-but he and tyr get invited to stick around a bit and catch up and over the course of that leander manages to say like One comment about gender that worms its way into larks head and causes a trans breakdown months later. swan doesnt get girled but he becomes very aware of gender stuff through lark

-proper society spectrum. with anna marrying pretty early and being too antsy compared to the women around her, and leander being earth shatteringly transgender from the start. its actually a perfect scale from veronika, swan, lark, anna, leander of how good you are at catpeople gender norms

veronika is my example perfect member of society who moves out when she gets married and goes on to become fantasy mayor of her town or something. her younger twin brothers are also Proper Men living on the move until one of them gets trans, and then anna and leander are at the other end of the-