected from the lived reality of the communities in which we operate. Exclusion of anybody should be a last resort, done only where it is proportionate for legitimate reasons which will be different for each individual organisation, not made blanket and mandatory. ​ Legal and operational risks
August 12, 2025 at 12:53 PM
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🩷 Navigating platforms as a s 🥚 educator or content creator is rougghhhh

So I’ve shared some of my top tips for my paid members!! If you’d like to hear more, why not subscribe to learn more & help this enby out! 🩷✨

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Want to create content but worried about being censored? Here's a sex educator five top tips ✨
Want to know more? Become a paid member 😉
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August 12, 2025 at 11:33 AM
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🏥 So JK Rowling has said that only women are born with the ability to ‘produce large gametes’ - aka eggs…

But what about women & those who have ovulation disorders, or infertility?

PCOS? Hypothalamic dysfunction? Endometriosis? Damaged fallopian tubes?
August 12, 2025 at 10:35 AM