Ande Stanley
@theadoptionfiles.bsky.social
Adoptee rights advocate. lDA ICA baby scoop era. Host of The Adoption Files podcast. Seeking to amplify the voices of those impacted by family severance.
Adopted ppl know that a lack of medical history leaves us with little to no idea if certain cancers run in our families. Consider sharing with the podcasts hosts àbout your on experiences with cancer, and how the lack of information has impacted your life. #cancer #adoption #medicalhistory #adopted
Hi everyone! We are putting together a mini-series on cancer, from the history to the biology to the concept of cancer as a disease. We are looking for people willing to share your experience with cancer - whatever that may mean to you.
December 11, 2025 at 7:39 PM
Adopted ppl know that a lack of medical history leaves us with little to no idea if certain cancers run in our families. Consider sharing with the podcasts hosts àbout your on experiences with cancer, and how the lack of information has impacted your life. #cancer #adoption #medicalhistory #adopted
Pollution that kills is why regulations are so important. #coal #pollution #publichealth #greed #regulation #stopderegulation . www.audible.com/pd/B0FMXYBCR...
Ep 185 The Great Smog of London: “Thick, drab, yellow, disgusting”
Check out this great listen on Audible.com. Some things just go together: peanut butter and jelly, bacon and eggs, milk and cereal, London and smog. Or at least, that’s the way things used to be until...
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December 11, 2025 at 7:25 PM
Pollution that kills is why regulations are so important. #coal #pollution #publichealth #greed #regulation #stopderegulation . www.audible.com/pd/B0FMXYBCR...
Misogyny is a hallmark of
The adoption industry. #adoption #adopted #misogyny #humanrights #chosren #family #adopteerights #commodifocation
The adoption industry. #adoption #adopted #misogyny #humanrights #chosren #family #adopteerights #commodifocation
December 11, 2025 at 5:01 AM
Misogyny is a hallmark of
The adoption industry. #adoption #adopted #misogyny #humanrights #chosren #family #adopteerights #commodifocation
The adoption industry. #adoption #adopted #misogyny #humanrights #chosren #family #adopteerights #commodifocation
Gender politics ànd the practice of plenary adoption are firmly entwined. #adoption #adopted #commodification #transphobia #misogyny #sexism
December 11, 2025 at 4:33 AM
Gender politics ànd the practice of plenary adoption are firmly entwined. #adoption #adopted #commodification #transphobia #misogyny #sexism
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In the US, the fertility industry is almost entirely self-regulating. Republicans have voted against protections for years ànd years. There are no real safeguards when purchasing genetic materials from fertility clinics.
In the US, the fertility industry is almost entirely self-regulating. Republicans have voted against protections for years ànd years. There are no real safeguards when purchasing genetic materials from fertility clinics.
Sperm from donor with cancer-causing gene was used to conceive almost 200 children
Some children have already died and only a minority who inherit the mutation will escape cancer in their lifetimes.
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December 10, 2025 at 3:36 PM
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In the US, the fertility industry is almost entirely self-regulating. Republicans have voted against protections for years ànd years. There are no real safeguards when purchasing genetic materials from fertility clinics.
In the US, the fertility industry is almost entirely self-regulating. Republicans have voted against protections for years ànd years. There are no real safeguards when purchasing genetic materials from fertility clinics.
As an adopted person, are you my mother should be part of a series: are you my father? Are you my grandmother? Are you my grandfather? Are you my aunt, my uncle, my cousin? Are you my sister, or my brother? Àn entire extended family of loss ànd confusion. #adoption #adopted #grief #familyloss
December 10, 2025 at 3:18 PM
As an adopted person, are you my mother should be part of a series: are you my father? Are you my grandmother? Are you my grandfather? Are you my aunt, my uncle, my cousin? Are you my sister, or my brother? Àn entire extended family of loss ànd confusion. #adoption #adopted #grief #familyloss
Thé Goodreads description of one of the most painful children’s books I can imagine, if you are a child subjected to early maternal loss.
#adoption #adopted #adoptee #identity #family #truth #mother #motherloss #areyoumymother
#adoption #adopted #adoptee #identity #family #truth #mother #motherloss #areyoumymother
December 10, 2025 at 3:14 PM
Thé Goodreads description of one of the most painful children’s books I can imagine, if you are a child subjected to early maternal loss.
#adoption #adopted #adoptee #identity #family #truth #mother #motherloss #areyoumymother
#adoption #adopted #adoptee #identity #family #truth #mother #motherloss #areyoumymother
Another day of procrastination: was all set up only to discover the printer needs ink. The spouse was out of hot sauce. The car needs gas. Training must be done. Library book sale! Are the fish hungry? Squirrels! #research #writing #notwriting
December 9, 2025 at 10:30 PM
Another day of procrastination: was all set up only to discover the printer needs ink. The spouse was out of hot sauce. The car needs gas. Training must be done. Library book sale! Are the fish hungry? Squirrels! #research #writing #notwriting
In helping a friend make an earworm end, I gave myself one: Rebel Yell by Billy Idol 🩷
December 9, 2025 at 5:53 PM
In helping a friend make an earworm end, I gave myself one: Rebel Yell by Billy Idol 🩷
I saw this somewhere and it’s been stuck in my head like àn earworm: MAGA mindset: when men were men and women were property. Except I think this group wants that to be when only white men were men, and everyone else was property
December 9, 2025 at 1:42 AM
I saw this somewhere and it’s been stuck in my head like àn earworm: MAGA mindset: when men were men and women were property. Except I think this group wants that to be when only white men were men, and everyone else was property
Me, talking to another vegetarian: you only feed your dog vegetarian food?
Them: Yes! It’s so much healthier! The vet says no, but I’ve done my research!
Me: but, it’s a dog. Ànd the vet went to actual vet school….
Them: if it’s good for us, it’s good for our dogs!
Me: if we were also dogs…..
Them: Yes! It’s so much healthier! The vet says no, but I’ve done my research!
Me: but, it’s a dog. Ànd the vet went to actual vet school….
Them: if it’s good for us, it’s good for our dogs!
Me: if we were also dogs…..
December 9, 2025 at 1:34 AM
Me, talking to another vegetarian: you only feed your dog vegetarian food?
Them: Yes! It’s so much healthier! The vet says no, but I’ve done my research!
Me: but, it’s a dog. Ànd the vet went to actual vet school….
Them: if it’s good for us, it’s good for our dogs!
Me: if we were also dogs…..
Them: Yes! It’s so much healthier! The vet says no, but I’ve done my research!
Me: but, it’s a dog. Ànd the vet went to actual vet school….
Them: if it’s good for us, it’s good for our dogs!
Me: if we were also dogs…..
I thought àbt starting à social media acct for my pet hedgehog but I don’t own a hedgehog ànd would never violate my imaginary pets privacy anyway. Now, let me monetize the images and story of this living, breathing kid I picked up from fostercare. #adoption #adopted #fostercare #exploitation
December 9, 2025 at 1:28 AM
I thought àbt starting à social media acct for my pet hedgehog but I don’t own a hedgehog ànd would never violate my imaginary pets privacy anyway. Now, let me monetize the images and story of this living, breathing kid I picked up from fostercare. #adoption #adopted #fostercare #exploitation
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plenary #adoption, the total legal severance of a child from their entire family and the sealing and “amending” of their vital records—will not “always be needed” because it did not even exist barely more than a century ago. the claim that it will “always be needed” is historically illiterate.
Adoptees who are critical of the system have helped improve the process, over the decades. On social media, nuance tends to get drowned out, but I hear them. No matter what, no matter how bitter some of them are here, adoption will always be needed, and improvement will also be needed, too.
December 8, 2025 at 9:58 PM
plenary #adoption, the total legal severance of a child from their entire family and the sealing and “amending” of their vital records—will not “always be needed” because it did not even exist barely more than a century ago. the claim that it will “always be needed” is historically illiterate.
Kids being fostered to adopt/Forever Family narrative/ infertility- cannot tell you how many times kids are returned to the system as soon as caregivers discover they are pregnant. Common justification: we don’t want to do that to our real child. #fostercare #adoption #foreverfamily #commodification
December 8, 2025 at 5:21 PM
Kids being fostered to adopt/Forever Family narrative/ infertility- cannot tell you how many times kids are returned to the system as soon as caregivers discover they are pregnant. Common justification: we don’t want to do that to our real child. #fostercare #adoption #foreverfamily #commodification
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you will never understand what could be wrong with #adoption until you can see what is obvious: adoption is about power. it is about an extreme kind of power that most of you will never be subjected to: the power to decide which families get to exist: who gets to be a mother/father/child of whom.
December 8, 2025 at 2:58 PM
you will never understand what could be wrong with #adoption until you can see what is obvious: adoption is about power. it is about an extreme kind of power that most of you will never be subjected to: the power to decide which families get to exist: who gets to be a mother/father/child of whom.
I have been a fan of French films for a very long time. Maybe that’s why, when I picture a true depiction of what being adopted is like, my brain sees a black & white, mostly silent film of pol in daily life, scanning the face of every person who they encounter, wondering…maybe… #adoption #adopted
December 8, 2025 at 3:24 PM
I completed a marathon where the organizers wanted disabled ppl to make themselves visible by drawing a big X on our race bibs. Just think on that one for a second. I’d have rather had a big sticker that said DISABLED than to cross myself off. #disability #visibility #ableism
December 8, 2025 at 2:35 AM
I completed a marathon where the organizers wanted disabled ppl to make themselves visible by drawing a big X on our race bibs. Just think on that one for a second. I’d have rather had a big sticker that said DISABLED than to cross myself off. #disability #visibility #ableism
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please consider liking and pinning the #Adoptees of Bluesky feed. you’ll learn a lot from people telling it straight.
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December 7, 2025 at 12:42 PM
please consider liking and pinning the #Adoptees of Bluesky feed. you’ll learn a lot from people telling it straight.
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Reading a book about Castles and remembering how often I daydreamed àbt my real parents coming to rescue me- and take me home to their castle. Disney ànd adoption have a lot to answer for. #adopted #adoption #adoptee #ghostfamily
December 8, 2025 at 2:13 AM
Reading a book about Castles and remembering how often I daydreamed àbt my real parents coming to rescue me- and take me home to their castle. Disney ànd adoption have a lot to answer for. #adopted #adoption #adoptee #ghostfamily
Compression socks are my friends! I will repeat this over and over, between swear words. Once they are on, it’s great! But getting there? 😂 today was my last long indoor training day. After today, rain or shine, I head outdoors. Eight hours on a treadmill is boring.
December 7, 2025 at 11:52 PM
Compression socks are my friends! I will repeat this over and over, between swear words. Once they are on, it’s great! But getting there? 😂 today was my last long indoor training day. After today, rain or shine, I head outdoors. Eight hours on a treadmill is boring.
Duolingo Lily is an example of how AI can be intrusive, repetitive ànd obnoxious. If she asks me one more time ou est-ce que tu préfères a dessiner based on that one time I said I like to draw…..
December 7, 2025 at 11:37 PM
Duolingo Lily is an example of how AI can be intrusive, repetitive ànd obnoxious. If she asks me one more time ou est-ce que tu préfères a dessiner based on that one time I said I like to draw…..
“Subordinated people often develop skill at understanding the dominant culture. For some it is a survival skill, while elites are often ignorant of the cultures of the disadvantaged” Linda Gordon, Seven Social Movements that Changed America #justice #marginalized #equality #knowledge
December 7, 2025 at 9:03 PM
“Subordinated people often develop skill at understanding the dominant culture. For some it is a survival skill, while elites are often ignorant of the cultures of the disadvantaged” Linda Gordon, Seven Social Movements that Changed America #justice #marginalized #equality #knowledge