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Pat Swarbrick
@swarpat.bsky.social
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Bi lefty who became lefty long before graduating High School. Talking to people helps @gronkular.bsky.social is my spouse. Incredibly lucky to have found him when I did, 20+ years ago She/they
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 2h
Wow, it’s been a long time since those were closed. Glad to see them open again.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 3h
No
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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 3h
It is perfectly fine to not love identifying as a "trauma survivor" in "recovery." Don't sweat the label.

Call yourself a human who wants to live a stable life of meaning & accomplishment-- who needs specific skills & tools to do so, that happen to overlap w/ trauma recovery.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 3h
Heh, looking at jewelry sales. Gold is nice but so is silver, platinum and even stainless steel.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 3h
Thankfully that doesn’t exist.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 3h
Best part about Bluesky: My spouse is here. 😊
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 4h
Yeah seems like the best way to make it abundantly clear and obvious that they need to shift is to show up in person and tell them face to face.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 4h
I wonder how irritating a computer matchmaking system can be if a pair of people just choose not to link up digitally. Sometimes people just don’t want the hassle of the extra family features, especially if they trust each other enough to know each other’s passcodes.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 4h
Even the simple act of ensuring the library catalog has books which help us understand what we’re looking for, and give us a chance to learn that it is possible to live a better life than the one we started with.

Also helps to have siblings who care.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 4h
Growing up in a family where the adults have issues and don’t reliably support us sucks. Having a bigger community to help support us is important, especially if the adults around us are willing to speak up or do something that allows us to stand up for ourselves just a little bit
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CZEdwards @czedwards.bsky.social · 6h
A reminder: demonstrations are great, they’re a fun party, they are a literal demonstration of the collective power of the people.

They’re not the goal. They’re not the end. They’re not even much of a means

They’re the gateway drug that gives a taste of the joy of collective action & leads to more
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 4h
Yeah Andor is good!
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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 5h
The tension of being the only functional adult in your family can become, over time, a complex traumatic stressor-- especially if you've been the only functional adult in multiple versions of your family, going back to childhood.

Parentification is a form of neglect.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 7h
Oh and don’t steal someone else’s erotica from them, especially the stuff someone else created.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 7h
I don’t make it through. That’s just a hard no for me. The problem with it is making sure your photos and videos stay private. If you don’t want it going out there don’t make it in the first place.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 7h
I have said this once and will say it again: Consentual porn is awesome. Doesn’t matter what it is if the people recording it all are consenting adults, it’s all good. And yeah I checked it out sometimes. Nothing wrong with it.

To be honest the romance novels get even raunchier than most porn
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 7h
You know I am old enough now that menopause is a distinct possibility. Yep I am that old, that’s why I don’t mind the idea of being called a grandma.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 7h
The IUD was a great choice for women. For some it actually eliminates the period cycle, others it reduces the severity of symptoms by a significant margin.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 7h
My cycle has always been a little long and sometimes unreliable. It hasn’t bothered me any. It’s just how it is.

I actually can’t count the number of times that the only hint of my cycle having a breakout of zits, and that’s it.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 7h
Many women actually can have their cycle completely disappear if they are on specific forms of birth control, or are experiencing high amounts of stress.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 7h
One thing about women’s health many men and even computing systems don’t realize: the menstrual cycle is not guaranteed to be one month. In fact it fluctuates a lot and is affected by lots of stuff.
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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 8h
You get to decide how "big a deal" you "should" consider your symptoms & experiences to be-- but pay attention to Trauma Brain trying to minimize & invalidate what you need.

It's not "dramatic" or "stupid" to need specific tools & support for specific symptoms & struggles.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 8h
Spouse is the one who does all the watching of YT content. I watch a clip or two but often I’m on the other side of the house, listening sometimes but not always.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 8h
I’m actually happy I got rid of every single social media login I had and am just down to two: Facebook because of family photo sharing and here. No YT, No Discord, No Twitter (never used that much anyway) I mean I could try and list them but why bother? It’s just the two.
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Pat Swarbrick @swarpat.bsky.social · 8h
Why? Because the phone is a distraction and interferes with people actually spending time with each other.