I have had basically the same hobbies and interests for 20 years that have cycled between being uncool to currently being fairly cool.

So I'm not one to judge.

P.S. Literally got sat at the Pokemon tournament players table at the last wedding I went to. (I'm not even into Pokemon!)

Eventually I realized that abusers can't get away with it so easily unless they have some women in their lives they pretend to respect.

I was used as a pawn so he could be oh look I'm best friends with this hardcore Feminist I can't be a bad guy, well he was a bad guy!

I stopped being friends with my ex bestie abuser 2 years ago.

I spent quite a bit of time going back over our interactions and realized ya he was a bit jealous & undermined my confidence. But that said he really was on his best behavior with me. This really had nothing to do with me though.

The emails have Summers reporting to Epstein about his attempts to date a Harvard economics student & to hit on her during a seminar she was giving.

As someone in my 30s, young people think I'm uncool and do cringe things (like wearing ankle socks & skinny jeans) and I'm ok with that.

It's weird when one cares that much what the youth think. It's a rite of passage for the youth to criticize the non young.

I've actually never been to Comic Con or Anime Expo originally.

When I was young and wanted to go I didn't have money to go. Now that I'm older I just don't care that much.

I never liked undressing in locker rooms because I value my privacy.

For same reason, me refusing to show my booty to strangers at raves means I like my privacy. I can assure you I think I'm hot shit. But patriarchy demands that women perform their sexuality publicly.

But it's the other side of the coin of hypersexualization that when women dress "modestly" whatever that means, we're assumed by patriarchal culture to be either unconfident or conservative.

I am neither.

The reason this has always been a tricky topic is once women wearing extremely revealing clothing hits a certain tipping point, it becomes the culture and puts pressure on other women to wear less clothing to fit in. But that's because of the patriarchy ultimately.

On the flip side though I remember the rave scene before women became hypersexualized.

Hypersexualization of women at raves started around 2010 when EDM went mainstream.

Before it was an escape from the pressures of being hypersexualized.

At least the DnB scene is pretty free from naked culture.

Not trying to sound judgmental.

I have literally never said anything negative to a girl out about how much skin she is showing.

And if wearing just a thong to the rave makes you feel better about your body, it's a free country still.

I'm on the unusual end of women of having very few hangups about my body since I became an adult.

I like my body and I am quite happy getting validation mainly from my lovers.

So ya I like to wear flattering clothes but I get little to nothing from the club seeing my ass.

See me being autistic I tended to assume the nearly naked ladies in thongs are naked at raves because they are extremely confident but sometimes it's the opposite.

When you are very secure in your body there is usually less extreme desire for validation.

I was completely shocked when I would be back in LA in the summer that there were dudes who were interested in me & took me on dates because the NT boys at my high school sure were not interested in me.

P.S. For whatever reason no guys from my high school class ever asked me for a slow dance and believe me I noticed that never happened for 4 years.

I had the good fortune of going to boarding school for high school so my classmates had to get to know me and spend time with me.

I would have felt even more odd and isolated had I gone to regular high school.

Dudes spending time with me and then crickets was definitely happening to me at an above average rate.

Once I realized I was autistic, this mystery finally began to make sense. They were attracted to me but they realized I was weird. I remember in high school describing myself as "weird".