the thing that differs your experience with the system you think you know from reality is that when you're working a job you dont get to choose when people see you, and if you're having a [insert alter here who can't function in a job setting] day, you dont get to choose to just. not go into work.

this is the "disorder" part of dissociative identity disorder. it is, for many people (us included) debilitating. i can hold down a job. many of the people living in my head cannot, and its unfair to make that demand of them.