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Xander, a UK counsellor. Phone, text, or WhatsApp on 07417 587447 (Mon-Fri, 9.30am-5pm), Bluesky (xphtherapy), Telegram (xph_therapy), Signal (xphtherapy.67) & xphtherapy.com. All welcome. Neuro-affirmative. Gender-affirming. LGBTQIA+ & sex-positive.
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Xander Hinkinson
Integrative counselling focused on what you need - drawing from CBT, psychotherapeutic and person-centred approaches to help you explore, cope and move toward your goals. We’ll shape support together,...
www.counselling-directory.org.uk
I've updated my Counselling Directory profile. Needed a refresh. If you're thinking of finding a #UK #counsellor, please take a look and get in touch if you'd like a free initial assessment by voice or video call. #therapy #therapist #counselling
www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/...
www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/...
Do you have a Christmas you'll always
remember as kind of #therapeutic,
because you had an experience or gained an understanding that changed your thinking or life for the better? #counselling #therapy
remember as kind of #therapeutic,
because you had an experience or gained an understanding that changed your thinking or life for the better? #counselling #therapy
December 19, 2025 at 4:55 AM
Do you have a Christmas you'll always
remember as kind of #therapeutic,
because you had an experience or gained an understanding that changed your thinking or life for the better? #counselling #therapy
remember as kind of #therapeutic,
because you had an experience or gained an understanding that changed your thinking or life for the better? #counselling #therapy
3/3: Here's truth: you do not ever need to accept where you are, be it a physical environment, an emotional state of being, or in some way on the outside looking in. Change your life. A counsellor can help you find your ways forward.
#changeyourlife #counselling #therapy
#changeyourlife #counselling #therapy
December 13, 2025 at 4:12 PM
3/3: Here's truth: you do not ever need to accept where you are, be it a physical environment, an emotional state of being, or in some way on the outside looking in. Change your life. A counsellor can help you find your ways forward.
#changeyourlife #counselling #therapy
#changeyourlife #counselling #therapy
2/3: Yes, your choices create the conditions you later have to live with - but the proverb collapses so much into a single moment of blame. It implies inevitability; permanence; stagnation. It's almost a curse, definitely a dismissal.
However...
#changeyourlife #counselling #therapy
However...
#changeyourlife #counselling #therapy
December 13, 2025 at 4:11 PM
2/3: Yes, your choices create the conditions you later have to live with - but the proverb collapses so much into a single moment of blame. It implies inevitability; permanence; stagnation. It's almost a curse, definitely a dismissal.
However...
#changeyourlife #counselling #therapy
However...
#changeyourlife #counselling #therapy
1/3: "They've made their bed, they can lie in it." It's a very old saying - goes back to at least the 16th century, with its earliest clear appearance in English around 1546, in John Heywood’s A Dialogue of Proverbs. And it's wrong, in part. #changeyourlife #counselling #therapy
December 13, 2025 at 4:09 PM
1/3: "They've made their bed, they can lie in it." It's a very old saying - goes back to at least the 16th century, with its earliest clear appearance in English around 1546, in John Heywood’s A Dialogue of Proverbs. And it's wrong, in part. #changeyourlife #counselling #therapy
Just a heads-up that, while I can be reached for booking an initial free 30-minute #counselling assessment Monday to Friday, 9.30am-5pm, I do offer evenings and Saturday mornings when I've got availability - so please ask if those are what you're looking for. UK clients only. #therapy
December 1, 2025 at 9:09 PM
Just a heads-up that, while I can be reached for booking an initial free 30-minute #counselling assessment Monday to Friday, 9.30am-5pm, I do offer evenings and Saturday mornings when I've got availability - so please ask if those are what you're looking for. UK clients only. #therapy
Five reasons your ex is still checking your social media. #relationships
November 28, 2025 at 4:03 AM
Five reasons your ex is still checking your social media. #relationships
I've updated my Counselling Directory profile. Needed a refresh. If you're thinking of finding a #UK #counsellor, please take a look and get in touch if you'd like a free initial assessment by voice or video call. #therapy #therapist #counselling
www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/...
www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/...
Xander Hinkinson
Integrative counselling focused on what you need - drawing from CBT, psychotherapeutic and person-centred approaches to help you explore, cope and move toward your goals. We’ll shape support together,...
www.counselling-directory.org.uk
November 27, 2025 at 12:06 PM
I've updated my Counselling Directory profile. Needed a refresh. If you're thinking of finding a #UK #counsellor, please take a look and get in touch if you'd like a free initial assessment by voice or video call. #therapy #therapist #counselling
www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/...
www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/...
Samaritans is a charity offering 24/7 confidential emotional support for anyone distressed, struggling to cope, or having thoughts of harming themselves. They listen, don’t judge, don’t give advice or tell you what to do. Their free UK helpline number is 116 123. #counselling #therapy #reflections
November 25, 2025 at 10:31 AM
Samaritans is a charity offering 24/7 confidential emotional support for anyone distressed, struggling to cope, or having thoughts of harming themselves. They listen, don’t judge, don’t give advice or tell you what to do. Their free UK helpline number is 116 123. #counselling #therapy #reflections
#Humour can show up in #therapy - sometimes from clients, sometimes (carefully, respectfully) from me. It’s never about making light of someone’s pain, and it’s not something that fits every moment or person. But it can loosen tension and help to open up space for honesty. That can be #therapeutic.
November 25, 2025 at 10:20 AM
#Humour can show up in #therapy - sometimes from clients, sometimes (carefully, respectfully) from me. It’s never about making light of someone’s pain, and it’s not something that fits every moment or person. But it can loosen tension and help to open up space for honesty. That can be #therapeutic.
A no filler guide to #attachmentstyles. Do any of them sound like you? There's no bad to gaining better understanding of ourselves and if there are any issues in life around your #attachment style, a #counsellor can help as these styles are not forever fixed. #counselling #therapy
November 25, 2025 at 10:04 AM
A no filler guide to #attachmentstyles. Do any of them sound like you? There's no bad to gaining better understanding of ourselves and if there are any issues in life around your #attachment style, a #counsellor can help as these styles are not forever fixed. #counselling #therapy
#Boundaries shouldn't be difficult to understand and actually, they aren't. It can be hard to keep yours maintained but it's important that you do if you're not comfortable. #counselling #therapy
November 25, 2025 at 9:55 AM
#Boundaries shouldn't be difficult to understand and actually, they aren't. It can be hard to keep yours maintained but it's important that you do if you're not comfortable. #counselling #therapy
November 25, 2025 at 9:52 AM
I wish people would stop calling Keir Starmer Keir Stoma. My #stoma is useful. It saved my life and freed me from pain and suffering. I'm better off physically, emotionally, and psychologically with a stoma. The joke doesn't land. You might even say it's crap.
November 5, 2025 at 2:27 AM
I wish people would stop calling Keir Starmer Keir Stoma. My #stoma is useful. It saved my life and freed me from pain and suffering. I'm better off physically, emotionally, and psychologically with a stoma. The joke doesn't land. You might even say it's crap.
If you have ❤️ and care for someone in mental distress with bad thoughts, like they're not worth anything or hate who they are, share this picture with them as a gentle way of introducing a different perspective.
#selfimage #love #support #kindness #compassion
#selfimage #love #support #kindness #compassion
November 4, 2025 at 12:15 AM
If you have ❤️ and care for someone in mental distress with bad thoughts, like they're not worth anything or hate who they are, share this picture with them as a gentle way of introducing a different perspective.
#selfimage #love #support #kindness #compassion
#selfimage #love #support #kindness #compassion
Men with #ADHD are thought to be about 2.5 times more likely to experience intimate-partner-violence (#IPV) than men without ADHD. #neurodivergence #counselling #therapy
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higher risk of intimate-partner-violence (IPV) among men with ADHD – xander @ xph therapy
Men with ADHD are thought to be about 2.5 times more likely to experience intimate-partner-violence (IPV) than men without ADHD.
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November 2, 2025 at 5:15 PM
Men with #ADHD are thought to be about 2.5 times more likely to experience intimate-partner-violence (#IPV) than men without ADHD. #neurodivergence #counselling #therapy
xphtherapy.com/higher-risk-...
xphtherapy.com/higher-risk-...
The mysterious ability of #intuition to assess people and situations seemingly without involving active thoughts and emotions can sometimes provide us with clarity in signalling something isn't right. #poetry #poems #counselling #therapy
October 25, 2025 at 7:35 AM
The mysterious ability of #intuition to assess people and situations seemingly without involving active thoughts and emotions can sometimes provide us with clarity in signalling something isn't right. #poetry #poems #counselling #therapy
If you're on #Tiktok, please consider following me there for #therapy-related content, #cats, and personal content aimed at sharing things learned, insights, and happiness. Thank you. Have a kind day! #counselling #mentalhealth #ukcounselling
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October 20, 2025 at 8:48 AM
If you're on #Tiktok, please consider following me there for #therapy-related content, #cats, and personal content aimed at sharing things learned, insights, and happiness. Thank you. Have a kind day! #counselling #mentalhealth #ukcounselling
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When we are stretched too thin by life's demands, it can feel as if everything is dissatisfying, difficult, and upsetting. #Therapy can help us get more out of living and find joy. If you're in the #UK looking for a #counsellor, do please consider getting in touch - link on my profile page.
October 20, 2025 at 8:17 AM
When we are stretched too thin by life's demands, it can feel as if everything is dissatisfying, difficult, and upsetting. #Therapy can help us get more out of living and find joy. If you're in the #UK looking for a #counsellor, do please consider getting in touch - link on my profile page.
This callous woman is absolutely deaf to sense and justice, yet in charge of the nation's finances. Yesterday, she said the broadest shoulders must contribute the most. I had no idea in her mind people with disabilities are top of the money-to-spare tree.
www.theguardian.com/politics/202...
www.theguardian.com/politics/202...
Chancellor says she ‘can’t leave welfare untouched’ this parliament as budget looms
Rachel Reeves understood to be eyeing cuts to Motability scheme as she tries to plug hole in country’s finances
www.theguardian.com
October 18, 2025 at 8:59 PM
This callous woman is absolutely deaf to sense and justice, yet in charge of the nation's finances. Yesterday, she said the broadest shoulders must contribute the most. I had no idea in her mind people with disabilities are top of the money-to-spare tree.
www.theguardian.com/politics/202...
www.theguardian.com/politics/202...
In #counselling, we may explore parts of ourselves we believe to be #broken. Yet it is in those very cracks that #love & #compassion can enter. #Healing does not mean erasing #grief or #longing. Even in brokenness, you are worthy of being seen, heard, & supported.
#therapy #BrokenButHealing
#therapy #BrokenButHealing
September 17, 2025 at 12:20 AM
In #counselling, we may explore parts of ourselves we believe to be #broken. Yet it is in those very cracks that #love & #compassion can enter. #Healing does not mean erasing #grief or #longing. Even in brokenness, you are worthy of being seen, heard, & supported.
#therapy #BrokenButHealing
#therapy #BrokenButHealing
Without taking risks, there are times when the story can’t move forward - it stays stuck on the same page. Why are you still with him when you don't love him? Why do you stay in a job that is impacting on your health?
#counselling #therapy #risktaking #opportunities #love #career
#counselling #therapy #risktaking #opportunities #love #career
September 15, 2025 at 5:22 AM
Without taking risks, there are times when the story can’t move forward - it stays stuck on the same page. Why are you still with him when you don't love him? Why do you stay in a job that is impacting on your health?
#counselling #therapy #risktaking #opportunities #love #career
#counselling #therapy #risktaking #opportunities #love #career
There are no #stoma-friendly #accessible toilets at public venues in my home region of #Craven, North Yorkshire. The nearest are at Xscape in Castleford, West Yorkshire, 29.6 miles away. There are 89 accessible toilets but they aren't fully accessible to stomamates.
www.accessable.co.uk
www.accessable.co.uk
Home | AccessAble
Access Guides with accessible information for disabled people, carers, wheelchair users. Includes restaurants, airports, hotels, hospitals, toilets and more
www.accessable.co.uk
September 6, 2025 at 4:04 PM
There are no #stoma-friendly #accessible toilets at public venues in my home region of #Craven, North Yorkshire. The nearest are at Xscape in Castleford, West Yorkshire, 29.6 miles away. There are 89 accessible toilets but they aren't fully accessible to stomamates.
www.accessable.co.uk
www.accessable.co.uk
When life feels overwhelming, people who truly love you will understand your need for #space. Your #counsellor will also get it, providing you with a #nonjudgmental #safespace where you can pause, breathe, and find your way back to yourself, rediscovering your strength at your own pace.
September 3, 2025 at 5:10 PM
When life feels overwhelming, people who truly love you will understand your need for #space. Your #counsellor will also get it, providing you with a #nonjudgmental #safespace where you can pause, breathe, and find your way back to yourself, rediscovering your strength at your own pace.