Ande Stanley
@theadoptionfiles.bsky.social
Adoptee rights advocate. lDA ICA baby scoop era. Host of The Adoption Files podcast. Seeking to amplify the voices of those impacted by family severance.
Explaining to kids why authenticity is preferable to AI…..
December 16, 2025 at 1:48 AM
Explaining to kids why authenticity is preferable to AI…..
Note to self: do not take children to play miniature golf in 45 degree weather…
December 16, 2025 at 1:45 AM
Note to self: do not take children to play miniature golf in 45 degree weather…
I spent a significant number of years living not too far from this facility. I used to hear àbt it as a kid, from my OB/Gyn adoptive father. Only in recent yes have I begun to understand just what crimes were committed there. ec.ac.lsa.umich.edu
An interactive timeline of relevant events
ec.ac.lsa.umich.edu
December 15, 2025 at 11:06 PM
I spent a significant number of years living not too far from this facility. I used to hear àbt it as a kid, from my OB/Gyn adoptive father. Only in recent yes have I begun to understand just what crimes were committed there. ec.ac.lsa.umich.edu
Doing research Am now at rabbit hole stage where the Madhatter is President, the Cheshire Cat runs the CDC and the Queen of Hearts is a momfluencer who coerced unwed Alice to terminate parental rights to the white rabbit #adoption #childwelfare #publichealth #weareallcrazyhere #fostercare #coercion
December 15, 2025 at 10:59 PM
Doing research Am now at rabbit hole stage where the Madhatter is President, the Cheshire Cat runs the CDC and the Queen of Hearts is a momfluencer who coerced unwed Alice to terminate parental rights to the white rabbit #adoption #childwelfare #publichealth #weareallcrazyhere #fostercare #coercion
We are on what feels like day four thousand of our disabled person friendly bathroom remodel. Really glad I chose not to believe the contractor when he promised two weeks. Just thankful we can do this for my person. 🩷 #disability #resources #disabilityrights #access
December 15, 2025 at 10:47 PM
We are on what feels like day four thousand of our disabled person friendly bathroom remodel. Really glad I chose not to believe the contractor when he promised two weeks. Just thankful we can do this for my person. 🩷 #disability #resources #disabilityrights #access
My semi-regular pronunciation guide: Ande, pronounced On-Dee. I was always told I was difficult. Thought I’d just lean into that.
December 15, 2025 at 10:45 PM
My semi-regular pronunciation guide: Ande, pronounced On-Dee. I was always told I was difficult. Thought I’d just lean into that.
I will celebrate my 39th anniversary this week. We have known each other for forty-four years. Nobody thought we would last. We weren’t sure we would last. Happy anniversary to my person. 🩷
December 15, 2025 at 10:42 PM
I will celebrate my 39th anniversary this week. We have known each other for forty-four years. Nobody thought we would last. We weren’t sure we would last. Happy anniversary to my person. 🩷
I believe the Chosen narrative arose precisely bc the industry knew that adoption involves so much of the last resort. Psychologically, the idea of being chosen needs to serve both the adopter and the adopted, a sort of semantic stop sign for grief and loss. #adoption #adopted #chosen #trauma #cptsd
December 15, 2025 at 3:47 PM
I believe the Chosen narrative arose precisely bc the industry knew that adoption involves so much of the last resort. Psychologically, the idea of being chosen needs to serve both the adopter and the adopted, a sort of semantic stop sign for grief and loss. #adoption #adopted #chosen #trauma #cptsd
The first question I asked when I learned I am adopted was Is my birthday even my birthday? Plenary adoption robs us of many of the essential elements of our identity. Maybe worst of all, it corrupts our ability to trust in anything at all. #asoption #adopted #adopteerights #identity #truth #trust
December 15, 2025 at 3:43 PM
I watched F1 , hoping to figure out the appeal of car racing.
I still don’t get it.
That’s not a value judgement. I’m just disabled due to a car accident. I think it’s made me car-risk averse.
I still don’t get it.
That’s not a value judgement. I’m just disabled due to a car accident. I think it’s made me car-risk averse.
December 15, 2025 at 2:09 AM
I watched F1 , hoping to figure out the appeal of car racing.
I still don’t get it.
That’s not a value judgement. I’m just disabled due to a car accident. I think it’s made me car-risk averse.
I still don’t get it.
That’s not a value judgement. I’m just disabled due to a car accident. I think it’s made me car-risk averse.
I was doing some shopping today. I kept thinking I must look like I know what I am doing here, because ppl keep asking me where to find things ànd àbout the products. When I finally had no answers, I learned an actual employee had my same hair color, and ppl thought we were the same person. 😂
December 15, 2025 at 2:06 AM
I was doing some shopping today. I kept thinking I must look like I know what I am doing here, because ppl keep asking me where to find things ànd àbout the products. When I finally had no answers, I learned an actual employee had my same hair color, and ppl thought we were the same person. 😂
My unscientific opinion: smart cars cause accidents
December 13, 2025 at 6:33 PM
My unscientific opinion: smart cars cause accidents
I am always impressed by how often we manage to be talked about, talked over, talked to, but not heard from. #adoption #adopted #marginalization #adopteerights #BBC #resources
The challenges faced by adopted children are often misunderstood or minimized. This article highlights the lack of support families face while showing how rarely adoptees are included in conversations about their own experiences. 🥚
Hundreds tell BBC of adopted children's struggles amid calls for lifelong support
A charity says the system is “under severe strain” as parents recount addiction and mental health battles.
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December 13, 2025 at 2:28 PM
I am always impressed by how often we manage to be talked about, talked over, talked to, but not heard from. #adoption #adopted #marginalization #adopteerights #BBC #resources
“There’s always adoption” is such a casual way of dismissing family loss, of perpetuating maternal severance. #adoption #adopted #adopteerights #grief #loss
December 12, 2025 at 9:30 PM
“There’s always adoption” is such a casual way of dismissing family loss, of perpetuating maternal severance. #adoption #adopted #adopteerights #grief #loss
I’d love to read a novel where infertility is an issue, the person(s) consider adoption, actually listen to adopted people, and decide to engage with kids through volunteer work and mentoring. Ànd advocating for social supports that truly care for kids. #adoption #adopted #adopteerights
December 12, 2025 at 9:28 PM
I’d love to read a novel where infertility is an issue, the person(s) consider adoption, actually listen to adopted people, and decide to engage with kids through volunteer work and mentoring. Ànd advocating for social supports that truly care for kids. #adoption #adopted #adopteerights
Adopted ppl know that a lack of medical history leaves us with little to no idea if certain cancers run in our families. Consider sharing with the podcasts hosts àbout your on experiences with cancer, and how the lack of information has impacted your life. #cancer #adoption #medicalhistory #adopted
Hi everyone! We are putting together a mini-series on cancer, from the history to the biology to the concept of cancer as a disease. We are looking for people willing to share your experience with cancer - whatever that may mean to you.
December 11, 2025 at 7:39 PM
Adopted ppl know that a lack of medical history leaves us with little to no idea if certain cancers run in our families. Consider sharing with the podcasts hosts àbout your on experiences with cancer, and how the lack of information has impacted your life. #cancer #adoption #medicalhistory #adopted
Pollution that kills is why regulations are so important. #coal #pollution #publichealth #greed #regulation #stopderegulation . www.audible.com/pd/B0FMXYBCR...
Ep 185 The Great Smog of London: “Thick, drab, yellow, disgusting”
Check out this great listen on Audible.com. Some things just go together: peanut butter and jelly, bacon and eggs, milk and cereal, London and smog. Or at least, that’s the way things used to be until...
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December 11, 2025 at 7:25 PM
Pollution that kills is why regulations are so important. #coal #pollution #publichealth #greed #regulation #stopderegulation . www.audible.com/pd/B0FMXYBCR...
Misogyny is a hallmark of
The adoption industry. #adoption #adopted #misogyny #humanrights #chosren #family #adopteerights #commodifocation
The adoption industry. #adoption #adopted #misogyny #humanrights #chosren #family #adopteerights #commodifocation
December 11, 2025 at 5:01 AM
Misogyny is a hallmark of
The adoption industry. #adoption #adopted #misogyny #humanrights #chosren #family #adopteerights #commodifocation
The adoption industry. #adoption #adopted #misogyny #humanrights #chosren #family #adopteerights #commodifocation
Gender politics ànd the practice of plenary adoption are firmly entwined. #adoption #adopted #commodification #transphobia #misogyny #sexism
December 11, 2025 at 4:33 AM
Gender politics ànd the practice of plenary adoption are firmly entwined. #adoption #adopted #commodification #transphobia #misogyny #sexism
www.bbc.com/news/article...
In the US, the fertility industry is almost entirely self-regulating. Republicans have voted against protections for years ànd years. There are no real safeguards when purchasing genetic materials from fertility clinics.
In the US, the fertility industry is almost entirely self-regulating. Republicans have voted against protections for years ànd years. There are no real safeguards when purchasing genetic materials from fertility clinics.
Sperm from donor with cancer-causing gene was used to conceive almost 200 children
Some children have already died and only a minority who inherit the mutation will escape cancer in their lifetimes.
www.bbc.com
December 10, 2025 at 3:36 PM
www.bbc.com/news/article...
In the US, the fertility industry is almost entirely self-regulating. Republicans have voted against protections for years ànd years. There are no real safeguards when purchasing genetic materials from fertility clinics.
In the US, the fertility industry is almost entirely self-regulating. Republicans have voted against protections for years ànd years. There are no real safeguards when purchasing genetic materials from fertility clinics.
As an adopted person, are you my mother should be part of a series: are you my father? Are you my grandmother? Are you my grandfather? Are you my aunt, my uncle, my cousin? Are you my sister, or my brother? Àn entire extended family of loss ànd confusion. #adoption #adopted #grief #familyloss
December 10, 2025 at 3:18 PM
As an adopted person, are you my mother should be part of a series: are you my father? Are you my grandmother? Are you my grandfather? Are you my aunt, my uncle, my cousin? Are you my sister, or my brother? Àn entire extended family of loss ànd confusion. #adoption #adopted #grief #familyloss
Thé Goodreads description of one of the most painful children’s books I can imagine, if you are a child subjected to early maternal loss.
#adoption #adopted #adoptee #identity #family #truth #mother #motherloss #areyoumymother
#adoption #adopted #adoptee #identity #family #truth #mother #motherloss #areyoumymother
December 10, 2025 at 3:14 PM
Thé Goodreads description of one of the most painful children’s books I can imagine, if you are a child subjected to early maternal loss.
#adoption #adopted #adoptee #identity #family #truth #mother #motherloss #areyoumymother
#adoption #adopted #adoptee #identity #family #truth #mother #motherloss #areyoumymother
Another day of procrastination: was all set up only to discover the printer needs ink. The spouse was out of hot sauce. The car needs gas. Training must be done. Library book sale! Are the fish hungry? Squirrels! #research #writing #notwriting
December 9, 2025 at 10:30 PM
Another day of procrastination: was all set up only to discover the printer needs ink. The spouse was out of hot sauce. The car needs gas. Training must be done. Library book sale! Are the fish hungry? Squirrels! #research #writing #notwriting