Gia Rave
@giarave.bsky.social
Writing about desire, honesty, and what we’re taught to hide.
Author of The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness: A Real-Talk Exploration
https://intqbf.xyz/dQMEAM
Author of The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness: A Real-Talk Exploration
https://intqbf.xyz/dQMEAM
I’ve been writing here in fragments and questions.
Some of those thoughts eventually asked for more space.
That’s how The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness came into being — not as an answer, but as a place to think more slowly about desire.
Get the book at Amazon: intqbf.xyz/dQMEAM
Some of those thoughts eventually asked for more space.
That’s how The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness came into being — not as an answer, but as a place to think more slowly about desire.
Get the book at Amazon: intqbf.xyz/dQMEAM
The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness: A Real-Talk Exploration of Desire, Curiosity, and Consent
Amazon.com: The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness: A Real-Talk Exploration of Desire, Curiosity, and Consent eBook : Rave, Gia: Kindle Store
intqbf.xyz
January 3, 2026 at 8:16 AM
I’ve been writing here in fragments and questions.
Some of those thoughts eventually asked for more space.
That’s how The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness came into being — not as an answer, but as a place to think more slowly about desire.
Get the book at Amazon: intqbf.xyz/dQMEAM
Some of those thoughts eventually asked for more space.
That’s how The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness came into being — not as an answer, but as a place to think more slowly about desire.
Get the book at Amazon: intqbf.xyz/dQMEAM
December 28, 2025 at 3:30 PM
When you notice desire,
do you usually follow it, resist it,
or try to explain it away?
do you usually follow it, resist it,
or try to explain it away?
December 27, 2025 at 7:51 AM
When you notice desire,
do you usually follow it, resist it,
or try to explain it away?
do you usually follow it, resist it,
or try to explain it away?
Desire isn’t something I try to control.
I pay attention to it.
That alone changes everything.
I pay attention to it.
That alone changes everything.
December 27, 2025 at 6:22 AM
Desire isn’t something I try to control.
I pay attention to it.
That alone changes everything.
I pay attention to it.
That alone changes everything.
Happy Kwanzaa
As families come together to light the kinara, Jen and I wish all those celebrating a joyful Kwanzaa.
May the seven principles of Kwanzaa, in particular community, purpose, and unity, guide our way toward a better future.
Happy Kwanzaa, California!
May the seven principles of Kwanzaa, in particular community, purpose, and unity, guide our way toward a better future.
Happy Kwanzaa, California!
December 26, 2025 at 10:00 PM
Happy Kwanzaa
A new book from Gia Rave exploring desire, attention, and embodiment.
Available now. intqbf.xyz/dQMEAM
Available now. intqbf.xyz/dQMEAM
Amazon.com: The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness: A Real-Talk Exploration of Desire, Curiosity, and Consent eBook : Rave, Gia: Kindle Store
Amazon.com: The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness: A Real-Talk Exploration of Desire, Curiosity, and Consent eBook : Rave, Gia: Kindle Store
intqbf.xyz
December 24, 2025 at 12:46 AM
A new book from Gia Rave exploring desire, attention, and embodiment.
Available now. intqbf.xyz/dQMEAM
Available now. intqbf.xyz/dQMEAM
It’s called The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness: A Real-Talk Exploration
It’s about desire — not how to perform it, but how to listen to it.
It’s about desire — not how to perform it, but how to listen to it.
December 23, 2025 at 11:12 AM
It’s called The Unofficial Guide to Dealing with H0rniness: A Real-Talk Exploration
It’s about desire — not how to perform it, but how to listen to it.
It’s about desire — not how to perform it, but how to listen to it.
Reposted by Gia Rave
Good morning. We are open. 📖☕️🎄
December 23, 2025 at 8:35 AM
Good morning. We are open. 📖☕️🎄
I’ve been circling these thoughts for a while now.
They eventually turned into a book.
They eventually turned into a book.
December 23, 2025 at 10:42 AM
I’ve been circling these thoughts for a while now.
They eventually turned into a book.
They eventually turned into a book.
Question:
Does desire feel more physical or more emotional for you?
Does desire feel more physical or more emotional for you?
December 22, 2025 at 12:59 AM
Question:
Does desire feel more physical or more emotional for you?
Does desire feel more physical or more emotional for you?
Question:
What helps you slow down enough to notice what you’re feeling?
What helps you slow down enough to notice what you’re feeling?
December 21, 2025 at 4:55 PM
Question:
What helps you slow down enough to notice what you’re feeling?
What helps you slow down enough to notice what you’re feeling?
Question:
Do you listen to desire when it whispers — or only when it insists?
Do you listen to desire when it whispers — or only when it insists?
December 21, 2025 at 1:22 AM
Question:
Do you listen to desire when it whispers — or only when it insists?
Do you listen to desire when it whispers — or only when it insists?
Question:
Does desire feel more like hunger, memory, or restlessness to you?
Does desire feel more like hunger, memory, or restlessness to you?
December 20, 2025 at 1:47 PM
Question:
Does desire feel more like hunger, memory, or restlessness to you?
Does desire feel more like hunger, memory, or restlessness to you?
Question:
Is desire louder for you in the morning, or late at night?
Is desire louder for you in the morning, or late at night?
December 19, 2025 at 12:30 PM
Question:
Is desire louder for you in the morning, or late at night?
Is desire louder for you in the morning, or late at night?
There’s a moment when the body decides
before the mind catches up.
I like that moment.
before the mind catches up.
I like that moment.
December 19, 2025 at 5:13 AM
There’s a moment when the body decides
before the mind catches up.
I like that moment.
before the mind catches up.
I like that moment.
Question:
When do you feel most aware of your body?
When do you feel most aware of your body?
December 18, 2025 at 11:55 PM
Question:
When do you feel most aware of your body?
When do you feel most aware of your body?
Desire doesn’t always arrive loudly.
Sometimes it waits,
patient and persistent,
until I finally pay attention
Sometimes it waits,
patient and persistent,
until I finally pay attention
December 18, 2025 at 3:20 PM
Desire doesn’t always arrive loudly.
Sometimes it waits,
patient and persistent,
until I finally pay attention
Sometimes it waits,
patient and persistent,
until I finally pay attention
Desire doesn’t always want to be acted on.
Sometimes it just wants to be noticed.
Sometimes it just wants to be noticed.
December 18, 2025 at 8:09 AM
Desire doesn’t always want to be acted on.
Sometimes it just wants to be noticed.
Sometimes it just wants to be noticed.
I don’t rush desire.
I let it stretch,
change its mind,
come back when it’s ready.
I let it stretch,
change its mind,
come back when it’s ready.
December 18, 2025 at 4:43 AM
I don’t rush desire.
I let it stretch,
change its mind,
come back when it’s ready.
I let it stretch,
change its mind,
come back when it’s ready.
I like the moments after.
When the body is quiet,
and the wanting hasn’t quite left yet.
When the body is quiet,
and the wanting hasn’t quite left yet.
December 17, 2025 at 1:36 PM
I like the moments after.
When the body is quiet,
and the wanting hasn’t quite left yet.
When the body is quiet,
and the wanting hasn’t quite left yet.
Reposted by Gia Rave
Good morning. We are open. 📖☕️🎄
December 17, 2025 at 8:34 AM
Good morning. We are open. 📖☕️🎄
Reposted by Gia Rave
Good morning. We are open. 📖☕️🎄
December 16, 2025 at 8:34 AM
Good morning. We are open. 📖☕️🎄
Reposted by Gia Rave
Alright Friends & Neighbors on #BookSky We're officially 10 days out from Xmas & hot books are starting to go out of stock. So, here's a big old thread of PSB staff picks that have at least 3 copies in stock as of, roughly, now. All 20% off!...
December 15, 2025 at 8:27 PM
Alright Friends & Neighbors on #BookSky We're officially 10 days out from Xmas & hot books are starting to go out of stock. So, here's a big old thread of PSB staff picks that have at least 3 copies in stock as of, roughly, now. All 20% off!...
Morning light.
Warm sheets.
A welcome moisture.
Some desires don't need coffee to get going.
Warm sheets.
A welcome moisture.
Some desires don't need coffee to get going.
December 15, 2025 at 4:31 PM
Morning light.
Warm sheets.
A welcome moisture.
Some desires don't need coffee to get going.
Warm sheets.
A welcome moisture.
Some desires don't need coffee to get going.
Tonight feels heavier than it should.
Holding space for grief.
Holding space for grief.
December 15, 2025 at 8:59 AM
Tonight feels heavier than it should.
Holding space for grief.
Holding space for grief.