Jen “cool older trans lady trying her best”
@transducer.bsky.social
40, she/her, east coast. Live-blogging transition since 2023. 🏳️⚧️💊24-12-06; 🏳️⚧️💉25-06-24
My posts are about me, not you. Go write your own—I’d love to read them! 💖
Start HRT now, figure the rest out later.
There is still time. The time will pass either way.
My posts are about me, not you. Go write your own—I’d love to read them! 💖
Start HRT now, figure the rest out later.
There is still time. The time will pass either way.
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Well y’all, a bish welcomes any thoughts on the matter, bc it do be that time lol
Again, I’m most looking for tactical advice in doing this as an out trans woman, which is the new part for me this go-round 🏳️⚧️🚺🤷🏻♀️ Some of y’all are uniquely qualified, among my friends, to share that perspective!
Again, I’m most looking for tactical advice in doing this as an out trans woman, which is the new part for me this go-round 🏳️⚧️🚺🤷🏻♀️ Some of y’all are uniquely qualified, among my friends, to share that perspective!
I’ve been wrestling with whether to tell a story from today on here. I worry it’s insensitive bc like… I know a lot of us don’t have great relationships with our moms (which is also true of ppl who are cis and/or non-women, ofc)…
But this account is about me. So it’s a story I want to put here.
But this account is about me. So it’s a story I want to put here.
November 26, 2025 at 3:52 AM
I’ve been wrestling with whether to tell a story from today on here. I worry it’s insensitive bc like… I know a lot of us don’t have great relationships with our moms (which is also true of ppl who are cis and/or non-women, ofc)…
But this account is about me. So it’s a story I want to put here.
But this account is about me. So it’s a story I want to put here.
kinda feels like I had more I wanted to write about the mother-daughter-shopping-trip thing
not to mention my final session with my therapist of eight years (who gets more credit for my transition than anyone other than Sweetie [and myself])
but idk. Maybe not for the TL rn. Ya girl is drained. 😮💨
not to mention my final session with my therapist of eight years (who gets more credit for my transition than anyone other than Sweetie [and myself])
but idk. Maybe not for the TL rn. Ya girl is drained. 😮💨
November 25, 2025 at 10:41 PM
kinda feels like I had more I wanted to write about the mother-daughter-shopping-trip thing
not to mention my final session with my therapist of eight years (who gets more credit for my transition than anyone other than Sweetie [and myself])
but idk. Maybe not for the TL rn. Ya girl is drained. 😮💨
not to mention my final session with my therapist of eight years (who gets more credit for my transition than anyone other than Sweetie [and myself])
but idk. Maybe not for the TL rn. Ya girl is drained. 😮💨
Oh—after Mom & I headed to our separate parking garages (big mall) I did get a sort of sideways glance from this really hench, into-his-masculinity guy about six inches shorter than I am (so like 5’6”ish).
But I’m choosing to interpret that as him seeing “tall woman” and being like “🥺 uppies?”
😎💅🏻
But I’m choosing to interpret that as him seeing “tall woman” and being like “🥺 uppies?”
😎💅🏻
Like last week with the Australian, I think it is/was really good for me to go out in public with someone I trust and just absorb into my body that… it’s fine. No one gives a shit 🤷🏻♀️
(If they can even be said with certainty to have noticed at all! Which… 🤷🏻♀️ No one that I noticed noticing me, anyhow)
(If they can even be said with certainty to have noticed at all! Which… 🤷🏻♀️ No one that I noticed noticing me, anyhow)
November 25, 2025 at 10:04 PM
Oh—after Mom & I headed to our separate parking garages (big mall) I did get a sort of sideways glance from this really hench, into-his-masculinity guy about six inches shorter than I am (so like 5’6”ish).
But I’m choosing to interpret that as him seeing “tall woman” and being like “🥺 uppies?”
😎💅🏻
But I’m choosing to interpret that as him seeing “tall woman” and being like “🥺 uppies?”
😎💅🏻
Telling Sweetie I’ll get this for them if they promise to put it on their work laptop (their job is ‘websites’).
Then when people ask Sweetie to share the knowledge, they can be like:
“Step one: find a lady who’s still not totally sure she isn’t a dude. Step two: sliiiiiiide in those DMs”
Then when people ask Sweetie to share the knowledge, they can be like:
“Step one: find a lady who’s still not totally sure she isn’t a dude. Step two: sliiiiiiide in those DMs”
November 25, 2025 at 10:00 PM
Telling Sweetie I’ll get this for them if they promise to put it on their work laptop (their job is ‘websites’).
Then when people ask Sweetie to share the knowledge, they can be like:
“Step one: find a lady who’s still not totally sure she isn’t a dude. Step two: sliiiiiiide in those DMs”
Then when people ask Sweetie to share the knowledge, they can be like:
“Step one: find a lady who’s still not totally sure she isn’t a dude. Step two: sliiiiiiide in those DMs”
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mass "no take only throw" ideology coming home to collect on the fuckin bill
November 25, 2025 at 9:09 PM
mass "no take only throw" ideology coming home to collect on the fuckin bill
Overall the mother-daughter shopping trip went well. ☺️ Mom seemed happy too, as we parted ways after a good conversation over lunch. I might enjoy salads now? Ch-ch-ch-changes.
Anyway I’m getting a nice girly warm coat for Xmas. 😊 Very exciting; only so many places I can wear the Pikachu poncho lol
Anyway I’m getting a nice girly warm coat for Xmas. 😊 Very exciting; only so many places I can wear the Pikachu poncho lol
November 25, 2025 at 7:29 PM
Overall the mother-daughter shopping trip went well. ☺️ Mom seemed happy too, as we parted ways after a good conversation over lunch. I might enjoy salads now? Ch-ch-ch-changes.
Anyway I’m getting a nice girly warm coat for Xmas. 😊 Very exciting; only so many places I can wear the Pikachu poncho lol
Anyway I’m getting a nice girly warm coat for Xmas. 😊 Very exciting; only so many places I can wear the Pikachu poncho lol
Mom bought me my first dress 🥰
(not “my first dress,” but “of my dresses, the first one bought for me by my mom”… you get what I mean)
(not “my first dress,” but “of my dresses, the first one bought for me by my mom”… you get what I mean)
November 25, 2025 at 5:29 PM
Mom bought me my first dress 🥰
(not “my first dress,” but “of my dresses, the first one bought for me by my mom”… you get what I mean)
(not “my first dress,” but “of my dresses, the first one bought for me by my mom”… you get what I mean)
what do we think of the sweater? Colors are a bit on the nose but imo that’s a feature not a bug
(the top is mine from home lol)
(pardon the glow, it’s warm as heck in here)
(the top is mine from home lol)
(pardon the glow, it’s warm as heck in here)
November 25, 2025 at 4:59 PM
what do we think of the sweater? Colors are a bit on the nose but imo that’s a feature not a bug
(the top is mine from home lol)
(pardon the glow, it’s warm as heck in here)
(the top is mine from home lol)
(pardon the glow, it’s warm as heck in here)
Mall time. Did a couple stints working here back in the day, most notably at the Apple Store around the time the iPhone originally launched (I’m old, deal). If only that kid could see me now.
November 25, 2025 at 4:06 PM
Mall time. Did a couple stints working here back in the day, most notably at the Apple Store around the time the iPhone originally launched (I’m old, deal). If only that kid could see me now.
Jesus, Jen. Stop dooming around on your phone. Drink your coffee, get some clothes on, and go meet your mother for a shopping trip already.
November 25, 2025 at 3:07 PM
Jesus, Jen. Stop dooming around on your phone. Drink your coffee, get some clothes on, and go meet your mother for a shopping trip already.
When you come up with the “perfect comeback” a year and change too late.
“L’esprit d’escalier” for slowing the global descent into open fascism. Lovely 🫠
“L’esprit d’escalier” for slowing the global descent into open fascism. Lovely 🫠
November 25, 2025 at 3:06 PM
When you come up with the “perfect comeback” a year and change too late.
“L’esprit d’escalier” for slowing the global descent into open fascism. Lovely 🫠
“L’esprit d’escalier” for slowing the global descent into open fascism. Lovely 🫠
😮💨 okay. In advance of eventual laser/electro, all I can do is:
1. shave as close as I possibly can
2. apply a bunch of color-corrector/concealer/foundation
3. deal with it
And #2 isn’t very friendly to wearing a KN95, going clothes shopping, OR the time I have available (I’m already late 🤦🏻♀️), so 🤷🏻♀️
1. shave as close as I possibly can
2. apply a bunch of color-corrector/concealer/foundation
3. deal with it
And #2 isn’t very friendly to wearing a KN95, going clothes shopping, OR the time I have available (I’m already late 🤦🏻♀️), so 🤷🏻♀️
November 25, 2025 at 3:04 PM
😮💨 okay. In advance of eventual laser/electro, all I can do is:
1. shave as close as I possibly can
2. apply a bunch of color-corrector/concealer/foundation
3. deal with it
And #2 isn’t very friendly to wearing a KN95, going clothes shopping, OR the time I have available (I’m already late 🤦🏻♀️), so 🤷🏻♀️
1. shave as close as I possibly can
2. apply a bunch of color-corrector/concealer/foundation
3. deal with it
And #2 isn’t very friendly to wearing a KN95, going clothes shopping, OR the time I have available (I’m already late 🤦🏻♀️), so 🤷🏻♀️
oh right, *and* tomorrow’s my last session with my therapist of the last eight years. No wonder my brain’s a mess tonight.
November 25, 2025 at 5:44 AM
oh right, *and* tomorrow’s my last session with my therapist of the last eight years. No wonder my brain’s a mess tonight.
post your warning label, this is mine:
November 25, 2025 at 5:27 AM
post your warning label, this is mine:
dang y’all I am really having some mood swings tonight
what’s in this stuff anyway
what’s in this stuff anyway
November 25, 2025 at 4:03 AM
dang y’all I am really having some mood swings tonight
what’s in this stuff anyway
what’s in this stuff anyway
tmrw AM I’m meeting up with my mom at the mall for what I guess is our first mother-daughter shopping trip?
Feeling unprepared, “how is this even supposed to work, what would a cis woman do if this were a new experience for her at age 40”
biggest consolation is that I’m sure mom feels the same lol
Feeling unprepared, “how is this even supposed to work, what would a cis woman do if this were a new experience for her at age 40”
biggest consolation is that I’m sure mom feels the same lol
November 25, 2025 at 12:01 AM
tmrw AM I’m meeting up with my mom at the mall for what I guess is our first mother-daughter shopping trip?
Feeling unprepared, “how is this even supposed to work, what would a cis woman do if this were a new experience for her at age 40”
biggest consolation is that I’m sure mom feels the same lol
Feeling unprepared, “how is this even supposed to work, what would a cis woman do if this were a new experience for her at age 40”
biggest consolation is that I’m sure mom feels the same lol
had a really interesting discussion with a friend this AM about how “clocky” and “femme” and “pretty” and “attractive” are all really meaningfully different concepts
(or at least, I feel strongly that they are)
this wasn’t really apropos of anything, but I guess it relates to all the misgendering
(or at least, I feel strongly that they are)
this wasn’t really apropos of anything, but I guess it relates to all the misgendering
November 24, 2025 at 11:58 PM
had a really interesting discussion with a friend this AM about how “clocky” and “femme” and “pretty” and “attractive” are all really meaningfully different concepts
(or at least, I feel strongly that they are)
this wasn’t really apropos of anything, but I guess it relates to all the misgendering
(or at least, I feel strongly that they are)
this wasn’t really apropos of anything, but I guess it relates to all the misgendering
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i have GOT to get dumber and hotter
November 24, 2025 at 11:35 PM
i have GOT to get dumber and hotter
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when i win at the gundam card game it’s because i’m a tactical genius that believes in the heart of the cards. when i lose it’s because the meta has become untenable and will doom the game long-term if every card in my opponent’s deck isn’t banned. also luck. and i’m NOT crying
November 24, 2025 at 10:59 PM
when i win at the gundam card game it’s because i’m a tactical genius that believes in the heart of the cards. when i lose it’s because the meta has become untenable and will doom the game long-term if every card in my opponent’s deck isn’t banned. also luck. and i’m NOT crying
what’s with people misgendering my hot friends today? stop that, world. Don’t make me time-travel to 1998, pick up a print newspaper, time-travel back to the present, roll it up, and swat you you with it 🗞️
November 24, 2025 at 11:06 PM
what’s with people misgendering my hot friends today? stop that, world. Don’t make me time-travel to 1998, pick up a print newspaper, time-travel back to the present, roll it up, and swat you you with it 🗞️
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It’s really harmful to expect kids to naturally develop emotional regulation on their own because that’s not how humans work. I wish I could convince any parent of that to save their kids the trauma and delayed emotional maturity that comes from it.
November 24, 2025 at 2:35 PM
It’s really harmful to expect kids to naturally develop emotional regulation on their own because that’s not how humans work. I wish I could convince any parent of that to save their kids the trauma and delayed emotional maturity that comes from it.
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Oops, I saw a passing comment about “he has the emotional regulation of a 10-year-old,” so here I am being a killjoy with facts: emotional regulation isn’t something we gain naturally with age. It has to be learned and practiced over time, like writing or math. And it’s never too late to learn!
November 24, 2025 at 2:35 PM
Oops, I saw a passing comment about “he has the emotional regulation of a 10-year-old,” so here I am being a killjoy with facts: emotional regulation isn’t something we gain naturally with age. It has to be learned and practiced over time, like writing or math. And it’s never too late to learn!
My app that’s supposed to lock me out of BlueSky from 11PM–5PM on weekdays is about to go off, and I’m gonna try to let it run this time 😉
Goodnight everyone. Let’s take deep breaths and try to forgive ourselves for what we went through. I love y’all. 😮💨 🫂 💖
Goodnight everyone. Let’s take deep breaths and try to forgive ourselves for what we went through. I love y’all. 😮💨 🫂 💖
yeah I think this is a case of
trans 🤝 neurodivergent
“your parents insist you’re a perfectly normal child and all your problems are things you could just choose to stop doing… but the bullies in the locker room sure do seem able to smell something intrinsically different about you, don’t they 😒”
trans 🤝 neurodivergent
“your parents insist you’re a perfectly normal child and all your problems are things you could just choose to stop doing… but the bullies in the locker room sure do seem able to smell something intrinsically different about you, don’t they 😒”
November 24, 2025 at 3:59 AM
My app that’s supposed to lock me out of BlueSky from 11PM–5PM on weekdays is about to go off, and I’m gonna try to let it run this time 😉
Goodnight everyone. Let’s take deep breaths and try to forgive ourselves for what we went through. I love y’all. 😮💨 🫂 💖
Goodnight everyone. Let’s take deep breaths and try to forgive ourselves for what we went through. I love y’all. 😮💨 🫂 💖
this is uncannily like my experience
except I just didn’t get a haircut from when covid started until I came out
and also for me the “2018” panel was like 2002-2003 and then the “2019” panel repeated for like sixteen years 🙃
except I just didn’t get a haircut from when covid started until I came out
and also for me the “2018” panel was like 2002-2003 and then the “2019” panel repeated for like sixteen years 🙃
November 23, 2025 at 11:53 PM
this is uncannily like my experience
except I just didn’t get a haircut from when covid started until I came out
and also for me the “2018” panel was like 2002-2003 and then the “2019” panel repeated for like sixteen years 🙃
except I just didn’t get a haircut from when covid started until I came out
and also for me the “2018” panel was like 2002-2003 and then the “2019” panel repeated for like sixteen years 🙃
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"Can you believe they can do second puberty now?"
"I wish they'd invent third puberty, maybe she'd finally grow up!!"
"BOHOHOHOHOHO!!"
"I wish they'd invent third puberty, maybe she'd finally grow up!!"
"BOHOHOHOHOHO!!"
statler and waldorf critiquing my gender performance
October 19, 2025 at 2:50 AM
"Can you believe they can do second puberty now?"
"I wish they'd invent third puberty, maybe she'd finally grow up!!"
"BOHOHOHOHOHO!!"
"I wish they'd invent third puberty, maybe she'd finally grow up!!"
"BOHOHOHOHOHO!!"