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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 4h

Apparently I need to watch The Pitt?

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amanda moore 🐢 @noturtlesoup17.bsky.social · 18h

The inflatables have made it to Broadview.

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 5h

I appreciate y’all indulging my brainworm tonight. Been noodling that ego thing since yesterday.

Wouldn’t have dared asked that on the bird app LMAO

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 5h

And that’s that

The RAD Seed @theradseed.blacksky.app · 5h

Any salad I put ceasar on is a ceasar salad

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The Magical Merchant @thetillshow.blacksky.app · 6h

Oh. Then no. Because relationships require emotional investment, and that requires care. The cost of love is grief and the cost of taking a chance is disappointment

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𝐛𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐚 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐛𝐮𝐦 💋💜 @jessijeannie.bsky.social · 6h

let’s speak into each other more, check on each other without being asked, and choose kindness over everything else. the world is heavy, and a little love and attention go a long way.

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Spooky Yambazzador 👻 @dessertnotdemure.bsky.social · 5h

I enjoy intimacy, affection and closeness but I don’t wanna have sex all the time. Where do I meet ppl who understand this and respect my boundaries?

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Henny Gesserit @nmjmredux.blacksky.app · 6h

That belief kept me in a relationship at least five or six years longer than I should have been there. Longevity is praised above happiness and we see our parents with these 20 or 30-year marriages and they're miserable. Being together but hating it the whole time is not something to Aspire to

VaJenell Hugh-Briss @finalgirlboss.bsky.social · 9h

We need to have the conversation tho. Ppl are refusing to exit dead relationships cuz they view breakups as failures. Incompatibility isn’t a factor when the alternative (being single) is considered worse.

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Spookay Nay @notoriouslynay.blacksky.app · 5h

This whole convo really proves that all the relationship types are needed

Tiny (Spooky) Terror™️ @thetinyterror.blacksky.app · 6h

Ok so - I hate this.
You are not a package. You can’t be “delivered wrong”

A positive connection is just that. Why sever that simply because you aren’t a fit romantically?

There’s no rules that say the parameters of relationships are impervious. You can decide to change them.

✨Pretty, Witty, Girly, Worldly✨ @asdoseofreality.blacksky.app · 6h

Absolutely once I embraced the philosophy of “you can be the perfect package at the wrong address” it made rejection much easier

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 5h

This is Stephen Miller’s brainchild. That man is a particular breed of sociopath.

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 5h

The the psychological terror was and is ultimate goal, unfortunately

Bom Tellino @bomtellino.bsky.social · 15h

It’s been said but it bears repeating: in addition to the people being abducted, all Chicagoans are being psychologically terrorized. Seeing feds driving/walking around and videos of violent attacks in places you know and love will fuck you up. Get ready, it’s coming to all of America soon.

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 5h

I still feel human relationships and community aren’t that cut and dry, or at least they aren’t supposed to be.

But everybody’s working with the guidelines that best fit their lives and situations, and it’s in everybody’s best interest to respect one another’s mindset, in that regard.

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Tiny (Spooky) Terror™️ @thetinyterror.blacksky.app · 5h

I understand that approach and I respect it.

It just doesn’t jive with my worldview.

ICE TEA @immaculateice.bsky.social · 5h

If I wanted a platonic relationship, I would look for a platonic relationship. If I'm seeking a romantic partner and it doesn't work out, then it don't work out.

Tiny (Spooky) Terror™️ @thetinyterror.blacksky.app · 6h

Ok so - I hate this.
You are not a package. You can’t be “delivered wrong”

A positive connection is just that. Why sever that simply because you aren’t a fit romantically?

There’s no rules that say the parameters of relationships are impervious. You can decide to change them.

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 5h

The tricky part is praxis. I don’t think it’s emotional regulation so much as keeping the proper perspective as you move forward

Don’t take it personal, even if it feels VERY personal

Self worth and self assurance doesn’t mean you’re entitled to another person’s space and energy in any capacity

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 5h

Having gotten a range of response tonight, my takeaway that it’s necessary to not allow ego to factor into the behavioral response, regardless of the emotions felt in the moment

ICE TEA @immaculateice.bsky.social · 5h

Why wouldn't it be possible?

Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 19h

Is it possible to decouple ego from romantic rejection?

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 5h

…that can help with rationalization. It likely wouldn’t even come up unless the relationship has mainly been surface level up until that point, at least from my experience.

Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 5h

This was more of a general question because I think the parameters affect the reaction substantially. For example, IMO having rapport built prior to broaching the subject would theoretically lessen the intensity of emotions felt because you’re likely working with more info…

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Tifa | Sacred Ho🧘🏾‍♀️ @chicmojo.blacksky.app · 5h

Not if rejection triggers your ego. The problem isn’t your ego being triggered. The problem is your response to it. Your ego does not need to dictate your reaction. You can acknowledge that the rejection hurt your ego, then move on to identifying and processing your feelings. Don’t let your ego lead

Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 19h

Is it possible to decouple ego from romantic rejection?

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 5h

Agreed, that’s what got me thinking about it earlier. Lots of folks have made the point that regardless of a person’s approach, the ego ultimately has to be put aside because so much of it has little to do with you as an individual. Still can be tough in the moment to get to that place mentally.

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Mermaid @jadaskiss.blacksky.app · 6h

This and there’s a level of entitlement to go with that as well.

People truly believe the world owes them partnership

Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 9h

This definitely tracks. The rejection in and of itself isn’t necessarily doing the damage, so much as the macro level societal expectations and perceptions associated with not appearing to be desirable.

WV @mrluck07.bsky.social · 19h

I'm not sure but I think the key is decoupling self-worth from romance. Society has ingrained the idea of romantic relationships being a matter of worth in ppl when it really is a matter of compatibility.

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 6h

Like I can get there, mentally.

But I gotta GET there.

Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 6h

I think I’m keyed on the feeling the rejection specifically with what I’m addressing. Cuz I’m with y’all on this being the correct approach to processing things on the back end

The Magical Merchant @thetillshow.blacksky.app · 6h

Yes. Doesn't mean you don't feel the rejection. But, everything ain't about you and everything ain't about them.

Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 19h

Is it possible to decouple ego from romantic rejection?

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The RAD Seed @theradseed.blacksky.app · 6h

Physically, sex is wonderful. It's a great time. And there are ppl I made great memories with, clothed as well as not. But I'd rather forfeit the naked times if they were still around for jokey texts and fun hangs.

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 6h

If I gotta choose between protecting my peace and mentals over pursuit of romance, I’m choosing the first one 10/10 times.

I’d MUCH rather it not have to be a choice in the first place, though.

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 6h

I’m with you on this in spirit, but the place I got to get to emotionally to even put myself out there on that level is hard to then lock back up and turn all of the lights again with no repercussions to my mental energy.

✨Pretty, Witty, Girly, Worldly✨ @asdoseofreality.blacksky.app · 6h

Absolutely once I embraced the philosophy of “you can be the perfect package at the wrong address” it made rejection much easier

Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 19h

Is it possible to decouple ego from romantic rejection?

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