Miss Pearl 🍁
@omisspearl.bsky.social
Find me at omisspearl.com
Author, blogger, dominant and occasionally community (dis)organizer.
I talk about lifestyle femdom and stuff. Often I tilt at windmills. No, I will not be your dominant.
(she/they) 18+ posts may occur.
Author, blogger, dominant and occasionally community (dis)organizer.
I talk about lifestyle femdom and stuff. Often I tilt at windmills. No, I will not be your dominant.
(she/they) 18+ posts may occur.
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Miss Pearl 🍁
@omisspearl.bsky.social
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"The Unbearable Submissive Ego Of Domme Songs"
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"The Unbearable Submissive Ego Of Domme Songs"
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American Thanksgiving time. An interesting experience as an outsider.
November 27, 2025 at 4:29 PM
American Thanksgiving time. An interesting experience as an outsider.
Hit LA last night. So far it's horrid. More cars than have ever seen in my life, willynilly buildings flung around flat paving. It's like everything is that semi industrial outskirts of a city where there's lots of box buildings with furniture outlets, strip malls and commercial sign printers.
an aerial view of a city at night with a highway in the foreground and the city skyline in the background
ALT: an aerial view of a city at night with a highway in the foreground and the city skyline in the background
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November 26, 2025 at 11:55 AM
Hit LA last night. So far it's horrid. More cars than have ever seen in my life, willynilly buildings flung around flat paving. It's like everything is that semi industrial outskirts of a city where there's lots of box buildings with furniture outlets, strip malls and commercial sign printers.
I never understood the visceral fear reaction people have for things like spiders and snakes until I went to California and encountered a waymo taxi.
Full body ick recoiling followed by immediate anger.
Full body ick recoiling followed by immediate anger.
a car that has been burned to the ground
ALT: a car that has been burned to the ground
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November 26, 2025 at 4:48 AM
I never understood the visceral fear reaction people have for things like spiders and snakes until I went to California and encountered a waymo taxi.
Full body ick recoiling followed by immediate anger.
Full body ick recoiling followed by immediate anger.
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if you have no interest in kink, that's fine. there are so many kinks that i find objectionable actually. but you cannot police how other people fuck to make yourself feel safer. may i suggest therapy instead?
January 16, 2025 at 6:05 PM
if you have no interest in kink, that's fine. there are so many kinks that i find objectionable actually. but you cannot police how other people fuck to make yourself feel safer. may i suggest therapy instead?
Finished up with SF, hit the MoMA, Chinatown and of course @mrsleather.bsky.social where the staff are extremely lovely and helpful. #FemdomLife
November 25, 2025 at 4:50 PM
Finished up with SF, hit the MoMA, Chinatown and of course @mrsleather.bsky.social where the staff are extremely lovely and helpful. #FemdomLife
Hotel is taking an unusually long time to ready our room. We are starting to crack jokes about what has gone wrong - unconscious body in the tub, sprayed down with silicone lube, flock of rabid seagulls.
November 24, 2025 at 12:41 AM
Hotel is taking an unusually long time to ready our room. We are starting to crack jokes about what has gone wrong - unconscious body in the tub, sprayed down with silicone lube, flock of rabid seagulls.
Doing a trip down across California. The first leg was rail, sleeper car and all, and Silver who normally can't nap to save his life is dozing off intermittently. Something about the rocking and the little cozy capsules appears to unlock his brain go off button.
November 23, 2025 at 8:15 PM
Doing a trip down across California. The first leg was rail, sleeper car and all, and Silver who normally can't nap to save his life is dozing off intermittently. Something about the rocking and the little cozy capsules appears to unlock his brain go off button.
My phone is aggressively trying to push new updates, not just for AI features I didn't want or ask for (summarizing messages for me), but emergency alert setups with my contacts I don't need and "Wicked" promo art. This is gross.
November 22, 2025 at 2:05 PM
My phone is aggressively trying to push new updates, not just for AI features I didn't want or ask for (summarizing messages for me), but emergency alert setups with my contacts I don't need and "Wicked" promo art. This is gross.
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Vancouver’s last drop-in space for sex workers is facing an uncertain future as the city changes how it funds the non-profit. @michellegamage.bsky.social reports. #vanpoli
Vancouver’s Last Sex Worker Drop-In Centre May Shutter in Spring | The Tyee
The city is changing how it funds Kingsway Community Station. That’s ‘dangerous,’ its program director says.
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November 21, 2025 at 3:27 PM
Vancouver’s last drop-in space for sex workers is facing an uncertain future as the city changes how it funds the non-profit. @michellegamage.bsky.social reports. #vanpoli
The most annoying part of this round is some ding-dong decided his posturing about the ratio was an excellent excuse to message him, try to start a dynamic (paid) and then has so little self awareness they posted about it to complain the person deleted their account.
The subreddit I moderate gets a reoccurring visitor. He is struggling with some sort of mental illness and has a pattern of dropping a pile of incel puke with social justice language stapled on, freaking out a bunch and then being banned or if not caught, deleting his account.
November 21, 2025 at 7:14 PM
The most annoying part of this round is some ding-dong decided his posturing about the ratio was an excellent excuse to message him, try to start a dynamic (paid) and then has so little self awareness they posted about it to complain the person deleted their account.
The subreddit I moderate gets a reoccurring visitor. He is struggling with some sort of mental illness and has a pattern of dropping a pile of incel puke with social justice language stapled on, freaking out a bunch and then being banned or if not caught, deleting his account.
November 21, 2025 at 2:05 PM
The subreddit I moderate gets a reoccurring visitor. He is struggling with some sort of mental illness and has a pattern of dropping a pile of incel puke with social justice language stapled on, freaking out a bunch and then being banned or if not caught, deleting his account.
I would like you to donate to these folks. Sex ed resources thay are queer and kink positive, but age appropriate for folks under 18 are thin on the ground.
We’re about a week and a half through our two week fundraiser to try and raise $40k to provide benefits to paid staff and as-needed health care cost assistance fund for our amazing volunteers. We’ve raised $22k so far, can you help us get to $24k today? www.classy.org/campaign/scarl...
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November 20, 2025 at 11:18 PM
I would like you to donate to these folks. Sex ed resources thay are queer and kink positive, but age appropriate for folks under 18 are thin on the ground.
It always delights me how often artists look like how they draw people.
November 20, 2025 at 9:18 PM
It always delights me how often artists look like how they draw people.
It's a nuisance to be one of those people who really likes the aesthetics of old systems and nice old things, but knowing that age tends to make things full of rot or gatekept all to heck in the worst ways.
November 20, 2025 at 2:05 PM
It's a nuisance to be one of those people who really likes the aesthetics of old systems and nice old things, but knowing that age tends to make things full of rot or gatekept all to heck in the worst ways.
When someone who is A Somebody is posting mundanities I can never tell how much replying at them is actually appropriate and how much is overwhelm. I worry about the parasocial grey area versus the fact that I know people who share want attention, because human.
November 19, 2025 at 8:15 PM
When someone who is A Somebody is posting mundanities I can never tell how much replying at them is actually appropriate and how much is overwhelm. I worry about the parasocial grey area versus the fact that I know people who share want attention, because human.
Listening to "Nine Tailors" a 1934 murder mystery that would fall firmly in the classification of cozy. In which they discuss auto erotic asphyxia, and if the possible murder might not just be that.
Lest you think the past was not kinky...
Lest you think the past was not kinky...
November 19, 2025 at 6:55 PM
Listening to "Nine Tailors" a 1934 murder mystery that would fall firmly in the classification of cozy. In which they discuss auto erotic asphyxia, and if the possible murder might not just be that.
Lest you think the past was not kinky...
Lest you think the past was not kinky...
Try as I might, the full on anti natalist/voluntary extinction part of environmentalism or thinking about big systems will never not give me the ick. It's generally packaged with a lot of lazy homicidal ideation and thoughtlessness in the same flavor of the "end demand/Nordic" attack on sexwork.
November 19, 2025 at 2:05 PM
Try as I might, the full on anti natalist/voluntary extinction part of environmentalism or thinking about big systems will never not give me the ick. It's generally packaged with a lot of lazy homicidal ideation and thoughtlessness in the same flavor of the "end demand/Nordic" attack on sexwork.
Enjoying "In The Dog House", as far as fun femdom comics go. There are the usual aspects people will find irksome regarding consent and romance fiction tropes, but the chemistry is fun and you can read it for the plot alone.
November 18, 2025 at 8:15 PM
Enjoying "In The Dog House", as far as fun femdom comics go. There are the usual aspects people will find irksome regarding consent and romance fiction tropes, but the chemistry is fun and you can read it for the plot alone.
"Mindfulness" got very fashionable as an affordable mental health strategy and pushed as a corporate bandaid to stressed workers. They thought it puts the onus conveniently on the individual.
In reality it tends to make you less invested in your job and more likely to notice systemic causes.
In reality it tends to make you less invested in your job and more likely to notice systemic causes.
November 18, 2025 at 2:45 PM
"Mindfulness" got very fashionable as an affordable mental health strategy and pushed as a corporate bandaid to stressed workers. They thought it puts the onus conveniently on the individual.
In reality it tends to make you less invested in your job and more likely to notice systemic causes.
In reality it tends to make you less invested in your job and more likely to notice systemic causes.
Has anyone else noticed that sub writing about "why" tends to talk about feelings and dom writing about why tends to be more circumspect?
But more than that, there's an ocean of subs waxing at length about their deep submission to someone, where the person is basically a cypher?
But more than that, there's an ocean of subs waxing at length about their deep submission to someone, where the person is basically a cypher?
November 18, 2025 at 2:05 PM
Has anyone else noticed that sub writing about "why" tends to talk about feelings and dom writing about why tends to be more circumspect?
But more than that, there's an ocean of subs waxing at length about their deep submission to someone, where the person is basically a cypher?
But more than that, there's an ocean of subs waxing at length about their deep submission to someone, where the person is basically a cypher?
I think if I have to be judgemental about the subject of motivation, internalized scolding is the actual "brain being lazy". Positive self talk and patience with yourself are much harder.
November 17, 2025 at 8:15 PM
I think if I have to be judgemental about the subject of motivation, internalized scolding is the actual "brain being lazy". Positive self talk and patience with yourself are much harder.
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Important distinction between "uuuuff I don't like THAT" or "here's all the interesting ways in which this is fucked up" VS "They Never Should Have Written This In The First Place, Let This Be A Lesson To You To Never Write Anything Lest You Risk Becoming An Abomination Like Them""
November 17, 2025 at 2:53 PM
Important distinction between "uuuuff I don't like THAT" or "here's all the interesting ways in which this is fucked up" VS "They Never Should Have Written This In The First Place, Let This Be A Lesson To You To Never Write Anything Lest You Risk Becoming An Abomination Like Them""
I think the first and foremost trouble the majority of neurodivergent people have is probably the sense of general shame. Your childhood was one of more corrections than a neurotypical child, and a sense you just weren't trying hard enough to keep in step.
November 17, 2025 at 2:05 PM
I think the first and foremost trouble the majority of neurodivergent people have is probably the sense of general shame. Your childhood was one of more corrections than a neurotypical child, and a sense you just weren't trying hard enough to keep in step.
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hello i am looking for queer porn created by ace/gray ace/demi people that is available to read for free online (legally!!)
whenever i hear "Well i'm ace so i don't know anything about porn" i want to be able to go "here is a list of the horniest shit you've ever seen made by VIEWERS LIKE YOU"
whenever i hear "Well i'm ace so i don't know anything about porn" i want to be able to go "here is a list of the horniest shit you've ever seen made by VIEWERS LIKE YOU"
November 16, 2025 at 7:02 PM
hello i am looking for queer porn created by ace/gray ace/demi people that is available to read for free online (legally!!)
whenever i hear "Well i'm ace so i don't know anything about porn" i want to be able to go "here is a list of the horniest shit you've ever seen made by VIEWERS LIKE YOU"
whenever i hear "Well i'm ace so i don't know anything about porn" i want to be able to go "here is a list of the horniest shit you've ever seen made by VIEWERS LIKE YOU"
A surprising amount of distraction blocking/avoiding culture tends to be incredibly punitive and shame focused in its approach. It's similar to diet culture, but for things that one might find entertaining rather than edible.
Self castigation is the opposite of helpful.
Self castigation is the opposite of helpful.
November 16, 2025 at 8:15 PM
A surprising amount of distraction blocking/avoiding culture tends to be incredibly punitive and shame focused in its approach. It's similar to diet culture, but for things that one might find entertaining rather than edible.
Self castigation is the opposite of helpful.
Self castigation is the opposite of helpful.