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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy

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UK counsellor with ADHD, autism, physical & invisible disabilities. Member of the LGBTQIA+ community.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Jul 25

Introductory offer available right now for anyone looking to get competent, qualified #counselling support to help with whatever you're dealing with. UK residents only. The initial 30-minute phone assessment is free. #therapy

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 18h

If you have ❤️ and care for someone in mental distress with bad thoughts, like they're not worth anything or hate who they are, share this picture with them as a gentle way of introducing a different perspective.

#selfimage #love #support #kindness #compassion

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 2d

Men with #ADHD are thought to be about 2.5 times more likely to experience intimate-partner-violence (#IPV) than men without ADHD. #neurodivergence #counselling #therapy

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higher risk of intimate-partner-violence (IPV) among men with ADHD – xander @ xph therapy

Men with ADHD are thought to be about 2.5 times more likely to experience intimate-partner-violence (IPV) than men without ADHD.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 2d

Glass slippers: a reflection on relationships. #counselling #therapy

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glass slippers: a reflection on relationships – xander @ xph therapy

All relationships teach us. They promote learning as much as they provide love, companionship, and someone to go to IKEA with.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 10d

The mysterious ability of #intuition to assess people and situations seemingly without involving active thoughts and emotions can sometimes provide us with clarity in signalling something isn't right. #poetry #poems #counselling #therapy

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 15d

If you're on #Tiktok, please consider following me there for #therapy-related content, #cats, and personal content aimed at sharing things learned, insights, and happiness. Thank you. Have a kind day! #counselling #mentalhealth #ukcounselling

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 15d

When we are stretched too thin by life's demands, it can feel as if everything is dissatisfying, difficult, and upsetting. #Therapy can help us get more out of living and find joy. If you're in the #UK looking for a #counsellor, do please consider getting in touch - link on my profile page.

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 16d

This callous woman is absolutely deaf to sense and justice, yet in charge of the nation's finances. Yesterday, she said the broadest shoulders must contribute the most. I had no idea in her mind people with disabilities are top of the money-to-spare tree.

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Chancellor says she ‘can’t leave welfare untouched’ this parliament as budget looms

Rachel Reeves understood to be eyeing cuts to Motability scheme as she tries to plug hole in country’s finances

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Sep 17

In #counselling, we may explore parts of ourselves we believe to be #broken. Yet it is in those very cracks that #love & #compassion can enter. #Healing does not mean erasing #grief or #longing. Even in brokenness, you are worthy of being seen, heard, & supported.

#therapy #BrokenButHealing

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Sep 15

Without taking risks, there are times when the story can’t move forward - it stays stuck on the same page. Why are you still with him when you don't love him? Why do you stay in a job that is impacting on your health?

#counselling #therapy #risktaking #opportunities #love #career

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Sep 13

Goodnight my sweet Billy. 2007-2025. 18 years old. Devastated. #cats

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Sep 6

There are no #stoma-friendly #accessible toilets at public venues in my home region of #Craven, North Yorkshire. The nearest are at Xscape in Castleford, West Yorkshire, 29.6 miles away. There are 89 accessible toilets but they aren't fully accessible to stomamates.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Sep 3

When life feels overwhelming, people who truly love you will understand your need for #space. Your #counsellor will also get it, providing you with a #nonjudgmental #safespace where you can pause, breathe, and find your way back to yourself, rediscovering your strength at your own pace.

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 28

#Relationship #breakups can feel like devastation, but they also create the space for something new to grow. In #counselling, we explore the #grief, the #loss & the #rebuilding - at your pace, in your way.

Together in #therapy, we can help you make sense of the past & start shaping your future.

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 26

Our #happiness is not found in the selfish pursuit of it. It comes when we build #gratitude and #appreciation for others, and feel #joy when they're happy. It comes when we see #beauty in moments, reflect on what we have that is good, and don't dwell on what we don't have. #therapy #counselling

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 21

I ❤️ my #ADHD fizz. It's when I'm high energy, not hyperfocused; feeling alive & thrilled. It's often initiated by small things I've noticed.

There are obstructive & frustrating #challenges each day. It can be hard to hold what & who we are. That fizz, though... 😀 #neurodivergent #counselling

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 20

The destructive #behaviour of a #malicious #gossip is an inappropriate and ineffective response to unaddressed #trauma, where they experienced people and situations as #abusive or #painful in other ways. #Healing is possible. #therapy #counselling

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 13

Adults, through a supported & safe #therapeutic journey of #self-discovery, may find their difficulties originate in the way their minds & bodies responded to #neglect experienced in #childhood.

Although you didn't get love & care as a child, it doesn't mean you're unworthy of it.

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 12

Observing without comment allows you to get the fullest picture. Should the time come when your opinion is asked for, you can be reasonably certain you're basing what you say on a carefully considered assessment, and your words might be useful to the person who asks for them. #counselling #therapy

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 12

Adopting a position on something in ignorance, quickly, can cause harm to others and yourself. You can appear naive or even malicious, judgemental and unwise. It is very easy to do this. You don't need anyone else to tell you how it can make you feel foolish. #counselling #therapy

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 4

Feelings of unresolved guilt or shame over past actions can result in us getting angry and behaving badly as a way to cope. #anger #counselling #therapy #guilt

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acting up and getting angry when we can’t forgive ourselves – xander @ xph therapy

Feelings of unresolved guilt or shame over past actions can result in us getting angry and behaving badly as a way to cope.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 4

We gain, grow, and ultimately become the person others turn to for #friendship and #love by holding strong to values that build and reinforce #confidence in our own selves and the decisions we make. #counselling #therapy #trust #love #safespace

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 3

#Discardment refers to the abrupt & cruel termination of a #relationship by one partner, leaving the other feeling abandoned & discarded like trash, causing significant #emotional and #psychological #distress. #counselling #therapy

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how to survive being discarded like rubbish – xander @ xph therapy

Discardment, in the context of intimate relationships, is a form of emotional and psychological abuse.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 2

Children who get unconditional love from parents don't usually recognise it or know it's rare. They may come to appreciate how precious it is later in their lives when those who gave it to them are nearing or have reached the end of their journeys.
#counselling #therapy #unconditionallove

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Aug 1

When we quit masking the unpleasant tastes and odours of other people's bad behaviours and overcooked lies, we wake up to an awareness that the end of the meal for two or more is approaching.

#relationships #metaphors #freedom #emotionalindigestion #relationshipreflux

χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · Jul 31

When you're focused on helping someone unwilling to help themself, it is emotionally and psychologically draining. It leads to burnout, frustration, and a sense of failure.

#counselling #therapy #helping #burnout #carers