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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻

@talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social

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She/They. US-ian living in Bosna &/or Hercegovina. Author of queer, neurodivergent tales of weirdness. Developmental editor. Bisexual, bipolar, bipedal, bilingual, bicyclist, non-binary, buy my books: Talesfrompurgatory.com

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · Nov 20

I just want to eat life down to its poisoned core

and go out laughing and screaming and spitting my final breath into the murmurations of stars

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 48m

I did not have to tell this man what to clean nor did i have to remind him he promised to get up and help me clean. Not once! Not even a little

As a person who has lived with and around many men, this is LITERALLY DISORIENTING

Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 50m

The man fucking dusted. HE IS A MAN WHO DUSTS

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 51m

And like, he’s cleaning! He’s doing a good job! And we will be done on time for the landlady to come and discuss arrangements of him staying here, with his cat.

God this is stressful. I did not miss having a landlord

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 57m

I see defense attorneys hammering this home in voir dire; potential jurors tend to feel nitpicked. But using this language shows an underlying pathos that we NEED to ERADICATE from the collective unconscious. A defendant is INNOCENT and the State has to work hard to convince you otherwise.

Sheryl Weikal and the colorful Parrotlegals @leftistlawyer.com · 15h

I see a lot of people saying that a person charged with a crime deserves the chance to prove their innocence.

Please stop doing this because you have it backwards and this is really important.

It is ALWAYS the government's burden to prove a person guilty beyond a reasonable doubt.

Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 1h

A man who says (after staying up till almost 3 am to make you sarma) that he will get up at 8 am and help you clean, and then actually gets up at 8 am and helps you clean

This is going into my romance novel

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 7h

It was an extraordinarily shit day so he made me sarma and showed me how, because apparently brides have to pass a sarma-making test before they can marry

This man can cook like whoa

A bowl with cabbage rolls in broth with vegetables

Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 10h

Like, He’s not without flaws if course but as real humans go, i couldn’t think of a better one to marry and to just hang out with

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 10h

There’s still plenty of ways it could be a disaster but this has been an amazing month and He’s even better than i thought he would be. Like, the reality just really pulled one over on my fantasy. He’s perfect.

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 10h

Exactly

Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 10h

Yep. Like, fighting is admirable but we didn’t create this fucking problem and i don’t feel like the hero of some fucking dystopian novel. I will my little things but i also deserve to just live my fucking life as happily as i can.

As long as i can manage to not scare off Milenko i guess I’m good

Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 10h

I’m floored how far my income will go here. Like…I’m hot young fiance rich in this country 😭

Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 10h

In BiH they call q-tips štapiči za uši, sticks for your ears, and i think that’s beautiful

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 10h

Super duper romance plot happening here lmao 😭🥰🥰

Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 10h

He made me sarma (stuffed pickled cabbage) and showed me how to make it Because brides are supposed to pass a trial of making sarma before the wedding, and also he wanted to cheer me up

It is cooking now and it fucking smells amazing

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 10h

Anyway today has been a real roller coaster and i have to remind myself that just because my own family treats me like trash and doesn’t believe I’m capable of independent thought, doesn’t mean I’m not deserving of love or that Milenko will fucking turn on me.

Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 10h

I forget that my dad follows me on FaceBook even tho he doesn’t ever interact with me he only fights with assholes and interacts with second cousins he hasn’t seen in 7 years and i put the notification on there. Because when you do the 90-day fiance shit you have to take extra pains for optics.

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 10h

I didn’t tell my parents yet about my engagement because i wanted to be happy for at least a few days before they started wanting me to “really think about your behavior and how you’re spiraling out of control” and “did you even think about how this would make us feel” but they found out anyway

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 12h

I don’t need one. We’re getting married 😇

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 16h

Apparently when you get engaged in Bosnia and/or Herzegovina they don’t say congratulations or any of that shit. They say “wedding wedding!” And leave it at that.

Good for them.

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 19h

I didn’t fucking abandon you and i don’t owe anyone my death or imprisonment in this fight. I have already put more blood in that fight than most people. I will continue to fight my little fight from here, and i will write my books and eat burek and mind my fucking business. Fuck you.

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 19h

And this is Like a pervasive problem for me with my friends and family back home. I’m now really isolated because of this. And it really fucking hurts. I had to block my oldest, best friend and another guy blocked me and my family is now being fucked up because they’re scared.

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 19h

That other people who have as much or more resources and ability than i have failed to take those steps, and they didnt even vote because “dems are just as bad” and then are surprised by the fascism and suddenly want out, is not something they should abuse me for

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 19h

One of his dad’s relatives fled an arranged marriage in Montenegro and since then there have been mysterious and plentiful deaths, or so the family legend goes

Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 19h

Like, i hoped he wouldn’t get reelected and it wouldn’t get this bad but i took specific fucking steps so i could get out if it did. I worked really fucking hard at it.

That part, while privilege may play into what i was able to accomplish a little bit, is really just me being a fucking badass.

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Liz Roderick, Veoma Jeziva 👻 @talesfrompurgatory.bsky.social · 19h

I did work at getting to where i could leave since 2016, and a lot of this hatred I’m getting is from people who up until like a couple months ago were telling me “it’s not so bad” and “Trump won’t be able to pull off fascism” and “you’re overreacting”. My planning & foresight arent privilege