Both new builds, same development (wasn’t even the same street their back garden could see our back garden), we’d all basically signed the same thing for the purchase at around the same time, or they assumed we had.

Most uniquely British forms of idiocy can be distilled down to this anecdote in some way.

When I bought my first house in the uk, week 2 we had neighbours arrive, not to say hello, but with a contract in hand to tell me I could not do something (install a satellite dish). They weren't enforcing it, the contract was. They wanted to tell me what to do, but pretend it wasn't them.

The UK's obsession with this topic is batshit and I'm down to lean pickings on UK media that are still grown up enough not to be swept into it. If you'd told teenage me I'd be reading the FT as the one of the few sane options left... yeah.

Appreciate this is a tangent but I tried so hard to get that mushroom print on her outfit when it was in stock and weirdly I’m ok that maybe it all went to her now.

Beige pink being in fashion in interior design has broken it all. Is it a Little Butt? or is it farrow and butt?

Notably, we're at the "rich white people" tend to know they're ND before others, are more likely to get support. Plus that awful concept of being "ranked" based on your ability to "act normal" needs to go too, and it wont go unless we lose that term, or the systemic concepts that make it problematic

It probably *does* need to go though, mainly due to the "not like other girls" risks it has. I do understand it is a disability, I also understand it is a byproduct of me and my environment too. I also understand we shouldn't ignore others. I don't want my gains to be at the cost of others.

But I do want to share just why it was so sticky in the community.

It pushed back to say “stop trying to fix us. We need help, we aren’t fundamentally broken”

And not being able to handle us? That’s now your failing, not ours. We are just a little “spicy”.

I don’t want to downplay the issues people continue to have. I also don’t want to be ashamed of the fact that I need adjustments to live a good life.

I’m not even gonna crack that gender nut on this topic. Brother was dx early, it’s only brought him misery. Me, later, it’s mainly helped to know.

But also there might be an underlying “I’m not disabled” or “I’m proud of who I am”.

The latter is great, the former has issues. It’s also more nuanced than I can convey in a skeet thread. Rich people find it easier to be ND. white people are more assumed to be ND, others get put in prison, etc

When someone uses the term, they’re asking:
- not to be seen as “less than”
- to be taken seriously and not an illness to be “cured”
- but that they still should get the medical care they need
- to be understood that they aren’t ashamed of who they are
- to be seen as human with a sense of humour

It’s already dated and looks odd because it was meant to be a light hearted in-community term.

Neurospicy however remains because the underlying societal assumption that disabled humans are somehow “less than” a human still exists.

It’s basically “I’m not like other girls” all over again.