I care. Thats not prince and it has tricked me twice.

That is a commitment of a rewatch. I commend you

So the carneighgie spelling is how Carnegie is pronounced in Pittsburgh where Andrew Carnegie is from!

As others have pointed out, the idea that we can control their behavior by modeling respectability (cooperating with the compulsory grief around Kirk, for example, and not saying truthful/angry things about him) is akin to an abused person's belief that they can control the abuse by being perfect.