Julie Harris
jhwordsmith.bsky.social
Julie Harris
@jhwordsmith.bsky.social
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Relationship Scientist | TEDx Speaker (TED.com Editor’s Pick) | Author, Editor & Experience Designer | https://consciousrelationshipdesign.substack.com/
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Editing isn’t grammar — it’s diplomacy.

Dozens of voices, one shared rhythm. 🌍✍️

Seeking someone to work on a complicated, multi-voiced project? DM me.
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#Editing #Communication
“As the digital and human realms intertwine, the potential for AI to enrich our relationships is profound — and imminent.” 🤖💙

consciousrelationshipdesign...

#Writing #ConsciousRelationshipDesign #FutureOfLove
FOCUS • SCOPE • BOUNDARIES

When those align, you don’t just do more — you matter more. 🌿

DM “clarity” for next week’s free 30-minute diagnostic sessions. Limited to 3.

#Productivity #DeepWork
Workshop prep = creative chaos in disguise.

Paris 7 Nov 💛

Needing a workshop to transform your team or surface and test your ideas? DM me. 😀

#Facilitation #DesignThinking #Cocreation #Collaboration
Wrapped the OECD Government at a Glance Southeast Asia 2025 report a week or so ago 🌏

150 pages · 80 figures and tables · one all-nighter.

Editing = design in service of clarity. ✍️ #EditingLife #OECD
Don’t know if I can help, but let me know if I can. ☺️
Meaning you'd like to develop your own alpha readers group? Or something else? Say more?
Writing a book on Conscious Relationship Design - how we can design relationships and connection on purpose.

Looking for a few alpha readers.

Curious? DM me. 📚💛 #WritingCommunity #ConsciousRelationshipDesign
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Prepping a workshop = curating energy.

Paris, 7 Nov → playing with goal and vision discovery with practical, concrete outcomes. 🎨🧠

#Facilitation #AWG

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Most of us are severely underqualified listeners - not because we don't hear words, but because we miss what lives in the spaces between them.
This month: what neurodivergent relationship patterns can teach us about conscious design. 🔗 open.substack.com/pub/consc...
Alpha readers wanted - DM me.
🎯 My TEDx talk hit #1 Editor's Pick last week!

25k+ views in 6 days.

The response? People are thinking about how they can DESIGN their relationships instead of accepting default scripts.

Watch: youtu.be/USeLTbvHdnw

#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #TED #Relationships
TED: Ideas Change Everything
Why we need to talk about sexual desires | Julie Harris | TEDxMünster
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You don't love all your partners equally.

You don't give all your friends equal attention.

You never will.

Stop pretending.

Start designing for it.

consciousrelationshipdesign.substack.com/p/who-gets-y... #consciousrelationshipdesign
Me: gives TEDx talk about desire & #consciousrelationshipdesign

Life: "Cool. Now do it."

Me: "Wait, what—"

Life: "DO. IT."

[12 mos. of spectacular failing ensues]

Anyway, I'm back with stories and a huge wallop of humility.

Full debrief: consciousrelationshipdesign.substack.com/p/ive-been-f...
I've been failing ... spectacularly
And ... I'm back, with stories from the field, to tell
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Bella De Paulo’s latest piece isn’t shocking. It raises the exact questions we explore in Conscious Relationship Design.

What if marriage were not the pinnacle, a resolution, an endpoint?

medium.com/fourth-wave/year...

#CRD #BellaDePaulo #SingleAtHeart
Year after Year, Married People Become Less Satisfied with Life
Are they missing their single lives?
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New study suggests that individuals who practice BDSM tend to have healthier psychological profiles on average than non-practitioners, exhibiting more secure attachment styles, lower rejection sensitivity, and higher levels of well-being. www.psypost.org/bdsm-practit...
BDSM practitioners exhibit higher secure attachment and lower neuroticism
A new study from Spain replicates earlier findings showing BDSM practitioners score higher in psychological well-being and secure attachment.
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Currently absconding to a secret hideaway and an experiment: a 1-week silent #writing retreat. What would you like me to write about next:

Navigating ethical non-monogamy: Its very best, its very worst
Visiting an afternoon libertine club in Paris
Women's play: In private and public

#CRD #research
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Marriage hack: Live on different continents 🌏

She moved 10,000 miles away from her husband at 56.

15 years later? Still happily married.

Would you? Could you?

Read more and comment here! substack.com/@jhwordsmith...
💡What if marriage came with an upgrade option? We wrote a 20‑yr re‑eval clause—now 4‑ & 5‑yr “fixed‑term” contracts are buzzing.

Forever isn’t automatic; it’s designed.

How long would yours be? 👉 substack.com/profile/2949...

#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #MarriageDesign
🤖❤️ What if AI could spot the tiny cracks in your relationship before you do? (No, this isn't dystopian - it's weirdly romantic)

Just designed the goofiest 7-day experiment: analyse your texts, add one micro-ritual, watch your connection shift. Consent required.

substack.com/@jhwordsmith...
Julie Harris on Substack
The One-Week AI Relationship Experiment That's Actually Fun (Promise!) Let's debunk the dystopian elephant in the room first: no, this isn't about AI spying on your love life or replacing human conne...
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🔍 Which of these 9 relationship trends are reshaping how we love in 2025?

From intentional dating to human-AI connections, the way we build relationships is evolving faster than ever.

Dive into the full breakdown on Substack ↓
substack.com/profile/2949...

#CRD #RelationshipTrends
Julie Harris on Substack
🔥 9 Relationship Trends Reshaping How We Connect in 2025 🔥 Curious which of these are directly connected to Conscious Relationship Design? (Hint: It's more than you might think!) Intentional Dating ...
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Have you heard of the "Sexodoro" technique—where intimacy meets productivity?

Making love before making progress might be the ultimate productivity hack.

Conscious Relationship Design strikes again!

Full thoughts here: substack.com/@jhwordsmith...

#CRD #Productivity
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“It is up to all of us to fix this.
It’s not going to be because somebody comes and saves you.”
President Obama yesterday

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