Ruin Jane
@laurenjane.bsky.social
Kind not nice | Queer Pornographic Artist & Author | 41 | they / them | 21+
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Student of Death & Restorative Justice
https://www.laurenjanek.com/
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Student of Death & Restorative Justice
https://www.laurenjanek.com/
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year of kindness | lauren jane k
www.laurenjanek.com
Got tags running on my site, finally, so all my #YearOfKindness essays are in one place. I don't know if there will be more of them. I am writing a book of poems about it, though, I think.
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(most of) the books i (mostly) read in 2025, the first year I ever kept track (so my brother & I can trade lists on NYE). It was an excellent, weird and powerful year of reading, and this post was a great way to remember some favourites <3
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laurenjanek.com/post/the-year-in-books
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laurenjanek.com/post/the-year-in-books
THE YEAR IN BOOKS
My Year in Books: This year’s reading was rabid, diverse, and orbital — circling identity, grief, transformation, the odd shadow in the woods and a lot of vampire camp.
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December 15, 2025 at 6:56 PM
(most of) the books i (mostly) read in 2025, the first year I ever kept track (so my brother & I can trade lists on NYE). It was an excellent, weird and powerful year of reading, and this post was a great way to remember some favourites <3
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laurenjanek.com/post/the-year-in-books
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laurenjanek.com/post/the-year-in-books
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Nothing will prepare your body for being hog tied like Pilates.
December 14, 2025 at 1:54 PM
Nothing will prepare your body for being hog tied like Pilates.
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if you saw mommy kissing Santa Claus, no you didn't. snitches get stitches.
December 16, 2024 at 8:50 PM
if you saw mommy kissing Santa Claus, no you didn't. snitches get stitches.
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If you hurt someone by accident how would you want your partners,lovers and friends to show up for you?!
I kept someone alive so they could become a better person, and they were already really amazing to being with. 🖤
I kept someone alive so they could become a better person, and they were already really amazing to being with. 🖤
December 15, 2025 at 2:47 PM
If you hurt someone by accident how would you want your partners,lovers and friends to show up for you?!
I kept someone alive so they could become a better person, and they were already really amazing to being with. 🖤
I kept someone alive so they could become a better person, and they were already really amazing to being with. 🖤
A few people I seldom talk to but am fond of have reached out to me around the anniversary of this time to find out how my partner and I are doing and if we're okay. I've been able to say that not only are we okay, but we are planning bright futures. I have sent a few my essays
This is the essay at the heart of my #YearOfKindness everything grows from this, this collection of experiences was like a coming age, formative. Informative, transformative. We never here how anyone goes through this. This is how I did it.
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And I always think something beautiful is about to happen…
Content warning: This essay discusses BDSM consent violations, harm and abuse, assault, pregnancy loss, alt-right hate & harassment campaigns, death and sexual assault threats, trauma and trauma reco...
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December 15, 2025 at 2:33 PM
A few people I seldom talk to but am fond of have reached out to me around the anniversary of this time to find out how my partner and I are doing and if we're okay. I've been able to say that not only are we okay, but we are planning bright futures. I have sent a few my essays
By far, one of the worst outcomes of living in a technocratic misogynist society is that I cannot speech to text the word "period"
December 15, 2025 at 1:56 PM
By far, one of the worst outcomes of living in a technocratic misogynist society is that I cannot speech to text the word "period"
Everyone go wish Matt a happy belated birthday because they are great and deserve nice things 🖤
Although it was spent working, I had a really lovely birthday. Got to shine pretty lights on pretty queerdos while they took their clothes off. Got to eat cake off a very hot persons butt as is burly tradition! Ate fried chicken, and got lots of online well wishes.
Photo by @laurenjane.bsky.social
Photo by @laurenjane.bsky.social
December 15, 2025 at 1:51 PM
Everyone go wish Matt a happy belated birthday because they are great and deserve nice things 🖤
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Kindness is the only way forward
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November 16, 2025 at 3:25 AM
Kindness is the only way forward
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"quiet quitting" but all of society
December 6, 2025 at 6:57 PM
"quiet quitting" but all of society
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Because God forbid I can just put a book in my pocket.
RIP Mass market paperbacks. Always my preferred format.
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Last Call for Mass Market Paperbacks
After years of steady sales declines, the format will largely disappear next year.
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December 15, 2025 at 12:40 PM
Because God forbid I can just put a book in my pocket.
not only have I noticed this, but as I tell more people about my work with restorative justice, Ive discovered it's emotionally important for people that I "still" have a group of people I think it is acceptable to abuse. People question me, seeking reassurance
Have you noticed? When someone points to our responsibility—individual and personal, or collective and societal—to end an abuse, the question asked next is very rarely about *how* to do it, but how to *prevent* us from doing it, for fear of doing it the wrong way.
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Stories We Tell
Recognizing victims and villains is not creating victims and villains. A series on living in a culture of repair, against a culture of abuse.
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December 15, 2025 at 12:15 PM
not only have I noticed this, but as I tell more people about my work with restorative justice, Ive discovered it's emotionally important for people that I "still" have a group of people I think it is acceptable to abuse. People question me, seeking reassurance
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the worst part about recovering from an extended period of mental illness is that you have to go around and be like "oh, her?? past sarah??? yeah she was nuts idk what that was about"
December 15, 2025 at 1:07 AM
the worst part about recovering from an extended period of mental illness is that you have to go around and be like "oh, her?? past sarah??? yeah she was nuts idk what that was about"
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A lot of very cool news lately!! My local queer sex boutique and bookstore, Venus Envy, ordered copies of my book. dropping off a few copies of "Anonymous Nude Photos" next week!
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If you're in Halifax, check out Venus Envy & buy a copy of my book 🖤
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📚💙, 📚🌶️, #indieauthor #smallpress #halifax
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If you're in Halifax, check out Venus Envy & buy a copy of my book 🖤
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📚💙, 📚🌶️, #indieauthor #smallpress #halifax
December 14, 2025 at 1:05 PM
A lot of very cool news lately!! My local queer sex boutique and bookstore, Venus Envy, ordered copies of my book. dropping off a few copies of "Anonymous Nude Photos" next week!
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If you're in Halifax, check out Venus Envy & buy a copy of my book 🖤
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📚💙, 📚🌶️, #indieauthor #smallpress #halifax
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If you're in Halifax, check out Venus Envy & buy a copy of my book 🖤
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📚💙, 📚🌶️, #indieauthor #smallpress #halifax
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dont worry about your unfinished business. we'll fix it in ghost
December 14, 2025 at 5:15 AM
dont worry about your unfinished business. we'll fix it in ghost
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Practicing peace is hard. It means practicing justice and it means not indulging an understandable desire for revenge. This is hard. But practicing peace is practicing survival for our species and our ecosystems.
December 14, 2025 at 2:01 PM
Practicing peace is hard. It means practicing justice and it means not indulging an understandable desire for revenge. This is hard. But practicing peace is practicing survival for our species and our ecosystems.
Nothing will prepare your body for being hog tied like Pilates.
December 14, 2025 at 1:54 PM
Nothing will prepare your body for being hog tied like Pilates.
A lot of very cool news lately!! My local queer sex boutique and bookstore, Venus Envy, ordered copies of my book. dropping off a few copies of "Anonymous Nude Photos" next week!
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If you're in Halifax, check out Venus Envy & buy a copy of my book 🖤
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📚💙, 📚🌶️, #indieauthor #smallpress #halifax
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If you're in Halifax, check out Venus Envy & buy a copy of my book 🖤
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📚💙, 📚🌶️, #indieauthor #smallpress #halifax
December 14, 2025 at 1:05 PM
A lot of very cool news lately!! My local queer sex boutique and bookstore, Venus Envy, ordered copies of my book. dropping off a few copies of "Anonymous Nude Photos" next week!
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If you're in Halifax, check out Venus Envy & buy a copy of my book 🖤
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📚💙, 📚🌶️, #indieauthor #smallpress #halifax
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If you're in Halifax, check out Venus Envy & buy a copy of my book 🖤
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📚💙, 📚🌶️, #indieauthor #smallpress #halifax
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You have to let yourself be moved
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📷: my wife, Jordan 🖤
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📷: my wife, Jordan 🖤
December 7, 2025 at 6:42 PM
You have to let yourself be moved
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📷: my wife, Jordan 🖤
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📷: my wife, Jordan 🖤
Walking into 2026
( Let's all hope the all text works this time )
( Let's all hope the all text works this time )
December 13, 2025 at 4:31 PM
Walking into 2026
( Let's all hope the all text works this time )
( Let's all hope the all text works this time )
Me: * buying cat grass at the market *
The lady beside me: * incredulous * What do you even use that for ?
Me: *Confused * I give it to my cat?
The lady beside me: * incredulous * What do you even use that for ?
Me: *Confused * I give it to my cat?
December 13, 2025 at 3:27 PM
Me: * buying cat grass at the market *
The lady beside me: * incredulous * What do you even use that for ?
Me: *Confused * I give it to my cat?
The lady beside me: * incredulous * What do you even use that for ?
Me: *Confused * I give it to my cat?
I've written two novellas that have no men in them. Zero men. No one even talks about them. They're both near future literary sci-fi. 1 is entitled 'this wild & foolish hope' the other is entitled 'Loading, Darkly'
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If anyone wants to publish them, let me know.
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If anyone wants to publish them, let me know.
December 13, 2025 at 1:50 PM
I've written two novellas that have no men in them. Zero men. No one even talks about them. They're both near future literary sci-fi. 1 is entitled 'this wild & foolish hope' the other is entitled 'Loading, Darkly'
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If anyone wants to publish them, let me know.
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If anyone wants to publish them, let me know.
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I keep reposting this because I think it's important. after accusations of harm and violent fallout how people show up and reintegrate is something we hardly ever see. This is how I did it.
Got tags running on my site, finally, so all my #YearOfKindness essays are in one place. I don't know if there will be more of them. I am writing a book of poems about it, though, I think.
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www.laurenjanek.com/blog/tags/ye...
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www.laurenjanek.com/blog/tags/ye...
year of kindness | lauren jane k
www.laurenjanek.com
December 12, 2025 at 1:15 PM
I keep reposting this because I think it's important. after accusations of harm and violent fallout how people show up and reintegrate is something we hardly ever see. This is how I did it.
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Fuck me harder
our reckless abandon
December 13, 2025 at 12:06 AM
Fuck me harder