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No tolerance for gaslighting people into Cluster B acceptance.
Cluster B's Do Not Interact.
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Finally putting my masters degree in mental health science to work!
Speaking at women’s leadership conference in Paris, France. Topic is how psychological abuse impacts our careers. #neuroscience #trauma, #psychologicalabuse, #vawg, #narcissticabuse #mentalhealth
Speaking at women’s leadership conference in Paris, France. Topic is how psychological abuse impacts our careers. #neuroscience #trauma, #psychologicalabuse, #vawg, #narcissticabuse #mentalhealth
March 8, 2025 at 5:48 PM
Finally putting my masters degree in mental health science to work!
Speaking at women’s leadership conference in Paris, France. Topic is how psychological abuse impacts our careers. #neuroscience #trauma, #psychologicalabuse, #vawg, #narcissticabuse #mentalhealth
Speaking at women’s leadership conference in Paris, France. Topic is how psychological abuse impacts our careers. #neuroscience #trauma, #psychologicalabuse, #vawg, #narcissticabuse #mentalhealth
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💔 Emotional blackmail isn't love. Saying "if you really love me, you will do this for me" is a manipulative tactic, not a sign of affection. True love respects boundaries and doesn't demand compliance. Choose respect over demands.
#LoveIsRespect #NarccisticAbuse #CoersiveControl
#LoveIsRespect #NarccisticAbuse #CoersiveControl
October 25, 2025 at 11:25 AM
💔 Emotional blackmail isn't love. Saying "if you really love me, you will do this for me" is a manipulative tactic, not a sign of affection. True love respects boundaries and doesn't demand compliance. Choose respect over demands.
#LoveIsRespect #NarccisticAbuse #CoersiveControl
#LoveIsRespect #NarccisticAbuse #CoersiveControl
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A narcissist's faked helplessness is a manipulation tactic. They claim they "can't" do something to get you to do it, making you feel helpful while subtly gaining control and avoiding responsibility. 😡
❓ What things did they tell you they couldn't do?
#narcissticabuse #domesticviolence #cptsd
❓ What things did they tell you they couldn't do?
#narcissticabuse #domesticviolence #cptsd
October 18, 2025 at 11:36 AM
A narcissist's faked helplessness is a manipulation tactic. They claim they "can't" do something to get you to do it, making you feel helpful while subtly gaining control and avoiding responsibility. 😡
❓ What things did they tell you they couldn't do?
#narcissticabuse #domesticviolence #cptsd
❓ What things did they tell you they couldn't do?
#narcissticabuse #domesticviolence #cptsd
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Their actions may seem erratic, but once you recognize their playbook, their unpredictable tactics become predictable. However, predicting the unpredictable is not the same as outsmarting them.
#SurvivorMusic #TruthWarriors #PathologicalAbuse #Narcissist #Sociopath #Psychopath #Gaslighting
#SurvivorMusic #TruthWarriors #PathologicalAbuse #Narcissist #Sociopath #Psychopath #Gaslighting
Their Moves Are Never Random
Pathological Abuse | Pathological Games
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October 2, 2025 at 8:00 PM
Their actions may seem erratic, but once you recognize their playbook, their unpredictable tactics become predictable. However, predicting the unpredictable is not the same as outsmarting them.
#SurvivorMusic #TruthWarriors #PathologicalAbuse #Narcissist #Sociopath #Psychopath #Gaslighting
#SurvivorMusic #TruthWarriors #PathologicalAbuse #Narcissist #Sociopath #Psychopath #Gaslighting
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The only thing to be done with some people is to make every effort to forget that they exist. They add nothing to your life, & even accidentally stumbling upon their words will only destabilize you & distract from your goals.
Go cold turkey. Grey rock. They are not a thing.
Go cold turkey. Grey rock. They are not a thing.
August 20, 2025 at 4:36 PM
The only thing to be done with some people is to make every effort to forget that they exist. They add nothing to your life, & even accidentally stumbling upon their words will only destabilize you & distract from your goals.
Go cold turkey. Grey rock. They are not a thing.
Go cold turkey. Grey rock. They are not a thing.
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There are few betrayals as common or hurtful as the familial expectation that you be polite to & engage with people who abused you.
August 11, 2025 at 9:02 PM
There are few betrayals as common or hurtful as the familial expectation that you be polite to & engage with people who abused you.
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You're not being "difficult" or "resistant" if emotional regulation strategies that worked for others don't fit for you. All it means is what it means: those tools & your nervous system don't click. No judgment; no shame.
Yes, it's frustrating. But it's not your "failure."
Yes, it's frustrating. But it's not your "failure."
August 7, 2025 at 2:11 PM
You're not being "difficult" or "resistant" if emotional regulation strategies that worked for others don't fit for you. All it means is what it means: those tools & your nervous system don't click. No judgment; no shame.
Yes, it's frustrating. But it's not your "failure."
Yes, it's frustrating. But it's not your "failure."
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Something we learn in CPTSD recovery is that "bravery" isn't always about "pushing through" a situation no matter the damage we're sustaining; it's often more about sitting w/ feelings & memories we hate or don't understand without denying, disowning, or dissociating them.
August 6, 2025 at 12:09 AM
Something we learn in CPTSD recovery is that "bravery" isn't always about "pushing through" a situation no matter the damage we're sustaining; it's often more about sitting w/ feelings & memories we hate or don't understand without denying, disowning, or dissociating them.
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Complex trauma has a way of making us feel like we're already dead. That the version of us who was "supposed" to exist & live died, & we're just a husk. What got left behind.
It's not true.
If you are alive to read these words, your journey is not over.
Breathe. Blink. Focus.
It's not true.
If you are alive to read these words, your journey is not over.
Breathe. Blink. Focus.
August 1, 2025 at 12:11 AM
Complex trauma has a way of making us feel like we're already dead. That the version of us who was "supposed" to exist & live died, & we're just a husk. What got left behind.
It's not true.
If you are alive to read these words, your journey is not over.
Breathe. Blink. Focus.
It's not true.
If you are alive to read these words, your journey is not over.
Breathe. Blink. Focus.
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Trauma Brain is going to try to trick us into jumping from "realistically assessing & taking responsibility for our role in our current struggles" to "blaming ourselves for our symptoms, vulnerability, & abuse."
Don't let it get away with that sh*t. They're not the same.
Don't let it get away with that sh*t. They're not the same.
July 20, 2025 at 11:17 PM
Trauma Brain is going to try to trick us into jumping from "realistically assessing & taking responsibility for our role in our current struggles" to "blaming ourselves for our symptoms, vulnerability, & abuse."
Don't let it get away with that sh*t. They're not the same.
Don't let it get away with that sh*t. They're not the same.
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Do not let Trauma Brain or the Addiction Beast trick you into abandoning your recovery because your options are imperfect at the moment.
Your options may suck right now-- but you still deserve safety, stability, support, & recovery.
Your options may suck right now-- but you still deserve safety, stability, support, & recovery.
July 19, 2025 at 9:02 PM
Do not let Trauma Brain or the Addiction Beast trick you into abandoning your recovery because your options are imperfect at the moment.
Your options may suck right now-- but you still deserve safety, stability, support, & recovery.
Your options may suck right now-- but you still deserve safety, stability, support, & recovery.
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Extend yourself grace, even when healing isn't graceful.
Nobody's judging or ranking or scoring our recovery (nobody who matters, anyway). The success of our recovery is its effectiveness in keeping us alive & supporting our functioning-- not how good or cinematic it looks.
Nobody's judging or ranking or scoring our recovery (nobody who matters, anyway). The success of our recovery is its effectiveness in keeping us alive & supporting our functioning-- not how good or cinematic it looks.
July 11, 2025 at 2:50 PM
Extend yourself grace, even when healing isn't graceful.
Nobody's judging or ranking or scoring our recovery (nobody who matters, anyway). The success of our recovery is its effectiveness in keeping us alive & supporting our functioning-- not how good or cinematic it looks.
Nobody's judging or ranking or scoring our recovery (nobody who matters, anyway). The success of our recovery is its effectiveness in keeping us alive & supporting our functioning-- not how good or cinematic it looks.
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Maybe today you have Trauma Brain whispering-- or screaming-- in you ear there's no possible way to create or sustain a life worth living. That happens.
Take that as a sign that today is not for making big decisions; breathe; & focus on the next recovery supporting micro choice.
Take that as a sign that today is not for making big decisions; breathe; & focus on the next recovery supporting micro choice.
July 11, 2025 at 10:19 PM
Maybe today you have Trauma Brain whispering-- or screaming-- in you ear there's no possible way to create or sustain a life worth living. That happens.
Take that as a sign that today is not for making big decisions; breathe; & focus on the next recovery supporting micro choice.
Take that as a sign that today is not for making big decisions; breathe; & focus on the next recovery supporting micro choice.
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Nobody else saves us.
The person who saves us is the version of ourselves we develop in recovery.
We're not just looking to heal our trauma wounds or our addiction patterns here. We're working to become a person less vulnerable to them & more skillful at managing them.
The person who saves us is the version of ourselves we develop in recovery.
We're not just looking to heal our trauma wounds or our addiction patterns here. We're working to become a person less vulnerable to them & more skillful at managing them.
July 11, 2025 at 6:42 PM
Nobody else saves us.
The person who saves us is the version of ourselves we develop in recovery.
We're not just looking to heal our trauma wounds or our addiction patterns here. We're working to become a person less vulnerable to them & more skillful at managing them.
The person who saves us is the version of ourselves we develop in recovery.
We're not just looking to heal our trauma wounds or our addiction patterns here. We're working to become a person less vulnerable to them & more skillful at managing them.
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The fact you made the best decision you could to serve your safety, stability, & recovery, doesn't mean you won't doubt or second guess it. Decisions in recovery often aren't obvious-- & very often our options suck.
Easy does it. Just do your best w/ the information you have.
Easy does it. Just do your best w/ the information you have.
July 11, 2025 at 1:00 AM
The fact you made the best decision you could to serve your safety, stability, & recovery, doesn't mean you won't doubt or second guess it. Decisions in recovery often aren't obvious-- & very often our options suck.
Easy does it. Just do your best w/ the information you have.
Easy does it. Just do your best w/ the information you have.
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Abusers don't abuse everyone. They look like very nice people to many. They do this so they can keep abusing the people at home "Undetected". It's manipulation, gaslighting.
Abusers think👇
"If everyone thinks I'm a good person out in public, then I'll still be able to abuse my targets in private."
Abusers think👇
"If everyone thinks I'm a good person out in public, then I'll still be able to abuse my targets in private."
July 10, 2025 at 5:09 AM
Abusers don't abuse everyone. They look like very nice people to many. They do this so they can keep abusing the people at home "Undetected". It's manipulation, gaslighting.
Abusers think👇
"If everyone thinks I'm a good person out in public, then I'll still be able to abuse my targets in private."
Abusers think👇
"If everyone thinks I'm a good person out in public, then I'll still be able to abuse my targets in private."
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Trauma Brain is going to present you w/ "facts" that "feel" very "true." Which is your cue to remember that trauma conditioning makes things "feel" "true" that can't possibly BE true-- such as you, as a child, being to blame for the behavior of adults.
(No. You weren't.)
(No. You weren't.)
July 9, 2025 at 6:30 PM
Trauma Brain is going to present you w/ "facts" that "feel" very "true." Which is your cue to remember that trauma conditioning makes things "feel" "true" that can't possibly BE true-- such as you, as a child, being to blame for the behavior of adults.
(No. You weren't.)
(No. You weren't.)
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Abuser’s will claim to not remember things they’ve done to you. The victim will never forget.
(Exceptions for the part of the brain protecting itself from memories -)
However, a casual night of abuse could be nothing to an abuser and forever in the mind of the abused.
(Exceptions for the part of the brain protecting itself from memories -)
However, a casual night of abuse could be nothing to an abuser and forever in the mind of the abused.
July 9, 2025 at 8:36 PM
Abuser’s will claim to not remember things they’ve done to you. The victim will never forget.
(Exceptions for the part of the brain protecting itself from memories -)
However, a casual night of abuse could be nothing to an abuser and forever in the mind of the abused.
(Exceptions for the part of the brain protecting itself from memories -)
However, a casual night of abuse could be nothing to an abuser and forever in the mind of the abused.
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There are several groups of people seeking shelter under the "neurodiversity" umbrella, too. Cluster-B personality disorders (narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths) for example, are starting to refer to themselves as neurodiverse. Wondering if it'll catch on. "Affect deficit disorder", too.
July 8, 2025 at 6:20 PM
There are several groups of people seeking shelter under the "neurodiversity" umbrella, too. Cluster-B personality disorders (narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths) for example, are starting to refer to themselves as neurodiverse. Wondering if it'll catch on. "Affect deficit disorder", too.
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I've yet to encounter a scenario where confronting a narcissist is worth it, and frankly I don't believe one exists.
Narcissistic tendencies, markedly their marrow-deep apathy, implies the existence of much darker tendencies that I'd rather not know about.
Narcissistic tendencies, markedly their marrow-deep apathy, implies the existence of much darker tendencies that I'd rather not know about.
July 6, 2025 at 3:28 AM
I've yet to encounter a scenario where confronting a narcissist is worth it, and frankly I don't believe one exists.
Narcissistic tendencies, markedly their marrow-deep apathy, implies the existence of much darker tendencies that I'd rather not know about.
Narcissistic tendencies, markedly their marrow-deep apathy, implies the existence of much darker tendencies that I'd rather not know about.
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The fact that you are exhausted and/or in pain does not reflect negatively on you as a person. It is not evidence of "failure." It is not evidence of "laziness." And it is absolutely not evidence that you are "unworthy" or morally "bad."
Repeat as necessary. Put it on a loop.
Repeat as necessary. Put it on a loop.
July 5, 2025 at 1:04 AM
The fact that you are exhausted and/or in pain does not reflect negatively on you as a person. It is not evidence of "failure." It is not evidence of "laziness." And it is absolutely not evidence that you are "unworthy" or morally "bad."
Repeat as necessary. Put it on a loop.
Repeat as necessary. Put it on a loop.
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Narcissists love to see you afraid. They don't feel empathy. They love to see you lose, fail, suffer. They pray for this shit. They cause this shit.
Found on: No more abuse (IG) 👇
Found on: No more abuse (IG) 👇
July 3, 2025 at 9:27 AM
Narcissists love to see you afraid. They don't feel empathy. They love to see you lose, fail, suffer. They pray for this shit. They cause this shit.
Found on: No more abuse (IG) 👇
Found on: No more abuse (IG) 👇
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Dissociative Identity Disorder is real.
Dissociative amnesia ("repressed"/recovered memory) happens.
And trauma responses aren't "choices."
Dissociative amnesia ("repressed"/recovered memory) happens.
And trauma responses aren't "choices."
July 3, 2025 at 12:56 AM
Dissociative Identity Disorder is real.
Dissociative amnesia ("repressed"/recovered memory) happens.
And trauma responses aren't "choices."
Dissociative amnesia ("repressed"/recovered memory) happens.
And trauma responses aren't "choices."
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