also my sister owns a house, so her and my brother-in-law were busy clearing their own driveway + sidewalk + walkway

my brother and I are renters who just have to clear off our cars, so I’m betting we’ll have to have a plan in place to preempt getting guilt-tripped again

fucking hell

I don’t want to bring up “hire a snow-plowing service” because the company my dad works for is in dire straits

but it’s getting more ridiculous that he *still* refuses to pay for one, because he’s nearing retirement age and none of us live close enough to drop everything and help

to add insult to injury, I groveled on cue but still got “no way of knowing we’d get this much, but he could have used the help”

I predict that she’s gonna max out her “We’re Elderly Now and Have Been Nothing But Good to You Kids, Now Be At My Beck and Call” card before my dad even retires

and fuck, even when I push back ever-so-gently during these combative moods of her’s, she puts words in my mouth and I have to keep repeating “that’s not what I said” and “I didn’t say anything about that” over and over

a literal child is easier to reason with

me: I’m only gonna be over there for one day and one night; it won’t be so bad. I’m sure Mom will be normal and won’t say anything that will infuriate me

me, after several racist remarks, praise of RFK Jr., and ranting about how little she empathizes with ppl who struggle with substance abuse:

I’m sadly very familiar with this rancid side of backbiting intracommunity politics, and that familiarity played a role in delaying my own egg cracking

so I don’t have patience for anyone who promotes or downplays tr@n$m3d!c@l!$t attitudes, let alone won’t treat it like the threat that it is

and like…if you have ppl like that in your literal development and moderation team, that’s a big fucking problem!

unless you clearly define this as bigoted gatekeeping in your ToS and back it up with bans for violators, people aren’t obligated to take you at your word

now, this term does get used in bad faith a lot; merely identifying as a tr@n$$3xu@l or promoting medical tr@n$!t!0n are not qualifiers

it’s buying into the idea that tr@n$n3$$ is one-size-fits-all, requires medical tr@n$!t!0n, and and anyone not ticking enough boxes is basically a cis interloper

but because this issue is perpetually ignored, it takes little time for tr@n$m3d$ to fill the void with gatekeeping bullshit

so instead of you get a cacophony of cattiness and hand-wringing over c!$$3xu@l th3yg@bs infiltrating the community and ruining it for True Tr@n$$3xu@ls

part of the problem is that ppl arrive at tr@n$m3d!c@l!$t attitudes due to a crucial-but-often-neglected concern, i.e. medically tr@n$!t!0n!ng tr@n$ people having needs distinct from those who don’t

any tr@n$ person actively trying to make changes to their body will inevitably hit more barriers

I can’t say this and *not* post the image

my loans have been in on-and-off forbearance specifically because of red-state lawsuits since I was on SAVE

I already figured I would be paying this shit off until I’m dead, but good God these fucks really aren’t happy unless they’re making life harder for others

it sounds like they’re straight-up getting rid of SAVE and PAYE before 2028 instead of phasing it out

I’ll either end up with an insanely expensive IBR plan or on this new lowered repayment plan that has 30-year forgiveness attached

fuckkkkkkk youuuuuu orange man

I cannot wait until I get to a point when this shit is behind me and I no longer have to put up with being picked apart and interrogated

feels like I’m a frog getting vivisected

UGH I got her on a different subject and she’s still pleading ignorance about what that shit entails

but fuck, it’s always so scary whenever she has her feelers out and is getting dangerously close to outing me

ugggggggh