Jean-Luc Picard
@spacedadsupport.bsky.social
Captain Picard says the supportive things you wish your father would say. Inspired by SpaceDad Stories by @writercrafter.bsky.social (manager of this page) along with @spacedocmom.bsky.social. He/him.
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When you tell me your name/pronouns, that's what I'll call you. If you previously used a different name/pronoun, that's in the past. If your name/pronouns change in the future, I'll adjust immediately. I'd be quite annoyed to be called Ensign Picard. Respect is easy when we care.
I'm a diplomat both by profession and by nature, but I am nobody's doormat. Neither should you be. When in doubt, ask yourself, "Would Captain Picard put up with this nonsense?" Then imagine my response and formulate your own accordingly.
November 25, 2025 at 8:39 PM
I'm a diplomat both by profession and by nature, but I am nobody's doormat. Neither should you be. When in doubt, ask yourself, "Would Captain Picard put up with this nonsense?" Then imagine my response and formulate your own accordingly.
Those who pick at the edges of your boundaries, seeking a sneaky way in, are precisely the people whom your boundaries are there to defend against. Do not engage with them because anyone behaving like that will never respect or heed you. Warp away before they find a way in.
November 24, 2025 at 7:19 PM
Those who pick at the edges of your boundaries, seeking a sneaky way in, are precisely the people whom your boundaries are there to defend against. Do not engage with them because anyone behaving like that will never respect or heed you. Warp away before they find a way in.
The only artificial intelligence I fully trust is the one who maintains a continually changing, hierarchical list of which crew members are still willing to feed his cat when he's away.
November 23, 2025 at 8:14 PM
The only artificial intelligence I fully trust is the one who maintains a continually changing, hierarchical list of which crew members are still willing to feed his cat when he's away.
Accept that it is impossible for you satisfy everybody completely. Between conflicting needs and some people not wishing to be satisfied, even the best efforts with the best of intentions cannot make everybody happy. Just do the right thing as often as you can.
November 22, 2025 at 7:13 PM
Accept that it is impossible for you satisfy everybody completely. Between conflicting needs and some people not wishing to be satisfied, even the best efforts with the best of intentions cannot make everybody happy. Just do the right thing as often as you can.
The people who scold you for calling out bigotry are quite likely bigots themselves who are afraid they'll slip up and meet your entirely legitimate scorn next. I'm so proud of how you refuse to accept such nonsense. Keep up the good work.
November 21, 2025 at 9:05 PM
The people who scold you for calling out bigotry are quite likely bigots themselves who are afraid they'll slip up and meet your entirely legitimate scorn next. I'm so proud of how you refuse to accept such nonsense. Keep up the good work.
Everyone deserves to exist in safety with their basic needs met. That includes you. Those who impede you from accessing any of that in any way are not your friends.
November 20, 2025 at 9:03 PM
Everyone deserves to exist in safety with their basic needs met. That includes you. Those who impede you from accessing any of that in any way are not your friends.
Adults incapable of conducting themselves with even a modicum of civility - especially adults who have the privileges to be able to do so - are not worthy of your time and efforts beyond the bare minimum required to get past them and move on with your much more important things to do.
November 19, 2025 at 8:00 PM
Adults incapable of conducting themselves with even a modicum of civility - especially adults who have the privileges to be able to do so - are not worthy of your time and efforts beyond the bare minimum required to get past them and move on with your much more important things to do.
You have not yet met all of the people who will cherish and support you.
November 18, 2025 at 6:26 PM
You have not yet met all of the people who will cherish and support you.
Not only am I glad that you exist, I wish for you to have all the support you need to continue existing and intend to do my small part towards keeping you here. You matter.
November 17, 2025 at 8:47 PM
Not only am I glad that you exist, I wish for you to have all the support you need to continue existing and intend to do my small part towards keeping you here. You matter.
You can do a lot to undermine evil capitalism in your era simply by being kind, compassionate, and protective towards yourself and others.
November 16, 2025 at 8:08 PM
You can do a lot to undermine evil capitalism in your era simply by being kind, compassionate, and protective towards yourself and others.
When we live through difficult times, it's easy to turn on ourselves and imagine we're failing because we can't fix everything. Be gentle with yourself. Your high emotional reaction indicates your goodness, not weakness.
November 15, 2025 at 7:10 PM
When we live through difficult times, it's easy to turn on ourselves and imagine we're failing because we can't fix everything. Be gentle with yourself. Your high emotional reaction indicates your goodness, not weakness.
Just because I applaud you for striving to be more doesn't mean I am not also proud of you for being enough as you are now.
November 14, 2025 at 7:28 PM
Just because I applaud you for striving to be more doesn't mean I am not also proud of you for being enough as you are now.
When problematic people shun you, that's simply efficient waste extraction ahead of time. Or as your era puts it: let the rubbish take itself out.
November 13, 2025 at 6:57 PM
When problematic people shun you, that's simply efficient waste extraction ahead of time. Or as your era puts it: let the rubbish take itself out.
Strive for quality, not perfection. Perfection is usually unattainable and thus both inefficient and exhausting to pursue. Quality is relative, flexible, and more useful.
November 12, 2025 at 7:55 PM
Strive for quality, not perfection. Perfection is usually unattainable and thus both inefficient and exhausting to pursue. Quality is relative, flexible, and more useful.
Peace is worth striving for and protecting.
November 11, 2025 at 8:26 PM
Peace is worth striving for and protecting.
The activism you do towards social justice is important, even if it feels small to you. Change requires an abundance of small actions towards a better tomorrow. I'm proud of you for all that you do.
November 10, 2025 at 7:10 PM
The activism you do towards social justice is important, even if it feels small to you. Change requires an abundance of small actions towards a better tomorrow. I'm proud of you for all that you do.
Being loved and being useful are two different things. Separate those entirely in your mind. You deserve love even when you are unproductive, and you cannot "earn" love by making yourself useful to others.
November 9, 2025 at 9:04 PM
Being loved and being useful are two different things. Separate those entirely in your mind. You deserve love even when you are unproductive, and you cannot "earn" love by making yourself useful to others.
The notion that anyone can achieve anything if they try hard enough ignores systemic inequity and blames victims for circumstances they cannot escape. I want you to meet challenges head-on but I also acknowledge your reality. I'm proud of you for the journey, not the destination.
November 8, 2025 at 7:18 PM
The notion that anyone can achieve anything if they try hard enough ignores systemic inequity and blames victims for circumstances they cannot escape. I want you to meet challenges head-on but I also acknowledge your reality. I'm proud of you for the journey, not the destination.
It is good to build up a stronger community in the face of unpleasant political news, but it won't work unless you make sure to include all vulnerable populations.
November 7, 2025 at 8:41 PM
It is good to build up a stronger community in the face of unpleasant political news, but it won't work unless you make sure to include all vulnerable populations.
Turning off the ability for all and sundry to comment on your social media posts is an act of self care.
November 6, 2025 at 7:11 PM
Turning off the ability for all and sundry to comment on your social media posts is an act of self care.
It's all right to be wrong. Be teachable. Learn and grow.
November 5, 2025 at 6:58 PM
It's all right to be wrong. Be teachable. Learn and grow.
A significant element of maturity is recognising the diminishing value of having the last word versus moving on.
November 4, 2025 at 8:05 PM
A significant element of maturity is recognising the diminishing value of having the last word versus moving on.
Abusive people rely on their victims being "the bigger person" and pressure those victims into "forgiveness" so there are no consequences for terrible actions.
November 3, 2025 at 8:28 PM
Abusive people rely on their victims being "the bigger person" and pressure those victims into "forgiveness" so there are no consequences for terrible actions.
Just because someone gets angry with you for saying, "No," or defending your boundaries doesn't mean you should have said, "Yes," or opened the gates. They've proven your self-defence was justified. You are worth good shields.
November 2, 2025 at 7:33 PM
Just because someone gets angry with you for saying, "No," or defending your boundaries doesn't mean you should have said, "Yes," or opened the gates. They've proven your self-defence was justified. You are worth good shields.
If you find it too difficult to be kind to yourself, then please allow me be kind to you as an example while you practice.
November 1, 2025 at 7:39 PM
If you find it too difficult to be kind to yourself, then please allow me be kind to you as an example while you practice.