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Remember when you thought you were gonna die of tired during the first one? Remember when you fucked your shoulder up, shoveling in a blizzard to get to the hospital during the second one only to be told to stay out because of COVID?

Look at those miracles now. You did it.

❤️

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

Last question - Write a love letter to yourself as a parent.

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🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

That I loved them and that I chose them.

I need that for them because it’s what my father took from me.

I need to right those wrongs.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

19. What do you hope your child thinks of you when they get older?

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🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

I’ve never been good at playing with toys and stuff with them. I grew up playing with toys alone. Kind of a sore spot for me.

Could definitely improve there.

Nowadays, I just pick them up and tickle them and slam them around and stuff.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

18. What could you be doing better as a parent?

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🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

When they do what’s right despite not being seen for it.

Being a good parent is the most invisible and thankless job there is.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

17. What makes someone a good parent?

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🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

My father is the reason I’m straight edge, loyal, and honest, because my hatred for him made me craft a life to balance against his.

My mother is the reason I’m kind, loving, and respectful, because I see her as an ideal I’ll never reach, but will always strive to.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

16. What is something your parents did for you that you will be forever grateful for?

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🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

Discussions and explanations. I try to alleviate confusion and be a welcome recipient to their creativity.

I also play videogames with the oldest and am the only one that can calm the youngest when he flips out.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

15. As a parent, how do you pour into your child?

🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

How it feels to get that ass whipped on Street Fighter.

He will beat me when he deserves to and I will smile for him.

Until then, he catches hands.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

14. What is something that you teach your child that your parents didn't teach you?

🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

I apologized to my mother and I pitied my father.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

13. How did your relationship with your parents change after you became a parent?

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🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

That so long as you fight, you win, even when you lose.

I have not been a flawless parent, but I’ve been there and I care and that’s what always matters on the other side of anything.

I don’t fear failing my kids because I will always be in the fight to help them grow.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

12. What is one thing about having a child that completed changed your perspective on life, something you never could've understood before becoming a parent?

🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

No one tells you how hard it is, because we haven’t invented words that can do so yet.

If you’re an at-home parent, you have to do a job that never ends and on top of that, you have to pay for the privilege.

Bananas.

Also that it’s alright if you don’t like them all the time. They’re people.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

11. What is something about parenting that no one tells you about?

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🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

From the stay-at-home perspective, the first day of school.

Later on, it’s trying to convince them they’re being stupid about a thing before they get the stupid all on’em.

Offered to help open a mango for the kid, but he “had” it. Came back after cutting his thumb open with a butterknife, cryin.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

10. What is the hardest thing about being a parent?

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🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

In the first stage, the hours. Miserable hours. Then there’s the stupid lies and the attitudes. My oldest is 10, so he doesn’t hate me yet, but that’ll probably be the next thing.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

9. What is your least favorite thing about being a parent?

🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

Watching them excel at that which they previously struggled.

Like math finally clicking in my oldest’s head or seeing him finish an Astro Bot level he was stuck on or my youngest putting on his own clothes.

Also laughing with them. We lost it watching this. youtu.be/iCvEcY-Suik?...

🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

My mom used to tell me she couldn’t teach me how to be a man.

Knowing what I know now, shit. 🤣

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

7. What is something that your parents told you that didn't age well?

🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

Apathy. I know it’s tiring and repetitive, but you still have to care.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

6. What screams 'I'm a bad parent'?

🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

I never knew the depths of my patience and understanding.

I also got extremely good at changing diapers by using minimal wipes.

The more you get with the diaper itself, the fewer wipes you need. 😉

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

5. What has being a parent taught you?

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🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

That racism was acceptable so long as it’s your people sayin or doin the racist shit.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

4. What did your parents teach you that you had to unlearn?

🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

I feel like if my dad stuck around and taught me manhood, I would’ve noped outta that shit a lot sooner and been a lot further along in my gender journey.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

3. What is something your parents never taught you that wouldve made your adult life easier?

🦇Jamie Noctilio🦇 @jamienoctilio.bsky.social · 3d

I don’t even know. Stepdad or biodad. Pretty sure I’ve been told both, but I forgot.

nai THEE corpse bride 🦋 @astoldbynai.blacksky.app · 5d

2. How did your parents meet?