I understand that I, by definition, signed up for this when getting married. And most nights I don't mind saying "yes".

But it would be nice to be able to say "no" on nights like tonight, when I'm not emotionally up for it and I know that saying "yes" is just gonna make that worse.

I've been off social media for a few days and have no idea what The Discourse is about.

I kind of want to though, because I enjoy popcorn.giffing when things are on fire.

Did you know that you can create an email that the recipient can't forward, print, screenshot, or copy-paste?

I've also been told that I'm not allowed to talk to anyone about the email's contents, because it contains "private information" (ie grievances against me, which aren't even true).

I'm not fired, but also, things keep escalating in ways that are both shady and baffling.

I tried going to HR, but it turns out that we don't really have in-person HR at the moment. Something about their cubicles being remodeled.

I have one from the previous release (in 2017-ish) and it was worth every penny. Zero regrets!

Absolute worst case scenario is that I get fired (either in retaliation or if my manager decides to spin the facts to make me look bad).

Who wants to place bets on whether I'll want to unalive myself at this time tomorrow? I'll set up a prediction market.

This has been going on for months/years and I'm at the end of my rope because he absolutely REFUSES to communicate in a direct way.

It was an entire decade ago. Because I was broke and living with my parents at the time

"A few years back" she says. You are doing the old person thing.

Also, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth that I'm not allowed to have certain haircuts, but he can do whatever he wants. He's straight up told me that my opinion will not be taken into account on his haircut and facial hair. If I don't like it, tough. Which seems like a double standard.

I'm fine with having sex even when I'm not in the mood, and my husband knows this. The problem here is that it goes beyond me not being in the mood.

"Actually, I'm sorry, but can we do this tomorrow?" will require an explanation that I don't know how to phrase without being too blunt/honest.

How though?

I have ways to ask for a raincheck if I'm not feeling well physically, but this whole "my brain has randomly decided that this feels like sexual assault (even though it isn't)" thing is new.

I'm usually a blunt person, but communicating that bluntly isn't gonna end well.

Posting this here instead of at the other site because
1. I don't want to attract the pornbots.
2. Finance checks that account sometimes, and I don't want him to feel bad.

I guess this falls under what the fic writers call "dubious consent", but I've never been taught how to handle those types of situations in real life.