That's for damn sure

I fucking love this!

*massive, massive hugs*

I'm sorry pupper :(

Yup! And it also means welcoming on a personal level. This means getting to know and help people without wanting anything from them.

This was my first thought!

And the lack of support on entry to these communities, especially in online spaces, to lift new people up to build that emotional security just exacerbates everything.

No, in fact it's quite the opposite! But those insecurities allow toxic fucks to stick around because "No one else will pay attention to me."

And I don't like anyone touching my dick so it's a win-win!

I greatly appreciate it but would love it a lot more if you stuck to licking my balls :)

Must have been over 20! The last time I cooked escargot, I was working at a casino kitchen. Was this IRC, Yahoo, or AIM?

Either way, it's as predatory as it is laughable. The problem is these chucklefucks have yet to be shown the door and the encourager to gainer ratio is as small as any other fetish top to bottom, so desperate guys give into these assholes and perpetuate the problem.

The one community norm that I take issue with, and it is at the heart of everything that you've said, is that some people feel way too comfortable and entitled to other people's bodies. Starting a convo with "I wanna make u fatter" is the equivalent of "call me SIR, boy" on first contact.

There is so much going on here and I am here for all of it!

Both please!

So be stoic or romantic! Be a professional artist or a fisherman! Take long hikes or spend time reading! Be hard or soft! With all of these, try being both! Enjoy your life! It's all good! Because the best kind of man knows himself and accepts and supports the good people around him.

A lot of baggage comes from the idea of masculinity but masculinity is an empty vessel that we each fill up. Some fill theirs with cigars and leather, some with building and creation, some with the outdoors, some with the gym, some with their brains. Every version looks different and that's good!

Okay, one last one, and that's the man who thinks he can tell you if you are enough of a man. This kind of guy is all over the place, media, ads, and podcasts, and he's a jerk.

If you are a man, you're enough of a man. If you're genderfluid, then your male part is enough. Anything else? Enough.

Another type of man to avoid being, and this is difficult due to human nature when being told we're wrong about something, is the kind who only talks but won't listen. This trait shows up mostly when attempting to feel superior to women.

Learn to listen, you'll be a better man for it!

There are plenty of ways to be a man. In fact, there are as many ways to be a man as there are men. And yes, there are wrong ways to be a man and the big one is to intentionally cause damage to someone for fun, power, or profit.

If that's not your thing, awesome, you're doing well as a man!