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R.L. Stollar
@rlstollar.bsky.social
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Child liberation theologian, child and survivor advocate. Learn more about my work: www.rlstollar.com. He/him.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · Nov 17
Hi to new folks!! I am a homeschool alum, exvangelical, child and survivor advocate, and child liberation theologian.

My website:

rlstollar.com.

My book:

www.amazon.com/Kingdom-Chil....

Starter pack on homeschooling:

go.bsky.app/MEZ51Pf.

Starter pack on child advocacy:

go.bsky.app/ToB6xNs.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 11h
“Every hierarchy, every abuse, every act of domination that seeks to justify or excuse itself appeals through analogy to the rule of adults over children.”
Love Does Not Abuse: The Parenting Philosophy of bell hooks
It is my hope that more progressive activists and thinkers will reflect on parenting and child care just as hooks has.
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r @recombobulating.bsky.social · 13h
this is a deeply traditional approach across 'western civilisation'

in many ways it is fundamental to Enlightenment philosophy

the belief that human nature is inherently sinful and undeserving and must be overcome in order to be considered a valid person
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 2d
"Haarer viewed children, especially babies, as nuisances whose wills needed to be broken."
Harsh Nazi Parenting Guidelines May Still Affect German Children of Today
The Nazi regime urged German mothers to ignore their toddlers’ emotional needs—the better to raise hardened soldiers and followers. Attachment researchers say that the harmful effects of that teaching...
www.scientificamerican.com
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 11h
Yep!
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 22h
"Hitler sought a resurgence in traditional family values... Bringing back the patriarchal system destroyed during Weimar was one of the Nazi party's goals."

~Samantha Sullivan, "Germany's Children"
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Mennonite Mom (she/her) ❤️‍🩹🥄💙🌊💙 @mennonitemom.bsky.social · 1d
Where have we heard about those "values" recently? 🤔 I can't imagine what group it was talking about those things.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 1d
"At the heart of many Nazi social policies... was a desire to incorporate traditional Christian values. Generally, these tenets of Christianity included female subordination, evasion of premarital sex, and out-of-wedlock births."

~Samantha Sullivan, "Germany's Children"
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 1d
"At the heart of many Nazi social policies... was a desire to incorporate traditional Christian values. Generally, these tenets of Christianity included female subordination, evasion of premarital sex, and out-of-wedlock births."

~Samantha Sullivan, "Germany's Children"
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D.L. Mayfield (they/them) @dlmayfield.bsky.social · 1d
BTW James Dobson started the Alliance Defending Freedom legal organization, which is set to undo Colorado's ban on gay conversion therapy. Dobson really, really loved conversion therapy of all types (for autistic kids AND queer kids).
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Jonathan R-E (He/Him) @elyeasbane.bsky.social · 1d
Learning about the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child from @rlstollar.bsky.social and @dlmayfield.bsky.social and dreaming of an America not run by religious nuts who consider child abuse a sacrament.
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Mark Harris @markharris.bsky.social · 1d
This will be a vote to erase 50 years of medical and psychiatric knowledge and kill gay and trans kids, because MAGA Republicans feel that in a better world, fewer of them would exist. It is that simple. Democrats must make SCOTUS expansion part of the party platform. www.nytimes.com/live/2025/10...
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Jonathan R-E (He/Him) @elyeasbane.bsky.social · 1d
Learning about the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child from @rlstollar.bsky.social and @dlmayfield.bsky.social and dreaming of an America not run by religious nuts who consider child abuse a sacrament.
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Mark Harris @markharris.bsky.social · 1d
This will be a vote to erase 50 years of medical and psychiatric knowledge and kill gay and trans kids, because MAGA Republicans feel that in a better world, fewer of them would exist. It is that simple. Democrats must make SCOTUS expansion part of the party platform. www.nytimes.com/live/2025/10...
Supreme Court Live Updates: Justices Seem Set to Rule Against Colorado’s Ban on Conversion Therapy
www.nytimes.com
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 1d
Such an important point!

"Countless families... were wrecked and exploited so that White families could flourish."

From Emily Hunter McGowin's "Households of Faith."
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 1d
I see it on both!
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Dr. Lindsay Stallones Marshall (she/her) @lindstorian.bsky.social · 1d
Former "strong-willed child" (as labeled by major evangelical organization based in Colorado Springs) seeing something familiar here...
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 2d
"Haarer viewed children, especially babies, as nuisances whose wills needed to be broken."
Harsh Nazi Parenting Guidelines May Still Affect German Children of Today
The Nazi regime urged German mothers to ignore their toddlers’ emotional needs—the better to raise hardened soldiers and followers. Attachment researchers say that the harmful effects of that teaching...
www.scientificamerican.com
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 1d
Did I just order a bunch of books on Nazi parenting to compare them to evangelical parenting books?

Maybe. 😇
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 1d
Yeah, I'm not even seeing your replies in my notifications.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 1d
Thank you!
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 1d
Huh?
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 1d
Lol @ the BlueSky moderation here. And by "lol" I mean "ignorant and enabling."
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 1d
Lol @ the BlueSky moderation here. And by "lol" I mean "ignorant and enabling."
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𝖓𝖔𝖗𝖆 𝖓𝖊𝖚𝖗𝖔𝖘𝖎𝖘𝖒𝖆𝖓𝖈𝖊𝖗 🏳️‍⚧️ @neurosismancer.gay · 2d
sounds a lot like the parenting advice that evangelical christian fundamentalists got from james dobson
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 2d
"Haarer viewed children, especially babies, as nuisances whose wills needed to be broken."
Harsh Nazi Parenting Guidelines May Still Affect German Children of Today
The Nazi regime urged German mothers to ignore their toddlers’ emotional needs—the better to raise hardened soldiers and followers. Attachment researchers say that the harmful effects of that teaching...
www.scientificamerican.com
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Ray Anselmo @rayanselmo.bsky.social · 1d
And not just German children. I've heard some of this stuff from American parenting "experts."
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 2d
"Haarer viewed children, especially babies, as nuisances whose wills needed to be broken."
Harsh Nazi Parenting Guidelines May Still Affect German Children of Today
The Nazi regime urged German mothers to ignore their toddlers’ emotional needs—the better to raise hardened soldiers and followers. Attachment researchers say that the harmful effects of that teaching...
www.scientificamerican.com
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Jared Johnson is taking it one day at a time @jaredparker.bsky.social · 1d
This was James Dobson’s whole animating philosophy. Interesting
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 2d
"Haarer viewed children, especially babies, as nuisances whose wills needed to be broken."
Harsh Nazi Parenting Guidelines May Still Affect German Children of Today
The Nazi regime urged German mothers to ignore their toddlers’ emotional needs—the better to raise hardened soldiers and followers. Attachment researchers say that the harmful effects of that teaching...
www.scientificamerican.com
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Garrett Ruley @garrett-ruley.bsky.social · 1d
Huh I wonder why this reminds me so much of abusive evangelical Christian parenting advice like that peddled by James Dobson, oh well, probably just a coincidence...
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 2d
"Haarer viewed children, especially babies, as nuisances whose wills needed to be broken."
Harsh Nazi Parenting Guidelines May Still Affect German Children of Today
The Nazi regime urged German mothers to ignore their toddlers’ emotional needs—the better to raise hardened soldiers and followers. Attachment researchers say that the harmful effects of that teaching...
www.scientificamerican.com
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Glencora @glencora.bsky.social · 1d
This is how many Evangelicals parent- because babies are by definition “not saved”.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 2d
"Haarer viewed children, especially babies, as nuisances whose wills needed to be broken."
Harsh Nazi Parenting Guidelines May Still Affect German Children of Today
The Nazi regime urged German mothers to ignore their toddlers’ emotional needs—the better to raise hardened soldiers and followers. Attachment researchers say that the harmful effects of that teaching...
www.scientificamerican.com
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Eunicecycle @eunicecycle.bsky.social · 1d
It sounds like some of the extreme "Christian" parenting, too.
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Guerrilla Glue Gun @heyguerrilla.bsky.social · 1d
Deeply fascinating & informative read
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 2d
"Haarer viewed children, especially babies, as nuisances whose wills needed to be broken."
Harsh Nazi Parenting Guidelines May Still Affect German Children of Today
The Nazi regime urged German mothers to ignore their toddlers’ emotional needs—the better to raise hardened soldiers and followers. Attachment researchers say that the harmful effects of that teaching...
www.scientificamerican.com
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ClaireBear @ttlyovrit.bsky.social · 1d
Damn... This is an interesting read. Too many thoughts to share when I'm supposed to be working.
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R.L. Stollar @rlstollar.bsky.social · 2d
"Haarer viewed children, especially babies, as nuisances whose wills needed to be broken."
Harsh Nazi Parenting Guidelines May Still Affect German Children of Today
The Nazi regime urged German mothers to ignore their toddlers’ emotional needs—the better to raise hardened soldiers and followers. Attachment researchers say that the harmful effects of that teaching...
www.scientificamerican.com
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