Patricia Swarbrick 🏳️🌈 🇨🇦
@swarpat.bsky.social
The difference between declaring and being honest and up front is in what you do.
People make up stuff all the time about who people are. Just remember it’s their choice to think that way. If they’re wrong, they’ll either figure it out or not.
People make up stuff all the time about who people are. Just remember it’s their choice to think that way. If they’re wrong, they’ll either figure it out or not.
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In case you can’t guess based on the same kitty being in our profile pics, this is my spouse
@gronkular.bsky.social
@gronkular.bsky.social
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Not every shift is loud.. ✍🏽
#poem #blueskypoetry #poetrysky #poetrycommunity #poet #Blacksky #writingcommunity
#poem #blueskypoetry #poetrysky #poetrycommunity #poet #Blacksky #writingcommunity
December 4, 2025 at 6:00 AM
Not every shift is loud.. ✍🏽
#poem #blueskypoetry #poetrysky #poetrycommunity #poet #Blacksky #writingcommunity
#poem #blueskypoetry #poetrysky #poetrycommunity #poet #Blacksky #writingcommunity
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🤗 hugging + 😺 happy-cat + 🤞 crossed-fingers =
December 4, 2025 at 2:00 PM
🤗 hugging + 😺 happy-cat + 🤞 crossed-fingers =
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Your Cherokee words for today.
The top word is English followed by how it is written in the Cherokee language followed by how it is spelled in English then how to pronounce it phonetically.
The top word is English followed by how it is written in the Cherokee language followed by how it is spelled in English then how to pronounce it phonetically.
December 3, 2025 at 10:16 PM
Your Cherokee words for today.
The top word is English followed by how it is written in the Cherokee language followed by how it is spelled in English then how to pronounce it phonetically.
The top word is English followed by how it is written in the Cherokee language followed by how it is spelled in English then how to pronounce it phonetically.
I learned how to knit before I learned Crochet, but I prefer crochet over knitting because i got so annoyed over dropping stitches.
Crochet is thicker and uses way more yarn, but It makes my brain very happy with all the different stitches.
Crochet is thicker and uses way more yarn, but It makes my brain very happy with all the different stitches.
December 4, 2025 at 1:22 PM
I learned how to knit before I learned Crochet, but I prefer crochet over knitting because i got so annoyed over dropping stitches.
Crochet is thicker and uses way more yarn, but It makes my brain very happy with all the different stitches.
Crochet is thicker and uses way more yarn, but It makes my brain very happy with all the different stitches.
I don’t play video games every day for a good reason.
This time, its because I am working on a crochet project. Hands are busy.
This time, its because I am working on a crochet project. Hands are busy.
December 4, 2025 at 1:20 PM
I don’t play video games every day for a good reason.
This time, its because I am working on a crochet project. Hands are busy.
This time, its because I am working on a crochet project. Hands are busy.
Went by the Dollar store yesterday and found a Lego minifigure build thing in the kids books. One of my nieces is heavy into dinosaurs, so I got a book and build with that theme to give her for Christmas.
Was a neat find.
Was a neat find.
December 4, 2025 at 1:12 PM
Went by the Dollar store yesterday and found a Lego minifigure build thing in the kids books. One of my nieces is heavy into dinosaurs, so I got a book and build with that theme to give her for Christmas.
Was a neat find.
Was a neat find.
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Survivors often walk around feeling like we're keeping all these secrets-- even if we're not quite clear what those "secrets" even are.
You need to know there is nothing that happened to you or that you struggle w/ now that is shameful-- even if you're not ready to tell anyone.
You need to know there is nothing that happened to you or that you struggle w/ now that is shameful-- even if you're not ready to tell anyone.
December 4, 2025 at 11:23 AM
Survivors often walk around feeling like we're keeping all these secrets-- even if we're not quite clear what those "secrets" even are.
You need to know there is nothing that happened to you or that you struggle w/ now that is shameful-- even if you're not ready to tell anyone.
You need to know there is nothing that happened to you or that you struggle w/ now that is shameful-- even if you're not ready to tell anyone.
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"I don't like who I am when I engage in this relationship" is a 100% valid reason to end, or plan on ending, a relationship with a person, job, therapist, political party, or habit. You do not "owe" loyalty to relationships that harm your goals or are inconsistent w/ your values.
December 4, 2025 at 11:22 AM
"I don't like who I am when I engage in this relationship" is a 100% valid reason to end, or plan on ending, a relationship with a person, job, therapist, political party, or habit. You do not "owe" loyalty to relationships that harm your goals or are inconsistent w/ your values.
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There are trauma survivors reading this who have been told they must "like" the chaos that has often been part of their life, because they keep ending up in "drama"-- which misses the point that many survivors' trauma is due to being trapped in unstable or dysfunctional systems.
December 4, 2025 at 11:22 AM
There are trauma survivors reading this who have been told they must "like" the chaos that has often been part of their life, because they keep ending up in "drama"-- which misses the point that many survivors' trauma is due to being trapped in unstable or dysfunctional systems.
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Often one of the most supportive things someone can do for a CPTSD survivor is patiently sit w/ them as they take their time finding their words through the haze of dissociation & internal "noise," staying open & gently attentive, not pressuring the conversation forward.
December 4, 2025 at 11:21 AM
Often one of the most supportive things someone can do for a CPTSD survivor is patiently sit w/ them as they take their time finding their words through the haze of dissociation & internal "noise," staying open & gently attentive, not pressuring the conversation forward.
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One of the hardest things for many CPTSD survivors to accept is the no-win situations we were put in for so long. We blame ourselves for our "bad" choices, when there were no "good" choices available-- but acknowledging that feels like a "cop out," so we pretend it was our fault.
December 4, 2025 at 11:20 AM
One of the hardest things for many CPTSD survivors to accept is the no-win situations we were put in for so long. We blame ourselves for our "bad" choices, when there were no "good" choices available-- but acknowledging that feels like a "cop out," so we pretend it was our fault.
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People misunderstand trauma survivors in recovery as "stuck" in their "identity" as "victims." The truth is that survivors work our recovery specifically because we are so much MORE than victims-- & our abusers & bullies don't get to define our identity or our future.
December 4, 2025 at 11:19 AM
People misunderstand trauma survivors in recovery as "stuck" in their "identity" as "victims." The truth is that survivors work our recovery specifically because we are so much MORE than victims-- & our abusers & bullies don't get to define our identity or our future.
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Affirmation & validation are highly necessary for survivors of gaslighting & emotional abuse in particular-- but they are only a first step, a foundation for rebuilding.
Don't get scared that validating your pain will keep you "stuck" in it.
Don't get scared that validating your pain will keep you "stuck" in it.
December 4, 2025 at 11:18 AM
Affirmation & validation are highly necessary for survivors of gaslighting & emotional abuse in particular-- but they are only a first step, a foundation for rebuilding.
Don't get scared that validating your pain will keep you "stuck" in it.
Don't get scared that validating your pain will keep you "stuck" in it.
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A blue-tongued skink (genus Tiliqua) - a type of lizard known for its distinctive blue tongue.
These lizards are native to Australia and parts of New Guinea. Their blue tongues are primarily used as a defense mechanism to startle and ward off predators.
#lizards #skink #exotic
These lizards are native to Australia and parts of New Guinea. Their blue tongues are primarily used as a defense mechanism to startle and ward off predators.
#lizards #skink #exotic
December 4, 2025 at 4:02 AM
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What is autism?
Autism happens in the brain.
It's not a bunch of observable traits.
It's a PROCESSING difference...
In the brain.
Autism happens in the brain.
It's not a bunch of observable traits.
It's a PROCESSING difference...
In the brain.
December 4, 2025 at 4:12 AM
What is autism?
Autism happens in the brain.
It's not a bunch of observable traits.
It's a PROCESSING difference...
In the brain.
Autism happens in the brain.
It's not a bunch of observable traits.
It's a PROCESSING difference...
In the brain.
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bamboo
not
steel
that's audhd success
not
steel
that's audhd success
December 3, 2025 at 9:47 AM
bamboo
not
steel
that's audhd success
not
steel
that's audhd success
Its rather amusing to hear the new to me audioboook of a story and realize its a story you picked up before, but it was a very, very different context and genre.
I really have not heard or read these newer Star Wars stories before. I read the previous expanded universe, before Disney took over.
I really have not heard or read these newer Star Wars stories before. I read the previous expanded universe, before Disney took over.
December 4, 2025 at 1:25 AM
Its rather amusing to hear the new to me audioboook of a story and realize its a story you picked up before, but it was a very, very different context and genre.
I really have not heard or read these newer Star Wars stories before. I read the previous expanded universe, before Disney took over.
I really have not heard or read these newer Star Wars stories before. I read the previous expanded universe, before Disney took over.
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Your Cherokee words for today.
The top word is English followed by how it is written in the Cherokee language followed by how it is spelled in English then how to pronounce it phonetically.
The top word is English followed by how it is written in the Cherokee language followed by how it is spelled in English then how to pronounce it phonetically.
December 2, 2025 at 9:58 PM
Your Cherokee words for today.
The top word is English followed by how it is written in the Cherokee language followed by how it is spelled in English then how to pronounce it phonetically.
The top word is English followed by how it is written in the Cherokee language followed by how it is spelled in English then how to pronounce it phonetically.
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omygar omygar omygar @solomonrdavid.bsky.social there are GAR in CalGARy! At the library! But also possibly under the library! Courtesy of the Royal Tyrrell Museum!
December 3, 2025 at 1:22 AM
omygar omygar omygar @solomonrdavid.bsky.social there are GAR in CalGARy! At the library! But also possibly under the library! Courtesy of the Royal Tyrrell Museum!
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You were a kid. It was your job to be an imperfect work in progress. They were the adult. It was their job not to take your imperfection personally. The fact that they weren't up to that job isn't your fault-- you COULDN'T have done your parents' job for them if you'd wanted to.
December 3, 2025 at 4:05 AM
You were a kid. It was your job to be an imperfect work in progress. They were the adult. It was their job not to take your imperfection personally. The fact that they weren't up to that job isn't your fault-- you COULDN'T have done your parents' job for them if you'd wanted to.
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Your job today is not to be perfect or to use every trauma recovery tool you've ever learned immediately & flawlessly; your job is to meet every minute of today w/ as much realism & self compassion & skill as you can in that minute.
Easy does it. Just do the next right thing.
Easy does it. Just do the next right thing.
December 3, 2025 at 4:05 AM
Your job today is not to be perfect or to use every trauma recovery tool you've ever learned immediately & flawlessly; your job is to meet every minute of today w/ as much realism & self compassion & skill as you can in that minute.
Easy does it. Just do the next right thing.
Easy does it. Just do the next right thing.
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The voice in your head telling you your job today is to be "perfect" & you're sh*t if you can't isn't the voice of realistic, sustainable recovery. That's Trauma Brain f*cking w/ you, trying to derail you.
Clock it; blink blink blink; & gently turn back to your recovery tools.
Clock it; blink blink blink; & gently turn back to your recovery tools.
December 3, 2025 at 4:06 AM
The voice in your head telling you your job today is to be "perfect" & you're sh*t if you can't isn't the voice of realistic, sustainable recovery. That's Trauma Brain f*cking w/ you, trying to derail you.
Clock it; blink blink blink; & gently turn back to your recovery tools.
Clock it; blink blink blink; & gently turn back to your recovery tools.
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"Fawn" responders aren't looking for "attaboy's." We're responding from a nervous-system-deep conviction that if we're not entertaining or accommodating, we'll be in danger of punishment or rejection-- & we come by that conviction through experience.
December 3, 2025 at 4:07 AM
"Fawn" responders aren't looking for "attaboy's." We're responding from a nervous-system-deep conviction that if we're not entertaining or accommodating, we'll be in danger of punishment or rejection-- & we come by that conviction through experience.