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Morsels of misery from one who has loved and lost. #grief #bereavement #partnerdeath
Two and a half years ago today the light went out of my life. #grief #solstice #partnerloss #widowhood
December 21, 2025 at 5:20 PM
Two and a half years ago today the light went out of my life. #grief #solstice #partnerloss #widowhood
We were a good team. He was the sunshine, I was the rain. Together we made rainbows; now everything is just grey. #grief #bereavement #partnerloss
December 19, 2025 at 1:28 PM
We were a good team. He was the sunshine, I was the rain. Together we made rainbows; now everything is just grey. #grief #bereavement #partnerloss
This is my third Christmas without him. I don't send cards any more or decorate the house. Some kindly people still send me greetings and the normalness of their messages are utterly crushing. How on earth do they think I'll have a "fabulous Christmas" or a "brilliant 2026"? #grief #partnerloss
December 17, 2025 at 10:08 AM
This is my third Christmas without him. I don't send cards any more or decorate the house. Some kindly people still send me greetings and the normalness of their messages are utterly crushing. How on earth do they think I'll have a "fabulous Christmas" or a "brilliant 2026"? #grief #partnerloss
December 2, 2025 at 2:29 PM
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I find the darkness of #winter hard to deal with, especially as it's the lead up to #milestones: Tim's birthday, #Christmas, #NewYear and then the anniversary of his death. Here are a few things that I have found helpful:
https://www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/in-the-bleak-midwinter
#grief #widow
https://www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/in-the-bleak-midwinter
#grief #widow
November 20, 2025 at 2:21 PM
I find the darkness of #winter hard to deal with, especially as it's the lead up to #milestones: Tim's birthday, #Christmas, #NewYear and then the anniversary of his death. Here are a few things that I have found helpful:
https://www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/in-the-bleak-midwinter
#grief #widow
https://www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/in-the-bleak-midwinter
#grief #widow
Just been reading about six-word stories. So far, my thoughts are:
His heart stopped and mine broke.
I don't matter to anyone now.
Without you I'm existing, not living.
His heart stopped and mine broke.
I don't matter to anyone now.
Without you I'm existing, not living.
November 21, 2025 at 10:58 AM
Just been reading about six-word stories. So far, my thoughts are:
His heart stopped and mine broke.
I don't matter to anyone now.
Without you I'm existing, not living.
His heart stopped and mine broke.
I don't matter to anyone now.
Without you I'm existing, not living.
The random assaults are everywhere. Emails inviting me to look back at a year of "family fun", supermarket dine-in offers for two, competitions for holidays that I would have no one to go on with if I won... It's relentless. #grief #widowed #partnerloss
October 17, 2025 at 10:48 AM
The random assaults are everywhere. Emails inviting me to look back at a year of "family fun", supermarket dine-in offers for two, competitions for holidays that I would have no one to go on with if I won... It's relentless. #grief #widowed #partnerloss
Have had a bunch of those "How are you?" messages lately. Maybe it's the change of season. But what's the right way to respond? I say: "Thanks for thinking of me, I'm struggling on. Hope you're well." And then that's it. Interaction over. They feel pleased with themselves; I feel even more alone.
October 14, 2025 at 1:47 PM
Have had a bunch of those "How are you?" messages lately. Maybe it's the change of season. But what's the right way to respond? I say: "Thanks for thinking of me, I'm struggling on. Hope you're well." And then that's it. Interaction over. They feel pleased with themselves; I feel even more alone.
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I have found that #grief really isn't linear - it's more like a pinball machine
www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/models-...
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www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/models-...
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September 9, 2025 at 8:42 AM
I have found that #grief really isn't linear - it's more like a pinball machine
www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/models-...
#widow
www.thewidowshandbook.com/home/models-...
#widow
I miss us. Our routines, our trips, our plans, our meals, our day-to-day, our tackling things together, our general 'usness'. Nothing can ever ease that. #grief #widowed #bereavement
August 21, 2025 at 8:38 AM
I miss us. Our routines, our trips, our plans, our meals, our day-to-day, our tackling things together, our general 'usness'. Nothing can ever ease that. #grief #widowed #bereavement
Don't know if I'll ever be able to answer the question 'How are you?' again. Even harder in online messages - the people out there in their normal world think all must be well two years on. They don't want to know it isn't. #grief #bereavement #loss
August 6, 2025 at 11:41 AM
Don't know if I'll ever be able to answer the question 'How are you?' again. Even harder in online messages - the people out there in their normal world think all must be well two years on. They don't want to know it isn't. #grief #bereavement #loss
July 22, 2025 at 2:53 PM
The second anniversary of losing him has brought with it a shower of platitudes. Well-meaning souls who think themselves commendable because they have remembered the date, so they send those messages that begin 'I hope that you...' and finish with something that is definitely not the case. #grief
June 25, 2025 at 9:28 AM
The second anniversary of losing him has brought with it a shower of platitudes. Well-meaning souls who think themselves commendable because they have remembered the date, so they send those messages that begin 'I hope that you...' and finish with something that is definitely not the case. #grief
I'm finding that people are very keen to help – until it is time to actually help. #bereavement #alone #widowed
June 17, 2025 at 9:59 AM
I'm finding that people are very keen to help – until it is time to actually help. #bereavement #alone #widowed
It was my love's birthday yesterday. Every time I saw the date I had a spontaneous brain spark that said 'His birthday!' followed by a crash of despair that he's not here to make a fuss of any more. #grief #hisbirthday #loss
June 11, 2025 at 10:26 AM
It was my love's birthday yesterday. Every time I saw the date I had a spontaneous brain spark that said 'His birthday!' followed by a crash of despair that he's not here to make a fuss of any more. #grief #hisbirthday #loss
So many grief groups and books fall back on the ‘You are not alone’ cliché. But I am and that's the problem. #grief #bereavement #alone
May 22, 2025 at 2:32 PM
So many grief groups and books fall back on the ‘You are not alone’ cliché. But I am and that's the problem. #grief #bereavement #alone
I got really down the other night and scrawled a note about the people who sent flowers when he died thinking they'd 'dealt' with the situation. Well done them! Nearly two years on I'm alone and struggling and the flowers and their senders are long gone. #grief #bereavement
May 15, 2025 at 9:35 AM
I got really down the other night and scrawled a note about the people who sent flowers when he died thinking they'd 'dealt' with the situation. Well done them! Nearly two years on I'm alone and struggling and the flowers and their senders are long gone. #grief #bereavement
Last night after midnight a friend phoned my number by mistake. And when it rang I just felt confused. There is no more bad news to come because I'm totally alone now. And no one will ever ring me with urgent news in the middle of the night again. Is that a good thing? #grief #alone
May 7, 2025 at 9:45 AM
Yup.
I feel like a Roomba stuck in a corner. I keep turning myself a little bit, moving forward a little bit, but just hitting the wall. Over and over again, never getting out of a place that’s clearly escapable, every time running into the permanence of death.
May 7, 2025 at 9:25 AM
Yup.
People keep confusing me with the person I was when he was here. Apparently I'm always busy and out all the time. So who is that person who sits on the sofa alone most nights? #grief #alone #widowed #partnerloss
April 25, 2025 at 10:39 AM
People keep confusing me with the person I was when he was here. Apparently I'm always busy and out all the time. So who is that person who sits on the sofa alone most nights? #grief #alone #widowed #partnerloss
April 23, 2025 at 10:45 AM
Wouldn't it be nice if people's sympathy lasted as long as your grief? But I'd barely started grieving when the kindness stopped. #grief #widowed #bereavement #loss
April 14, 2025 at 10:20 AM
Wouldn't it be nice if people's sympathy lasted as long as your grief? But I'd barely started grieving when the kindness stopped. #grief #widowed #bereavement #loss