I’m going to be sharing reflections like this as I work toward publishing a longer piece.

If you’ve ever stayed because you believed kindness and consistency would be enough, you’re not alone.

I’m learning how to do this differently—and you’re welcome to walk alongside me.

I’m trying to get better at recognizing the difference between:

• hope and evidence
• patience and self-betrayal
• empathy and overextension

And learning that clarity, when it’s missing, is still an answer.

One of the hardest lessons has been this:

Someone can care about you, enjoy you, even lean on you—
and still not have the capacity to choose you in the way you need.

That doesn’t make them evil.

But it does matter.

I showed up consistently.

I was patient.

I believed effort, care, and time would eventually turn into being chosen.

What I’m learning now is that showing up without being chosen slowly teaches you to abandon yourself.

#SelfWorth #LoveYourself #ChooseYou #SelfLoveJourney #KnowYourValue #Worthy #Empowerment #SelfCare #MentalHealthMatters #YouAreEnough

Sometimes I wish I could say that about women, but unfortunately I’m unbelievably interested in finding the right woman.

You don’t deserve to be treated that way. There are times where ghosting might be acceptable, but it’s very rare. We can and should be better for each other.

I couldn’t react worse to ghosting. I try to be honest and kind and respectful with people. So it really hurts when I can’t even get a simple text just saying you’re not interested.

Here’s the thing, you’re probably not ghosting if you talked to someone in that way. And that’s a HUGE thing.