And why do you even care?

You aren’t absorbing what I am saying.

I have no idea where you are getting that statistic.

Well, she isn’t here to tell us herself. I can say that plenty of people would tell you my adoption had a “good outcome.” It’s relative. It is never a good outcome to lose your biological identity.

The fact that he is arguing this way tells me things were probably not ok.

What part, exactly, do you play in an adoptive relationship?

I just said it. Legal guardianship. Or, ideally, extended biological family.

Does he know the difference between them?

They only see it that way because an adult told them that’s how it is.

Yes. There is such a thing as a legal guardianship.

It’s not a “position”, its a fact about how the system works.