Neli Sib
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Neli Sib
@nelisib.bsky.social
· Dec 2
Tears is the most expensive liquid in the world. As it is made up of 1% of water and 99% of feelings. So think twice before you hurt someone.
If I am wrong, educate me. Don't belittle me.
March 27, 2025 at 11:37 AM
If I am wrong, educate me. Don't belittle me.
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Disconnecting from people to reconnect with yourself until you feel like you again is top-tier self care.
March 24, 2025 at 3:50 PM
Disconnecting from people to reconnect with yourself until you feel like you again is top-tier self care.
If you lack emotional intelligence we will never work out. I’m not teaching you how to apologize, how to take accountability, or how to treat me with respect. These are basic qualities you should already possess before entering any type of relationship.
March 24, 2025 at 2:13 PM
If you lack emotional intelligence we will never work out. I’m not teaching you how to apologize, how to take accountability, or how to treat me with respect. These are basic qualities you should already possess before entering any type of relationship.
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Clergy sexual abuse is not an affair; pedophilia is not about struggling with difficult circumstances; molesting adolescents is not about a struggling marriage. Such things must be called by their right names—the abuser needs to be held responsible for their abusive behavior.
March 24, 2025 at 12:01 PM
Clergy sexual abuse is not an affair; pedophilia is not about struggling with difficult circumstances; molesting adolescents is not about a struggling marriage. Such things must be called by their right names—the abuser needs to be held responsible for their abusive behavior.
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We are not recovering from trauma or addiction to prove anything to anyone-- but sometimes remembering who we DON'T want to be like, the bullies & abusers who harmed us & others, can powerfully refine our focus & reinforce our motivation. Use it mindfully-- but experiment w/ it.
March 23, 2025 at 6:33 PM
We are not recovering from trauma or addiction to prove anything to anyone-- but sometimes remembering who we DON'T want to be like, the bullies & abusers who harmed us & others, can powerfully refine our focus & reinforce our motivation. Use it mindfully-- but experiment w/ it.
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When a person is traumatized, it's not only the trauma they're healing from, but the number of times they weren't believed. It's being exposed to people who defend their perpetrator. It's being shamed for not letting it go. It's healing from the worlds response to vulnerability.
March 23, 2025 at 6:24 PM
When a person is traumatized, it's not only the trauma they're healing from, but the number of times they weren't believed. It's being exposed to people who defend their perpetrator. It's being shamed for not letting it go. It's healing from the worlds response to vulnerability.
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You didn't know what you didn't know at the time, & you couldn't do what you couldn't do. True honesty w/ yourself is going to have to include grace for your past self-- as well as accountability for yourself now, to do better as you develop new tools & supports.
Easy does it.
Easy does it.
March 23, 2025 at 4:16 PM
You didn't know what you didn't know at the time, & you couldn't do what you couldn't do. True honesty w/ yourself is going to have to include grace for your past self-- as well as accountability for yourself now, to do better as you develop new tools & supports.
Easy does it.
Easy does it.
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You're entitled to your own opinions in your head. But if you choose to express them out loud, it's your responsibility to:
(1) Ground them in logic and facts
(2) Explain your reasoning to others
(3) Change them when better evidence emerges
(1) Ground them in logic and facts
(2) Explain your reasoning to others
(3) Change them when better evidence emerges
March 19, 2025 at 4:36 PM
You're entitled to your own opinions in your head. But if you choose to express them out loud, it's your responsibility to:
(1) Ground them in logic and facts
(2) Explain your reasoning to others
(3) Change them when better evidence emerges
(1) Ground them in logic and facts
(2) Explain your reasoning to others
(3) Change them when better evidence emerges
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We can be frustrated by how long a wound, either physical or emotional, is taking to heal-- while resisting the urge to pick at it in ways that will only prolong its healing.
It's not the wound's fault. It's doing its best to heal. We just need to support it w/ patience & care.
It's not the wound's fault. It's doing its best to heal. We just need to support it w/ patience & care.
March 20, 2025 at 2:02 PM
We can be frustrated by how long a wound, either physical or emotional, is taking to heal-- while resisting the urge to pick at it in ways that will only prolong its healing.
It's not the wound's fault. It's doing its best to heal. We just need to support it w/ patience & care.
It's not the wound's fault. It's doing its best to heal. We just need to support it w/ patience & care.
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Unhealed trauma makes you hold onto people longer than you should, and tolerate a lot of shit you don't deserve because you don't want to feel alone. Healing makes you realize some people don't deserve to be in your life — no matter how much you love them.
March 20, 2025 at 2:25 PM
Unhealed trauma makes you hold onto people longer than you should, and tolerate a lot of shit you don't deserve because you don't want to feel alone. Healing makes you realize some people don't deserve to be in your life — no matter how much you love them.
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We must never respond to one’s trauma story by reducing trauma to an experience you can simply get over with the push of a mental button.
February 6, 2025 at 3:01 PM
We must never respond to one’s trauma story by reducing trauma to an experience you can simply get over with the push of a mental button.
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You cannot tell me how I should respond to someone hurting me.
December 27, 2024 at 7:51 PM
You cannot tell me how I should respond to someone hurting me.
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It's true: we trauma survivors are often playing developmental "catch up" when it comes to learning & practicing emotional regulation. No shame. We identify the skill deficit & we work on it.
Grace over guilt, one day at a time-- this is how we realistically win.
Grace over guilt, one day at a time-- this is how we realistically win.
December 23, 2024 at 3:52 PM
It's true: we trauma survivors are often playing developmental "catch up" when it comes to learning & practicing emotional regulation. No shame. We identify the skill deficit & we work on it.
Grace over guilt, one day at a time-- this is how we realistically win.
Grace over guilt, one day at a time-- this is how we realistically win.
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Don’t ask her to trust you; earn it.
December 18, 2024 at 8:38 PM
Don’t ask her to trust you; earn it.
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When in doubt, rest. When you feel you haven’t been as productive as you feel you want or should be—that could be because you are too tired to be at your best. Rest.
December 15, 2024 at 9:43 PM
When in doubt, rest. When you feel you haven’t been as productive as you feel you want or should be—that could be because you are too tired to be at your best. Rest.
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Even though words are woefully inadequate to express the depth of damage from trauma, they must be spoken. To remain silent is to fail to honor the event and memory.
December 16, 2024 at 1:23 PM
Even though words are woefully inadequate to express the depth of damage from trauma, they must be spoken. To remain silent is to fail to honor the event and memory.
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Remember today that your playlists, your books, your comics, your movies, your poems, your historical figures, your fictional characters-- these are all trauma recovery tools that are as real & important as anything a trauma "expert" has to say. Use 'em. Use the hell out of 'em.
December 16, 2024 at 3:37 PM
Remember today that your playlists, your books, your comics, your movies, your poems, your historical figures, your fictional characters-- these are all trauma recovery tools that are as real & important as anything a trauma "expert" has to say. Use 'em. Use the hell out of 'em.
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When you are no longer friends with someone, respect the secrets they shared with you.
It's called integrity.
It's called integrity.
December 16, 2024 at 3:27 AM
When you are no longer friends with someone, respect the secrets they shared with you.
It's called integrity.
It's called integrity.
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One thing about me, I am SO ok with losing people that are ok with losing me. I love hard, but my detachment game is stronger.
December 16, 2024 at 3:44 PM
One thing about me, I am SO ok with losing people that are ok with losing me. I love hard, but my detachment game is stronger.
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A doctor’s letter to United Healthcare for denying nausea meds for a child on chemo
December 5, 2024 at 3:01 PM
A doctor’s letter to United Healthcare for denying nausea meds for a child on chemo
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It’s so hard for me to shake feelings of being disrespected like I can’t get over it
December 4, 2024 at 7:20 PM
It’s so hard for me to shake feelings of being disrespected like I can’t get over it