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Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 1h

Writing is research, listening, sailing, walking, disappearing — then a page appears. ✍️💛

#WritingCommunity #ConsciousRelationshipDesign #BookWriting

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Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 2d

Editing isn’t grammar — it’s diplomacy.

Dozens of voices, one shared rhythm. 🌍✍️

Seeking someone to work on a complicated, multi-voiced project? DM me.
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#Editing #Communication

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Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 5d

“As the digital and human realms intertwine, the potential for AI to enrich our relationships is profound — and imminent.” 🤖💙

consciousrelationshipdesign...

#Writing #ConsciousRelationshipDesign #FutureOfLove

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 6d

FOCUS • SCOPE • BOUNDARIES

When those align, you don’t just do more — you matter more. 🌿

DM “clarity” for next week’s free 30-minute diagnostic sessions. Limited to 3.

#Productivity #DeepWork

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 7d

Workshop prep = creative chaos in disguise.

Paris 7 Nov 💛

Needing a workshop to transform your team or surface and test your ideas? DM me. 😀

#Facilitation #DesignThinking #Cocreation #Collaboration

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 9d

Wrapped the OECD Government at a Glance Southeast Asia 2025 report a week or so ago 🌏

150 pages · 80 figures and tables · one all-nighter.

Editing = design in service of clarity. ✍️ #EditingLife #OECD

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 10d

Don’t know if I can help, but let me know if I can. ☺️

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 11d

Meaning you'd like to develop your own alpha readers group? Or something else? Say more?

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Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 12d

Writing a book on Conscious Relationship Design - how we can design relationships and connection on purpose.

Looking for a few alpha readers.

Curious? DM me. 📚💛 #WritingCommunity #ConsciousRelationshipDesign
Photo by Sincerely Media on Unsplash.

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Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 12d

Prepping a workshop = curating energy.

Paris, 7 Nov → playing with goal and vision discovery with practical, concrete outcomes. 🎨🧠

#Facilitation #AWG

Photo by Walls.io on Unsplash.

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 14d

Most of us are severely underqualified listeners - not because we don't hear words, but because we miss what lives in the spaces between them.
This month: what neurodivergent relationship patterns can teach us about conscious design. 🔗 open.substack.com/pub/consc...
Alpha readers wanted - DM me.

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · 16d

Just edited a book with nearly 280,000 teachers' voices from 50 countries.

Editing = the art of quiet translation. 🌍✏️ #EditingLife #OECD #Teachers #TALIS

www.oecd.org/en/publicati...

Results from TALIS 2024

The OECD Teaching and Learning International Survey (TALIS) is the world’s largest survey of teachers and principals. In 2024, educators from 55 education systems provided information about what they ...

www.oecd.org

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Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · Sep 1

🎯 My TEDx talk hit #1 Editor's Pick last week!

25k+ views in 6 days.

The response? People are thinking about how they can DESIGN their relationships instead of accepting default scripts.

Watch: youtu.be/USeLTbvHdnw

#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #TED #Relationships
TED: Ideas Change Everything

Why we need to talk about sexual desires | Julie Harris | TEDxMünster

YouTube video by TEDx Talks

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Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · Aug 16

You don't love all your partners equally.

You don't give all your friends equal attention.

You never will.

Stop pretending.

Start designing for it.

consciousrelationshipdesign.substack.com/p/who-gets-y... #consciousrelationshipdesign

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · Jul 25

Me: gives TEDx talk about desire & #consciousrelationshipdesign

Life: "Cool. Now do it."

Me: "Wait, what—"

Life: "DO. IT."

[12 mos. of spectacular failing ensues]

Anyway, I'm back with stories and a huge wallop of humility.

Full debrief: consciousrelationshipdesign.substack.com/p/ive-been-f...

I've been failing ... spectacularly

And ... I'm back, with stories from the field, to tell

consciousrelationshipdesign.substack.com

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · May 31

Bella De Paulo’s latest piece isn’t shocking. It raises the exact questions we explore in Conscious Relationship Design.

What if marriage were not the pinnacle, a resolution, an endpoint?

medium.com/fourth-wave/year...

#CRD #BellaDePaulo #SingleAtHeart

Year after Year, Married People Become Less Satisfied with Life

Are they missing their single lives?

medium.com

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Justin Lehmiller @justinlehmiller.bsky.social · May 28

New study suggests that individuals who practice BDSM tend to have healthier psychological profiles on average than non-practitioners, exhibiting more secure attachment styles, lower rejection sensitivity, and higher levels of well-being. www.psypost.org/bdsm-practit...

BDSM practitioners exhibit higher secure attachment and lower neuroticism

A new study from Spain replicates earlier findings showing BDSM practitioners score higher in psychological well-being and secure attachment.

www.psypost.org

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Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · May 24

Currently absconding to a secret hideaway and an experiment: a 1-week silent #writing retreat. What would you like me to write about next:

Navigating ethical non-monogamy: Its very best, its very worst
Visiting an afternoon libertine club in Paris
Women's play: In private and public

#CRD #research

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Justin Lehmiller @justinlehmiller.bsky.social · May 23

The number of adult virgins is at a record high. Many of these folks would like to be having sex, but cannot find a partner--they are involuntarily celibate. In today's show, we're diving into the psychology of incels with @williamcostello.bsky.social www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast...

Episode 399: The Psychology of Incels (Essential Listen) - Sex and Psychology

Incels are a growing segment of the population, but they aren’t exactly who we think they are. In this episode, we go inside the minds of incels.

www.sexandpsychology.com

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Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · Apr 29

Marriage hack: Live on different continents 🌏

She moved 10,000 miles away from her husband at 56.

15 years later? Still happily married.

Would you? Could you?

Read more and comment here! substack.com/@jhwordsmith...

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · Apr 20

💡What if marriage came with an upgrade option? We wrote a 20‑yr re‑eval clause—now 4‑ & 5‑yr “fixed‑term” contracts are buzzing.

Forever isn’t automatic; it’s designed.

How long would yours be? 👉 substack.com/profile/2949...

#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #MarriageDesign

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · Apr 19

🤖❤️ What if AI could spot the tiny cracks in your relationship before you do? (No, this isn't dystopian - it's weirdly romantic)

Just designed the goofiest 7-day experiment: analyse your texts, add one micro-ritual, watch your connection shift. Consent required.

substack.com/@jhwordsmith...

Julie Harris on Substack

The One-Week AI Relationship Experiment That's Actually Fun (Promise!) Let's debunk the dystopian elephant in the room first: no, this isn't about AI spying on your love life or replacing human conne...

substack.com

Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · Apr 11

🔍 Which of these 9 relationship trends are reshaping how we love in 2025?

From intentional dating to human-AI connections, the way we build relationships is evolving faster than ever.

Dive into the full breakdown on Substack ↓
substack.com/profile/2949...

#CRD #RelationshipTrends

Julie Harris on Substack

🔥 9 Relationship Trends Reshaping How We Connect in 2025 🔥 Curious which of these are directly connected to Conscious Relationship Design? (Hint: It's more than you might think!) Intentional Dating ...

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Justin Lehmiller @justinlehmiller.bsky.social · Apr 6

Research finds that intelligence and kindness are the most desired traits in a partner, even in comparison to beauty, money, or health. This is true for both men and women and across sexual orientations. www.psypost.org/intelligence...

Intelligence and kindness are the most valued traits in romantic partners, study finds

New research finds that intelligence and kindness are the most valued traits in a partner, overshadowing physical attractiveness, health, and socioeconomic status.

www.psypost.org

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Julie Harris @jhwordsmith.bsky.social · Apr 5

Have you heard of the "Sexodoro" technique—where intimacy meets productivity?

Making love before making progress might be the ultimate productivity hack.

Conscious Relationship Design strikes again!

Full thoughts here: substack.com/@jhwordsmith...

#CRD #Productivity

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