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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️

@transducer.bsky.social

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🏳️‍⚧️🚺, finally 🐣ing & posting through it (💊24-12-06, 💉25-06-24). She/her. 40. Call an informed consent clinic TODAY to make an appt for HRT, even if you don’t want it—by the time the appt happens, who knows? There is still time. The time will pass anyway.

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · Aug 26

Well y’all, a bish welcomes any thoughts on the matter, bc it do be that time lol

Again, I’m most looking for tactical advice in doing this as an out trans woman, which is the new part for me this go-round 🏳️‍⚧️🚺🤷🏻‍♀️ Some of y’all are uniquely qualified, among my friends, to share that perspective!

Looking towards the setting sun, a woman stands on a sidewalk watching a bus go past her reading “not in service.” Words superimposed over the orange sky read “alright, time for a job search”

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 1h

fortunately, I *have* come out, I *am* transing my whole gender… 😤💖 I may be curmudgeonly when I’m old, but I *won’t* be a man! 🚹🙅🏻‍♀️🏳️‍⚧️🚺🙋🏻‍♀️

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 1h

Actually, at that point, I imagine I *would* scowl at a cute couple of queer ladies with brightly colored hair—I’d scowl out of envy & self-loathing so hot they burned. Cut that “me” open like I Saw the TV Glow & molten lava gushes out, engulfing the whole pit stop…

oops now I made myself sad 😣🤦🏻‍♀️😅

Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 1h

I’m with you, Asha—I’ve actually made several pretty significant life decisions with the goal of *not* being a curmudgeonly old man at a West Virginia pit stop, so I reject the premise of the question 😜

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 2h

not if I gush about you first, bish! 😜💖 it was so wonderful of you to take a detour for me—even more wonderful to meet you in person, where you’re every bit as lovely & charming as you are online! Thank you so much! 💖

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 6h

you’re probably right; I suspect there are more than a few folks who do hold that definition 🫤

(in my personal experience, the majority of your sales are childless queers using “gifts for cousin’s kids” as an excuse to purchase, read, & pass on comics we don’t have shelf space to keep lol 😝😅)

Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 6h

yeah like. Even IF we posit everything the woman said in that screenshot is true… “getting money from conservative parents to slip their kids a low-key subversive comic by a trans woman” isn’t *not* praxis 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 6h

the best time to start transing your gender “for a costume” is twenty-two-and-a-half years ago; the second best time is today

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 6h

I believe it 😉 Just keep it going, girl; you’re progressing fine 💖

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Sable, Public Universal Momfriend 🏳️‍⚧️ @ghostlysable.bsky.social · 7h

I think we should make transition so easy to access and so socially accepted that cis people actually do start transitioning for absurd reasons

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 7h

I know, Asha, and I do. 💖 you’re not beholden to anyone for this—certainly not to me—but I hope you’re able to practice a little bit (and a bit more every day, or week, or month, or year) of forgiveness for yourself 🫂

Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 7h

girl if you’re trying to get me to agree to devalue you, imo not a good use of your time. 😉🫂💛 I encourage you to let these thoughts pass, when you have them. The more I write self-deprecating thoughts down & rationalize them to people (friends, therapists, etc), the worse I feel, in my experience.

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 7h

if it helps (& apologies if this is butting in): in my experience just becoming a regular at a coffee shop can be a great start. Pick someplace—almost anyplace—and show up there repeatedly over a period of time, being low-key friendly & pleasant. Having somewhere people smile to see you is healing.

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 7h

I encourage you to do what you can to Not dwell in that feeling, or to think of reasons why it might not be true (for example, I’m guessing your doctorate did not evaporate overnight 😉)

Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 7h

Yeah it’s a real double-edged sword. The freedom to leave one place is the freedom to stay in another… but neither of those is inherently the braver or better option 🫤

Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 7h

honestly the more I think about it the less sure I am that there’s any cis explanation at all

Like I get a lot of it as an allegory for parenthood but like, the “build me a wife or I’ll destroy yours” part doesn’t super work there imo

Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 7h

my guess would be, she already has it

(“of course I have no choice but to ‘pretend’ to be a woman on Twitch, clearly this is the only way to make money and surely the first thought of every cis dude with access to this technology” uh huh. Sure, Jan. 🙄🥚🏳️‍⚧️)

Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 7h

I know, babe 🫂 hang in there

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 7h

I’m sure I’m not the only person here who can relate to feeling that ache on some level 🫂 my sympathies, Asha. You’re not a failure but I know how the distorted thinking goes. 😔

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emily moonlight @threnody.bsky.social · 9h

but since i’m not a ghoul who only cares about elections, the thing here that made me cry is that it seems to have a genuine “actually not only are trans people not a threat, they’re pretty amazing” vibe that i don’t think i’ve seen in a big campaign before & it isn’t a condescending “wow so brave.”

Zohran Kwame Mamdani @zohrankmamdani.bsky.social · 15h

UNTIL IT’S DONE, Ep. 4: Sylvia Rivera

In the 1970s, queer New Yorkers had been pushed to the margins of NYC. Our trans neighbors faced immense cruelty. But in Sylvia Rivera, they found a champion.

As we combat Trump’s politics of darkness, her legacy can light the path forward.

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 1d

like, it wasn’t going to get better if I kept waiting longer & longer to start. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I get gendered correctly now, like, ever. And honestly that still feels so new & dazzling that I’m still getting used to it lol 😅

(This ⬇️ was a very helpful framing for me)

Thea Leaves 🍃🍵 @thealeaves.bsky.social · Jul 13

Yes, since I have come out, I do get misgendered. It sucks. But I *only* got misgendered before I came out. Now I'm me in a way I never was before. Give yourself that chance.

Jordan! @jordanjamboree.bsky.social · Jul 13

This is a joke, but it also sucks how many of yall keep yourself in the psychic prison. You know it doesn't get better until you're out for everyone right? Things are better than your fear says they will be

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 12h

Aw, you too girl. 💖 I didn’t even realize I was doing a metaphor there 😅 the coffee has absolutely not kicked in yet 🫠

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Hannah Who @notablyuncool.bsky.social · 6d

When a trans person says “this is who I am,” the world gets a little more honest.

Whether it’s ready or not.

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 13h

get that bitch on estrogen, we can save her

Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 13h

Definitely thought today was Sunday for a good hour or two so realizing it’s actually Saturday is giving me “when Scrooge wakes up she realizes it’s Christmas and there’s still time” euphoria

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Jen (early transition arc) 🏳️‍⚧️ @transducer.bsky.social · 13h

I think if you build the first part right you get the second part free