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Para
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She/they. 30 Fandom lurker and fic writer Constantly refers to self as "ya boi" Black and Queer 👭 Substack: https://parallelanpress.substack.com/ Fiverr: https://www.fiverr.com/s/o8y8qzx
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Me: I feel like ppl aren't understanding my personal experience

Random person: Have you considered that it's your fault?
I am going to block you.

I am not going to debate my experiences in public with someone I do not know.

Again, you assume I don't know how to communicate and that I am incapable of understanding the reactions of others.

These were ppl I knew. I do not know you. I will not debate you.
If my hysterectomy posts make you uncomfortable

Unfollow and block me

I don't fight ppl online

Even if we're mutual its 100% okay to abandon ship

Curate your own online experience
I'm very upset that you seem to imply i should consider the feelings of hypothetical others who made have had a similar experience to myself

And the assumption that I may have indirectly caused harm when airing my personal grievances about my own body

Respectfully, please disengage from me
In the conversations I reference, I was speaking entirely on my own behalf and not in a general sense. These were IRL conversations and not internet interactions in a wide/open forum like social media

I will admit this hurts because I do not know you. This thread is about how I feel ppl invalidate
Last rant is ppl with multiple kids insisting

"You don't REALLY want kids. I didn't but I'm stuck with mine"

Um??

I can't want bio kids cuz you don't like yours or your baby dady/husband/boyfriend??

Women shouldn't be this vicious to each other
I get a small amount of leeway for my physical pain but the emotional/mental toll is immediately dismissed. It's been a week but half the ppl i talk to imply i should have "gotten over it" by now

"You made a choice so what's the problem???"

Was I supposed to risk cancer???
It always wraps back around to

"Lesbians don't need a uterus/cervix anyways because they don't have sex with men"

A double dose of

"Yes you're still a woman if only because you're the kind that shouldn't care about those organs anyway"

The crazy part is its entirely other women saying this
Instead of wanting to hear WHY I feel that way

People instantly want me to know MY feelings are WRONG and I need to STOP expressing those sentiments IMMEDIATELY

It would be nice if ppl would let me sit with those feelings but they are always instantly shut down and invalidated
Another post hysterectomy phenomenon is ppl getting upset/defensive when I say I feel like less of a woman

It just comes off as so aggressive

"Don't feel like that!"

"That's not true!"

"Biology doesn't work that way! You're being irrational!"

It's like i can't even openly express my feelings
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Another thing Im being told to just take pain meds

My brother in Christ i can only take 1 pill every 6 hrs

They wear off after 3-4 hrs

So mathematically, yes im still gonna be in pain for a good chunk of the day

Plus too much tylenol/ibuprofen consumption can cause other problems
Yes

Even ppl comparing me to others who had the surgery and "recovered quickly" "didn't complain abou pain" "went back to work with no issue"

And its like

Sorry I'm a lil bitch but I cant handle constant pain and work stress at the same time

My tummy hurts and ppl already be yelling at me 😭
Thank you

I try not to rant & know no one owes me sympathy/understanding

Been blown away how rude/harsh ppl IRL have been

Had to leave work early and there was mild bitching about it from coworkers

Can't even take a half day w/o ppl being mean😭
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I do accept the hysterectomy was the right call in the long run for my health but I never expected so many different ppl to be so wholly unsympathetic and/or extremely judgmental about something that does not affect them in anyway

Take out ya uterus and suddenly you're a shit person
But nothing quite tops ppl telling me I'm not mentally stable enough to handle pregnancy, childbirth, and actually raisinga baby

Bro I'd be fine if you pointed out I'm too broke to be a parent but saying I deserve to have no uterus because im "crazy" is just ????
Week 2 post hysterectomy & I've been told:

"You're a lesbian so its not like you were going to get pregnant anyways"

And

"Don't worry, you can probably still find a nice man to marry and you two can adopt"

The different flavors of homophobia I'm getting disgused as advice is truly baffling