Mel Hartman (he/they)
@sckit.bsky.social
34 year old queer trans grad student who is a writer, book lover, cat lover, podcast obsessor, and lover of adventures ❤️🐈🎧📖✈️
Shesha's chilling out and watching the neighbors raking their lawns while I work. Maybe she can ask them to clear my sidewalks for me too?
November 24, 2025 at 4:28 PM
Shesha's chilling out and watching the neighbors raking their lawns while I work. Maybe she can ask them to clear my sidewalks for me too?
Finally getting to sit down with my partner and watch the new Frankenstein. I am READY.
November 24, 2025 at 1:17 AM
Finally getting to sit down with my partner and watch the new Frankenstein. I am READY.
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Knock knock. Who's there? ...who's there? I don't see anyone out there, but the knocking is getting louder and more insistent. Please, who's there, I'm scared.
November 21, 2025 at 5:04 PM
Knock knock. Who's there? ...who's there? I don't see anyone out there, but the knocking is getting louder and more insistent. Please, who's there, I'm scared.
I just love living in the United States (especially the south) and playing "gunshots or fireworks or something else?" I guess technically St Louis is both the midwest and the south. Anyway, those were definitely gunshots, and lots of them. Cool cool cool.
November 21, 2025 at 5:49 PM
I just love living in the United States (especially the south) and playing "gunshots or fireworks or something else?" I guess technically St Louis is both the midwest and the south. Anyway, those were definitely gunshots, and lots of them. Cool cool cool.
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thing about autism is if you work really hard for many years, you can learn through trial-and-error how to navigate social situations and interpersonal connections SO effectively that people don't really believe you're autistic anymore and resent you for not being perfect at nonverbal communication
November 16, 2025 at 8:21 PM
thing about autism is if you work really hard for many years, you can learn through trial-and-error how to navigate social situations and interpersonal connections SO effectively that people don't really believe you're autistic anymore and resent you for not being perfect at nonverbal communication
I moved to St Louis today! And by that I mean 3 other wonderful people came down to Louisiana and helped me load the uhaul and then 2 more joined the unloading group in St Louis and we got a full uhaul unloaded in about an hour! Now my new place is stacked full of boxes and bags and I am TIRED.
November 16, 2025 at 4:37 AM
I moved to St Louis today! And by that I mean 3 other wonderful people came down to Louisiana and helped me load the uhaul and then 2 more joined the unloading group in St Louis and we got a full uhaul unloaded in about an hour! Now my new place is stacked full of boxes and bags and I am TIRED.
I've lived in Monroe for 2.5 years and I am just now going to check out this brunch place that I've wanted to go to for a while now. They've always been way too busy on the weekends, like lines out the doors busy, but it's a weekday so I got a table! I am way underdressed haha.
November 11, 2025 at 5:32 PM
I've lived in Monroe for 2.5 years and I am just now going to check out this brunch place that I've wanted to go to for a while now. They've always been way too busy on the weekends, like lines out the doors busy, but it's a weekday so I got a table! I am way underdressed haha.
Only 2 more days til I drive to St Louis to pick up my partner and friends to come help me move. Which means only 2 more days until I can see my love in person instead of only getting to see them in photos with the occasional short in-person visits that never last long enough. I am so ready ❤️❤️❤️
November 11, 2025 at 1:19 AM
Only 2 more days til I drive to St Louis to pick up my partner and friends to come help me move. Which means only 2 more days until I can see my love in person instead of only getting to see them in photos with the occasional short in-person visits that never last long enough. I am so ready ❤️❤️❤️
Fresh haircuts give me ✨gender feels✨
November 9, 2025 at 5:58 PM
Fresh haircuts give me ✨gender feels✨
Listen, I'm a 34 year old adult, but the fact that this was sitting on a random clearance shelf in Walmart absolutely took me out. They're usually put away behind glass! Also, vanilla chai flavored lube?? No thanks 🤣
November 8, 2025 at 7:04 PM
Listen, I'm a 34 year old adult, but the fact that this was sitting on a random clearance shelf in Walmart absolutely took me out. They're usually put away behind glass! Also, vanilla chai flavored lube?? No thanks 🤣
Holy crap, what are these allegations about Justin from Anti-Flag???? This is the first I'm hearing about anything. Say it ain't so!
November 5, 2025 at 5:21 PM
Holy crap, what are these allegations about Justin from Anti-Flag???? This is the first I'm hearing about anything. Say it ain't so!
Tomorrow is the 1 year anniversary of my stepdad's passing. It crept up on me, I didn't even realize the date until just now. Tommy was the closest I ever had to a real father since my bio dad was such a horrible person. I wish Tommy were still here, but I do take solace in knowing he's with my mom.
November 3, 2025 at 2:42 AM
Tomorrow is the 1 year anniversary of my stepdad's passing. It crept up on me, I didn't even realize the date until just now. Tommy was the closest I ever had to a real father since my bio dad was such a horrible person. I wish Tommy were still here, but I do take solace in knowing he's with my mom.
Got the second room of my house basically knocked out and ready to go other than a few last minute things I'll worry about next weekend. All that's really left is the kitchen, bathroom, and my own room, all of which won't take long to pack as they don't contain a lot of stuff.
November 3, 2025 at 2:22 AM
Got the second room of my house basically knocked out and ready to go other than a few last minute things I'll worry about next weekend. All that's really left is the kitchen, bathroom, and my own room, all of which won't take long to pack as they don't contain a lot of stuff.
Today was not the productive day of packing and cleaning I planned for it to be but I did that for 3 days this past week so I feel like I deserve a break. I did do SOME cleaning today, just not a lot. I have a deadline to hit still, after all.
November 2, 2025 at 3:36 AM
Today was not the productive day of packing and cleaning I planned for it to be but I did that for 3 days this past week so I feel like I deserve a break. I did do SOME cleaning today, just not a lot. I have a deadline to hit still, after all.
Cleaning and packing today took longer than I expected, partially because my back was already hurting from work and bending over made it worse and also partially because there was more to go through than I thought, but the front bedroom is now about 90% done! Yay!
October 30, 2025 at 12:30 AM
Cleaning and packing today took longer than I expected, partially because my back was already hurting from work and bending over made it worse and also partially because there was more to go through than I thought, but the front bedroom is now about 90% done! Yay!
Came out as pansexual at 17, demisexual around early 20s I think, nonbinary unofficially in my early 20s but more officially around 27 and then realized I was actually a trans guy last year at 33. Not fully out about that other than close friends and partner, plus y'all internet folks.
Queer Bluesky: how old were you when you came out and how old are you now?
Came out as bi at age 14.
Started coming out as trans at 16, first to friends, gradually to others, and finally told family at 21.
Currently 40.
Came out as bi at age 14.
Started coming out as trans at 16, first to friends, gradually to others, and finally told family at 21.
Currently 40.
Queer Bluesky: how old were you when you came out and how old are you now?
Knew at 11 and suppressed the shit out of it for survival.
Went back in the closet at 22 due to relationship/marriage.
Finally came out and started to transition at 31.
Currently 37.
Knew at 11 and suppressed the shit out of it for survival.
Went back in the closet at 22 due to relationship/marriage.
Finally came out and started to transition at 31.
Currently 37.
October 29, 2025 at 2:47 AM
Came out as pansexual at 17, demisexual around early 20s I think, nonbinary unofficially in my early 20s but more officially around 27 and then realized I was actually a trans guy last year at 33. Not fully out about that other than close friends and partner, plus y'all internet folks.
Ugh. I've been having pain for a few days now that I'm pretty sure is ovarian cyst related (yay PCOS 🙃) and so of course after spending 2 hours cleaning and packing this afternoon I'm dying in pain and running back and forth to the bathroom. Why now??? My body has the worst timing.
October 29, 2025 at 1:51 AM
Ugh. I've been having pain for a few days now that I'm pretty sure is ovarian cyst related (yay PCOS 🙃) and so of course after spending 2 hours cleaning and packing this afternoon I'm dying in pain and running back and forth to the bathroom. Why now??? My body has the worst timing.
I spent 2 hours packing and organizing my front bedroom and after spending multiple days cleaning and clearing out a bunch of it over the last few months I have about 70% of the room done and ready to go, and the other 30% should only take me an hour or 2! That room was the main thing to accomplish.
October 29, 2025 at 12:55 AM
I spent 2 hours packing and organizing my front bedroom and after spending multiple days cleaning and clearing out a bunch of it over the last few months I have about 70% of the room done and ready to go, and the other 30% should only take me an hour or 2! That room was the main thing to accomplish.
I GOT THE HOUSE!!!! I sign the lease agreement tomorrow or Wednesday and then I'll be moving in just less than 3 weeks! Ommmggggg Y'ALL the house is so nice and has an AMAZING back yard!
October 27, 2025 at 5:35 PM
I GOT THE HOUSE!!!! I sign the lease agreement tomorrow or Wednesday and then I'll be moving in just less than 3 weeks! Ommmggggg Y'ALL the house is so nice and has an AMAZING back yard!
I find out tomorrow if I'm signing a lease agreement for this house in STL so I'm crossing my fingers because I really want it!!
October 26, 2025 at 11:00 PM
I find out tomorrow if I'm signing a lease agreement for this house in STL so I'm crossing my fingers because I really want it!!
Spent the last hour-ish packing and cleaning. The ridiculous thing is that I genuinely don't own a lot of stuff but when I'm sitting here packing up my whole house it sure FEELS like I own a ton of stuff.
October 26, 2025 at 7:55 PM
Spent the last hour-ish packing and cleaning. The ridiculous thing is that I genuinely don't own a lot of stuff but when I'm sitting here packing up my whole house it sure FEELS like I own a ton of stuff.
As another ADHD-er who also has OCD, this really is such a good thread! I deal with a lot of the same stuff. I have a shopping addiction and I'm a recovering hoarder due to impulses that are hard as hell to say no to. These things haunt me, I don't want to do them, but it is PAINFUL not to at times.
I'm reading about the difference between "impulsive" and "compulsive" behavior. I'm looking at clinical usage here, specifically because while I think there's a common understanding of compulsive behavior as a clinical concept, impulsive behavior is more often viewed as a personality flaw. #adhd
Compulsive Vs. Impulsive Behaviors
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October 26, 2025 at 7:44 PM
As another ADHD-er who also has OCD, this really is such a good thread! I deal with a lot of the same stuff. I have a shopping addiction and I'm a recovering hoarder due to impulses that are hard as hell to say no to. These things haunt me, I don't want to do them, but it is PAINFUL not to at times.
I might actually have a house lined up in STL already! It's smaller than I originally wanted but it would be a private landlord instead of a corporate one and the back yard is HUGE and beautiful omg. My partner is going to see it tomorrow and then I'm gonna video chat with the woman who owns it!
October 25, 2025 at 12:35 PM
I might actually have a house lined up in STL already! It's smaller than I originally wanted but it would be a private landlord instead of a corporate one and the back yard is HUGE and beautiful omg. My partner is going to see it tomorrow and then I'm gonna video chat with the woman who owns it!
I can't sleep because I'm so excited and nervous about finally getting a job and moving soon but I also know I'm on the verge of slipping into hypomania if I don't get more sleep. I mean, at least it would help me pack and move? Eh?
October 23, 2025 at 5:46 AM
I can't sleep because I'm so excited and nervous about finally getting a job and moving soon but I also know I'm on the verge of slipping into hypomania if I don't get more sleep. I mean, at least it would help me pack and move? Eh?
Found a beautiful house for rent, says it's pet friendly, so I messaged to ask for sure what their pet policy is. The city limit is 4 but some places want to limit it to 1 or 2, so hopefully this place won't do that. If they'll allow the 4 then I'll put in my application and hopefully get it!
October 23, 2025 at 5:39 AM
Found a beautiful house for rent, says it's pet friendly, so I messaged to ask for sure what their pet policy is. The city limit is 4 but some places want to limit it to 1 or 2, so hopefully this place won't do that. If they'll allow the 4 then I'll put in my application and hopefully get it!