Yesss that would be fun definitely will 🥰🥰

Tl;dr

Someone's kindness and concern made me more empathetic than someone's cruelty toward me. Kindness made me want to heal and do better, not the abuse or trauma I endured.

They weren't trying to be buzzkills...they were genuinely concerned

Something I wasn't used to...and it made me reflect a lot

Yeah anyway maybe work on not causing people unnecessary trauma y'all...it sucks. Some people are monsters but some of us really need to sharpen our empathy, me included.

The first time I realized this

Me: *tells a traumatic story as a joke, a thing that other traumatized people have had belly laughs over*

*non-traumitized person* Um that's kind of horrible are you ok? Why did that person do that?

Me: *regularly uses comedy as a coping mechanism* ohh...hm...

B/c being traumatized doesn't make you less likely to traumatize someone else...in fact it's MORE likely you will repeat the cycle

I have learned to break some of these things from people who have never come across cruelty as I have but will call it tf out when they see it...im grateful 🥹

Now this is NOT every person. But I have met some people who have not at all addressed healing themselves in a meaningful manner and those people are dangerous for me to be around...

A lot of people who haven't been through shit but have seen me struggle always pipe up to help first I've noticed

I meet a lot of people who don't get why I am the way I am.

I also meet people and go "So you haven't had severe traumatic experiences?"

Those people are surprisingly the nicest and have the most empathy, they've been the ones to teach me that the way I was treated wasn't ok and to ask for help.

Also "ew...anime? Sorry that art style is absolutely terrible stop doing it you won't get a professional job that way"

I was in them trenches mannnn

I grew up in the "digital is cheating" and "we tear you to shreds b/c it's the only way you will improve and represents how things REALLY are in the world" pipeline...jeez

Ignore that and refuse to learn and grow from it at your own detriment. Not mine.

Cause brother it aint “passed” for generations. Its just gotten worse and will continue to do so until whiteness finally stands up takes itself out of the equation. Our president isnt the cause. Hes just the best most concentrated representation of rot at the moment.

The rot is all around you