One Hoopy Frood
@succulent.horse
he/him | Flyover country, USA | I'm a 40-something cishet white guy with a healthy dose of AuDHD and anxiety exploring alternative relationship styles and solo polyamory. What could go wrong?
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One Hoopy Frood
@succulent.horse
· Feb 2
I've figured out what to do with this domain.
About me: I'm an elder millennial cishet white guy living in US flyover country. My midlife crisis hasn't been cars or dating someone old enough to be my child, it's been exploring my neurodivergence and alternative relationship styles.
About me: I'm an elder millennial cishet white guy living in US flyover country. My midlife crisis hasn't been cars or dating someone old enough to be my child, it's been exploring my neurodivergence and alternative relationship styles.
I haven't rambled on this account in a while, but it's late and I'm spiraling a little, so here's me shouting into the void for a few minutes.
I forgot to buy her a gift.
I don't know if "forgot" is the right word, but it's not the first time that I've stressed over buying the right gift.
I forgot to buy her a gift.
I don't know if "forgot" is the right word, but it's not the first time that I've stressed over buying the right gift.
December 24, 2025 at 5:44 AM
I haven't rambled on this account in a while, but it's late and I'm spiraling a little, so here's me shouting into the void for a few minutes.
I forgot to buy her a gift.
I don't know if "forgot" is the right word, but it's not the first time that I've stressed over buying the right gift.
I forgot to buy her a gift.
I don't know if "forgot" is the right word, but it's not the first time that I've stressed over buying the right gift.
The question currently running on repeat through my head while I'm spending time with a long-distance partner I'm enamored with: am I too scared of rejection to ever be back in a legitimate serious relationship?
May 20, 2025 at 8:41 PM
The question currently running on repeat through my head while I'm spending time with a long-distance partner I'm enamored with: am I too scared of rejection to ever be back in a legitimate serious relationship?
This space reserved for whatever my current psychotic break is going to look like in 24 hours.
April 6, 2025 at 3:57 AM
This space reserved for whatever my current psychotic break is going to look like in 24 hours.
I was browsing Threads and came across a collection of breakup stories that have stuck with people.
I'm coming up on ten years since She left; that anniversary will be in a couple of months. I don't remember the exact date, though I think that may be a blessing in disguise. 1/
I'm coming up on ten years since She left; that anniversary will be in a couple of months. I don't remember the exact date, though I think that may be a blessing in disguise. 1/
March 3, 2025 at 1:54 PM
I was browsing Threads and came across a collection of breakup stories that have stuck with people.
I'm coming up on ten years since She left; that anniversary will be in a couple of months. I don't remember the exact date, though I think that may be a blessing in disguise. 1/
I'm coming up on ten years since She left; that anniversary will be in a couple of months. I don't remember the exact date, though I think that may be a blessing in disguise. 1/
I've let this sit for a couple weeks (somewhat unintentionally). But since I'm enjoying another night of insomnia, here are the questions bouncing in my head at the moment:
February 18, 2025 at 10:05 AM
I've let this sit for a couple weeks (somewhat unintentionally). But since I'm enjoying another night of insomnia, here are the questions bouncing in my head at the moment:
I've been guilty of approaching love from a scarcity mindset for so many years.
I always worried that I'd never measure up, that I wasn't good enough and every lost relationship or missed opportunity was going to be my last.
Breaking out of that has been one of the best things I've done for me.
I always worried that I'd never measure up, that I wasn't good enough and every lost relationship or missed opportunity was going to be my last.
Breaking out of that has been one of the best things I've done for me.
Yikes! Were they joking or was this legit?
This reeks of the Scarcity mindset (The fear of “Not Enough”), where love and attention feel finite.
Sadly, man are raised to see love as exclusive, romantic attention as a zero-sum game, and relationships as a hierarchy where we must secure our place.
This reeks of the Scarcity mindset (The fear of “Not Enough”), where love and attention feel finite.
Sadly, man are raised to see love as exclusive, romantic attention as a zero-sum game, and relationships as a hierarchy where we must secure our place.
February 4, 2025 at 9:34 AM
I've been guilty of approaching love from a scarcity mindset for so many years.
I always worried that I'd never measure up, that I wasn't good enough and every lost relationship or missed opportunity was going to be my last.
Breaking out of that has been one of the best things I've done for me.
I always worried that I'd never measure up, that I wasn't good enough and every lost relationship or missed opportunity was going to be my last.
Breaking out of that has been one of the best things I've done for me.
After my sleep-deprived ramblings of the other night, further discussion with T and I turned into a desire to deescalate and keep any interactions platonic.
I'm sad about losing her as a partner, but also a little relieved. There was a tremendous imbalance in the strength of our connection...
I'm sad about losing her as a partner, but also a little relieved. There was a tremendous imbalance in the strength of our connection...
February 4, 2025 at 9:31 AM
After my sleep-deprived ramblings of the other night, further discussion with T and I turned into a desire to deescalate and keep any interactions platonic.
I'm sad about losing her as a partner, but also a little relieved. There was a tremendous imbalance in the strength of our connection...
I'm sad about losing her as a partner, but also a little relieved. There was a tremendous imbalance in the strength of our connection...
Can't shut my brain off... So story time*
I spent 10 days visiting D recently. It's a pretty new relationship and she lives in another time zone, so we haven't had much opportunity to spend time together in person.
*Oh geez, I'm gonna have to burn this account aren't I?
I spent 10 days visiting D recently. It's a pretty new relationship and she lives in another time zone, so we haven't had much opportunity to spend time together in person.
*Oh geez, I'm gonna have to burn this account aren't I?
Is that the answer? That I haven't felt confident about experiencing romantic love before because it's always being drowned out by anxiety and rejection sensitivity?
Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. But it's now after 7:00, and I've definitely been awake way too long.
Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. But it's now after 7:00, and I've definitely been awake way too long.
February 2, 2025 at 2:25 PM
Can't shut my brain off... So story time*
I spent 10 days visiting D recently. It's a pretty new relationship and she lives in another time zone, so we haven't had much opportunity to spend time together in person.
*Oh geez, I'm gonna have to burn this account aren't I?
I spent 10 days visiting D recently. It's a pretty new relationship and she lives in another time zone, so we haven't had much opportunity to spend time together in person.
*Oh geez, I'm gonna have to burn this account aren't I?
Tonight's existential crisis was brought on by a conversation I had with T, one of my partners. I'm her only person, and she feels a strong connection to me - it's not one that I reciprocate as much to her.
It's not necessarily a secret, but it's been awkward to navigate, and that came...
It's not necessarily a secret, but it's been awkward to navigate, and that came...
February 2, 2025 at 1:14 PM
Tonight's existential crisis was brought on by a conversation I had with T, one of my partners. I'm her only person, and she feels a strong connection to me - it's not one that I reciprocate as much to her.
It's not necessarily a secret, but it's been awkward to navigate, and that came...
It's not necessarily a secret, but it's been awkward to navigate, and that came...
Some FAQs (to be added in later):
I've never played D&D.
I've never played D&D.
February 2, 2025 at 12:04 PM
Some FAQs (to be added in later):
I've never played D&D.
I've never played D&D.
I've figured out what to do with this domain.
About me: I'm an elder millennial cishet white guy living in US flyover country. My midlife crisis hasn't been cars or dating someone old enough to be my child, it's been exploring my neurodivergence and alternative relationship styles.
About me: I'm an elder millennial cishet white guy living in US flyover country. My midlife crisis hasn't been cars or dating someone old enough to be my child, it's been exploring my neurodivergence and alternative relationship styles.
February 2, 2025 at 12:00 PM
I've figured out what to do with this domain.
About me: I'm an elder millennial cishet white guy living in US flyover country. My midlife crisis hasn't been cars or dating someone old enough to be my child, it's been exploring my neurodivergence and alternative relationship styles.
About me: I'm an elder millennial cishet white guy living in US flyover country. My midlife crisis hasn't been cars or dating someone old enough to be my child, it's been exploring my neurodivergence and alternative relationship styles.