Hardcore gritty realism D&D is where women are too weak for combat but his grizzled human fighter dispatches four 6'6" built-like-a-gorilla orcs at once because he's just that good at swinging his sword around.

If we want the term Transsexual to become widely understood as neutral nomenclature, associating it with a specific subculture of transfeminists by using the term "birthday boy" is counterproductive.

It will only stick if transsexual people you are otherwise opposed to also want to use the term.

It looks to me that the ones who have the biggest problem with it are non-transitioning enbies and committed closet cases, not transsexual men (whatever other issues with transmisogyny you may have with them).

Very frustrating that a lot of blowback to this comes from trans women who've internalised the idea they look like the art in this article, and therefore feel personally attacked by attempts to call out the transmisogynistic nature of it.

that's an absurdly online definition of "incredibly transphobic" they've got there

I'm also unconvinced by rebuttals that traditional trans advocacy has always sought to defend access to HRT so we should therefore stay the course, because they clearly haven't succeeded.

We have the same goals, but people are looking for a change and they're *really* unhappy with "sex vs gender".

"Sex and gender are different" turning into "yes, sex is the real thing that matters" in the minds of cis people seems like such an avoidable own-goal, but that's the kind of rhetoric queer rights orgs pushed. Something has to change about the way we communicate ideas about sex and gender.

I think the focus on non-medically-transitioning enbies is just a convenient scapegoat, but a lot of trans people have lost faith in calls to stay the course and keep going with the rhetoric we've used for the past decade.

Trying to sort out my own views here, I feel that people who push these kind of arguments are struggling to articulate a need for change because the past 10 years of trans advocacy has felt completely ineffective. How effective have these organisations been at protecting access to hrt?

My differing opinion though is that non-transitioning enbies weren't the source of that "validity > materiality" flaw. It was the wave of freshly hatched eggs who, feeling isolated and pre/early transition, bent advocacy language towards reassuring their insecurities over feeling like they belonged.

10 years ago I could completely understand a cis ally not knowing basic shit about where our boobs come from, even expect it. The fact that after a decade of advocacy and extreme visibility cis allies STILL don't know our basics is evidence that there was a fundamental flaw in that advocacy.

I always wake up feeling like I had the best and most restful sleep of my life.

I thought this was an actual YouTube video tracing and explaining the development of online community dialects and was really excited to look it up.

I have compassion for Talia, sure, I don't have a personal beef. But she doesn't extend that compassion to me, doesn't want to. What's being asked for isn't compassion, it's deference. It's to let some people beat up on us over and over without being allowed to say anything or we're "cold".

No matter how smart she is, and she is very smart, her personality is shit. She's a terrible person who deserves the blowback she's getting.

Having Talia of all people making complaints, to be so melodramatically outraged that she's mentally coming apart at the seams, over being *dogpiled online*, something she and her clique have done to me and so many others they've decided they don't like, is so richly ironic and completely deserved.

I was mulched by that clique back on twitter for daring to say that "lesbian attraction to women is innately purer and less crudely sexual than straight male attraction" was placing lesbianism on a harmful pedestal. Glad more are seeing how hateful, deceptive, and manipulative they are.