Ailill Harper
@muumitrope.bsky.social
#LateDX #AuDHD with side of #aphantasia. Still kicking that darkness looking for the daylight.
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How can we talk about neurodivergence or neurodiversity without relying on medical diagnostic labels?
We deserve to understand ourselves beyond the DSM.
We deserve to assign our own meanings to our differences instead of relying on the single narrative that they’re a deficit, disorder or illness.
We deserve to understand ourselves beyond the DSM.
We deserve to assign our own meanings to our differences instead of relying on the single narrative that they’re a deficit, disorder or illness.
January 18, 2025 at 11:45 PM
How can we talk about neurodivergence or neurodiversity without relying on medical diagnostic labels?
We deserve to understand ourselves beyond the DSM.
We deserve to assign our own meanings to our differences instead of relying on the single narrative that they’re a deficit, disorder or illness.
We deserve to understand ourselves beyond the DSM.
We deserve to assign our own meanings to our differences instead of relying on the single narrative that they’re a deficit, disorder or illness.
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Why Autistic Unemployment Is So High
patienttalk.org/why-autistic...
patienttalk.org/why-autistic...
January 3, 2025 at 12:58 PM
Why Autistic Unemployment Is So High
patienttalk.org/why-autistic...
patienttalk.org/why-autistic...
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There will no doubt be lots of people telling you how much they achieved in 2024, and that's ok.
However, for those who need to hear this truth......it's far more than ok if all you achieved in 2024 was making it through it.
However, for those who need to hear this truth......it's far more than ok if all you achieved in 2024 was making it through it.
December 31, 2024 at 7:05 PM
There will no doubt be lots of people telling you how much they achieved in 2024, and that's ok.
However, for those who need to hear this truth......it's far more than ok if all you achieved in 2024 was making it through it.
However, for those who need to hear this truth......it's far more than ok if all you achieved in 2024 was making it through it.
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As an elder millennial, lightbulb theory would have been much easier to grasp and explain. It's very hard to run out of spoons and very easy to wash a new one in the sink
December 27, 2024 at 4:37 AM
As an elder millennial, lightbulb theory would have been much easier to grasp and explain. It's very hard to run out of spoons and very easy to wash a new one in the sink
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I have always loved public libraries, but having young children has exponentially increased my gratitude and sense of indebtedness to them. Our local library is such a huge part of our lives. The books, the programming, the very intentionally curated kids’ section. It’s all such a gift.
December 27, 2024 at 2:12 AM
I have always loved public libraries, but having young children has exponentially increased my gratitude and sense of indebtedness to them. Our local library is such a huge part of our lives. The books, the programming, the very intentionally curated kids’ section. It’s all such a gift.
It turns out that YouTube "First Time Hearing" music reaction videos are #AuDHD catnip, letting me listen to the same song a dozen times in a row but differently each time.
December 26, 2024 at 8:10 PM
It turns out that YouTube "First Time Hearing" music reaction videos are #AuDHD catnip, letting me listen to the same song a dozen times in a row but differently each time.
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i think you should be fans of your friends. unashamedly. i think you should boost and uplift your friends every chance you get. i think it’s important to let them know that not only do you love them, but you’re also rooting for them. most of the time people need to hear it.
October 22, 2024 at 3:58 PM
i think you should be fans of your friends. unashamedly. i think you should boost and uplift your friends every chance you get. i think it’s important to let them know that not only do you love them, but you’re also rooting for them. most of the time people need to hear it.
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My neurotype is not a negative consequence to a mistake or oversight
It’s just how I’m wired.
It’s just how I’m wired.
November 18, 2024 at 1:08 PM
My neurotype is not a negative consequence to a mistake or oversight
It’s just how I’m wired.
It’s just how I’m wired.
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If an autistic person asks for clarification, they are not:
- being aggressive
- being rude
- being obtuse
- trying to annoy you
- whatever ableist slur you are throwing at them
They are :
- asking for clarification
It's not about you, don't take it personally, just explain.
- being aggressive
- being rude
- being obtuse
- trying to annoy you
- whatever ableist slur you are throwing at them
They are :
- asking for clarification
It's not about you, don't take it personally, just explain.
November 18, 2024 at 9:50 AM
If an autistic person asks for clarification, they are not:
- being aggressive
- being rude
- being obtuse
- trying to annoy you
- whatever ableist slur you are throwing at them
They are :
- asking for clarification
It's not about you, don't take it personally, just explain.
- being aggressive
- being rude
- being obtuse
- trying to annoy you
- whatever ableist slur you are throwing at them
They are :
- asking for clarification
It's not about you, don't take it personally, just explain.
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I never knew people who could see things in their mind thought they were the guardians of creativity. "That's literally imagination" "why else would you read" you are actually telling on yourself. Starting to think not seeing things is the super power.
December 17, 2024 at 12:44 AM
I never knew people who could see things in their mind thought they were the guardians of creativity. "That's literally imagination" "why else would you read" you are actually telling on yourself. Starting to think not seeing things is the super power.
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Me: didn't realize I was autistic until I was 45
Also me: had a favorite spoon as a child that I still wish I had because it gave me such sensory joy.
Also me: had a favorite spoon as a child that I still wish I had because it gave me such sensory joy.
December 16, 2024 at 7:26 PM
Me: didn't realize I was autistic until I was 45
Also me: had a favorite spoon as a child that I still wish I had because it gave me such sensory joy.
Also me: had a favorite spoon as a child that I still wish I had because it gave me such sensory joy.
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I've edited a video! Of some of my standup! Like you're supposed to when you're a comedian!
Please enjoy "My jokes are good, actually, and here are the reasons why".
Shares/fawning praise etc obviously appreciated x
www.youtube.com/watch?v=s93X...
Please enjoy "My jokes are good, actually, and here are the reasons why".
Shares/fawning praise etc obviously appreciated x
www.youtube.com/watch?v=s93X...
My jokes are good, actually, and here are the reasons why.
YouTube video by Guy Kelly
www.youtube.com
October 3, 2024 at 3:35 PM
I've edited a video! Of some of my standup! Like you're supposed to when you're a comedian!
Please enjoy "My jokes are good, actually, and here are the reasons why".
Shares/fawning praise etc obviously appreciated x
www.youtube.com/watch?v=s93X...
Please enjoy "My jokes are good, actually, and here are the reasons why".
Shares/fawning praise etc obviously appreciated x
www.youtube.com/watch?v=s93X...
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![Neo: "Do you know how to do that?"
Trinity: "Not yet."
[Entire weekend of hyperfocus]
Trinity: "Now I know how but no longer want to do it."](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:f55kfczvcsjlaota4ep2xvhx/bafkreibkmxqe2sjpdfdsi6gk75zn7qiiffbihwxpbtq4iv2rgab33ltyhi@jpeg)
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I’m 37. I’m beyond done trying to fit into “normal society”. I’m done masking my autistic traits, I’m going to dress like I did when I was a teenager, I’m going to watch the Muppets, read comics & talk to myself and sing in public.
December 15, 2024 at 11:57 PM
I’m 37. I’m beyond done trying to fit into “normal society”. I’m done masking my autistic traits, I’m going to dress like I did when I was a teenager, I’m going to watch the Muppets, read comics & talk to myself and sing in public.
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“The Ugly Duckling” is a great allegory for growing up undiagnosed autistic.
By duck standards, we’re ugly ducks. But then we find out we were never ducks to begin with! There’s no point comparing ourselves to ducks or trying to meet duck beauty standards. Focus on being a beautiful #Autistic swan.
By duck standards, we’re ugly ducks. But then we find out we were never ducks to begin with! There’s no point comparing ourselves to ducks or trying to meet duck beauty standards. Focus on being a beautiful #Autistic swan.
December 14, 2024 at 8:27 PM
“The Ugly Duckling” is a great allegory for growing up undiagnosed autistic.
By duck standards, we’re ugly ducks. But then we find out we were never ducks to begin with! There’s no point comparing ourselves to ducks or trying to meet duck beauty standards. Focus on being a beautiful #Autistic swan.
By duck standards, we’re ugly ducks. But then we find out we were never ducks to begin with! There’s no point comparing ourselves to ducks or trying to meet duck beauty standards. Focus on being a beautiful #Autistic swan.
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Neurotypicals have this weird code where you're supposed to not follow their instructions precisely, but know exactly how to follow them incorrectly.
December 13, 2024 at 4:05 AM
Neurotypicals have this weird code where you're supposed to not follow their instructions precisely, but know exactly how to follow them incorrectly.
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#BIPOC voices are often missing from autistic spaces, so here is a BIPOC starter pack! 😊
go.bsky.app/TtXfpAt
#racialequality #antiracism
The image of autism as “only white boys” leads to underdiagnosis, discrimination & isolation for many
Our autistic community is much more diverse than that! ❤️
go.bsky.app/TtXfpAt
#racialequality #antiracism
The image of autism as “only white boys” leads to underdiagnosis, discrimination & isolation for many
Our autistic community is much more diverse than that! ❤️
December 14, 2024 at 5:32 PM
#BIPOC voices are often missing from autistic spaces, so here is a BIPOC starter pack! 😊
go.bsky.app/TtXfpAt
#racialequality #antiracism
The image of autism as “only white boys” leads to underdiagnosis, discrimination & isolation for many
Our autistic community is much more diverse than that! ❤️
go.bsky.app/TtXfpAt
#racialequality #antiracism
The image of autism as “only white boys” leads to underdiagnosis, discrimination & isolation for many
Our autistic community is much more diverse than that! ❤️
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Oh dear.
I was quite excited to see the British Dental Journal doing an article about the correct ways to talk about autistic people, and giving top tips to Dentists.
Then, I saw the table...
I may upgrade the words 'oh dear' to 'goodness me', or even, 'Oh I say!'
Thread./
I was quite excited to see the British Dental Journal doing an article about the correct ways to talk about autistic people, and giving top tips to Dentists.
Then, I saw the table...
I may upgrade the words 'oh dear' to 'goodness me', or even, 'Oh I say!'
Thread./
December 14, 2024 at 3:07 PM
Oh dear.
I was quite excited to see the British Dental Journal doing an article about the correct ways to talk about autistic people, and giving top tips to Dentists.
Then, I saw the table...
I may upgrade the words 'oh dear' to 'goodness me', or even, 'Oh I say!'
Thread./
I was quite excited to see the British Dental Journal doing an article about the correct ways to talk about autistic people, and giving top tips to Dentists.
Then, I saw the table...
I may upgrade the words 'oh dear' to 'goodness me', or even, 'Oh I say!'
Thread./
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I quite like the idea of autistic to autistic communication involving phrases like "I agree with 95% of what you said" and then following up with the 5% that is seriously breaking your brain
I think I agree with 95% of what you're suggesting & also think it's really helpful and important. Just disagree on whether it's ever useful to have overall tiers- i can't think of a situation where you'd need this instead of just saying "needs 24hr care".Maybe to save time approving funding i guess
December 14, 2024 at 2:41 PM
I quite like the idea of autistic to autistic communication involving phrases like "I agree with 95% of what you said" and then following up with the 5% that is seriously breaking your brain
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Non-autistic people often expect Autistics to learn non-autistic culture & communication. But non-autistics do not expect themselves to understand or learn Autistic perspectives. This means we could see non-autistic people as lacking empathy for Autistics.
reframingautism.org.au/miltons-doub...
reframingautism.org.au/miltons-doub...
Milton’s ‘double Empathy Problem’: A Summary for Non-academics - Reframing Autism
Currently, Autism is classified as a diagnosable ‘neurological disorder’. Most non-autistic people think of Autistic people as ‘lacking empathy’ and […]
reframingautism.org.au
December 14, 2024 at 4:56 PM
Non-autistic people often expect Autistics to learn non-autistic culture & communication. But non-autistics do not expect themselves to understand or learn Autistic perspectives. This means we could see non-autistic people as lacking empathy for Autistics.
reframingautism.org.au/miltons-doub...
reframingautism.org.au/miltons-doub...
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This is still one of the best explanations for task-switching difficulties, for most autistic people, that I have ever encountered. Thanks for Tendril Theory, @eisforerin.bsky.social
My first post here definitely has to be Tendril Theory, because when I made this in 2015 I had no idea how often it would be ripped off. Tell your friends and your enemies to tag me please 😂
December 14, 2024 at 9:43 AM
This is still one of the best explanations for task-switching difficulties, for most autistic people, that I have ever encountered. Thanks for Tendril Theory, @eisforerin.bsky.social
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There is a line of argument that ADHD and Autism/ASD should just come under one condition, I don't know where I land on that, but it is interesting to see this Venn https://adhdworking.co.uk/differences/audhd-and-the-overlap-between-autism-spectrum-disorder-asd-and-adhd/
AuDHD and the Overlap Between Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and ADHD - ADHDworking
Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) are two distinct neurodevelopmental conditions. However, they frequently co-occur, with many individuals diagnosed with both. Even if not diagnosed with both, there is a considerable overlap between them resulting in many shared behaviours. This overlap has gained increasing attention as research reveals shared characteristics and neurological causality. […]
adhdworking.co.uk
December 14, 2024 at 9:55 AM
There is a line of argument that ADHD and Autism/ASD should just come under one condition, I don't know where I land on that, but it is interesting to see this Venn https://adhdworking.co.uk/differences/audhd-and-the-overlap-between-autism-spectrum-disorder-asd-and-adhd/