Journey of a Survivor
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Survivor of longterm spousal abuse who’s learning to recognize & reject abusive patterns, becoming stronger, more independent, & impossible to control!
It’s important to visit the past to spend time reflecting on what has been-even the really hard stuff. It helps us identify patterns, see growth, and recognize ways God protected us through each trial. It’s healthy to visit, but don’t stay too long. Keep on, friend! ❤️🩹
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January 1, 2026 at 7:56 PM
It’s important to visit the past to spend time reflecting on what has been-even the really hard stuff. It helps us identify patterns, see growth, and recognize ways God protected us through each trial. It’s healthy to visit, but don’t stay too long. Keep on, friend! ❤️🩹
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The belief that a partner or child can be owned is central to abuse. It explains the constant control, the seething jealousy, the silencing of individuality, and the violent rage when ownership is threatened.
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“You Belong to Me” Uncovering the Ownership Belief at the Heart of Abuse
Delve into the dynamics of abuse and ownership. Discover how the idea of possession influences abusive behavior and relationships.
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December 21, 2025 at 8:02 PM
The belief that a partner or child can be owned is central to abuse. It explains the constant control, the seething jealousy, the silencing of individuality, and the violent rage when ownership is threatened.
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Love is meant to be a sanctuary of safety, respect, and support not a battlefield of control, fear and manipulation.
December 20, 2025 at 10:29 PM
Love is meant to be a sanctuary of safety, respect, and support not a battlefield of control, fear and manipulation.
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Saying “it takes two” in abuse shifts blame onto the victim and lets the abuser off the hook. Abuse isn’t a relationship problem — it’s one person choosing to harm and control another.
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Why “It Takes Two” Is a Misleading Idea About Domestic Abuse
Explore the truth behind the 'it takes two abuse myth' and understand the real dynamics of domestic abuse.
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December 12, 2025 at 3:30 AM
Saying “it takes two” in abuse shifts blame onto the victim and lets the abuser off the hook. Abuse isn’t a relationship problem — it’s one person choosing to harm and control another.
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Triggered today. Early txt with $ manipulation. Add a 3rd party encouraging more positive interactions with my abuser, add talk of holiday plans, add 3rd party sent what 99% of world would call a heartwarming video but all I saw was lies & danger. I was quickly over my daily threshold of ick.
Remember that trauma responses represent your wounds, not your character. The real "you" is in how you understand your reactions, how you respond to them, how you soothe & course correct w/ compassion, intelligence, & skill-- how you leverage your ACTUAL choices.
December 11, 2025 at 4:01 AM
Triggered today. Early txt with $ manipulation. Add a 3rd party encouraging more positive interactions with my abuser, add talk of holiday plans, add 3rd party sent what 99% of world would call a heartwarming video but all I saw was lies & danger. I was quickly over my daily threshold of ick.
I hate it when someone asks if I’m ok just out of the blue. I know I should be grateful that they noticed me and had enough concern to ask, but afterwards I always overthink it-like “dang I must’ve looked really rough today”. It wasn’t even an especially hard day, just regular hard.
December 8, 2025 at 1:09 AM
I hate it when someone asks if I’m ok just out of the blue. I know I should be grateful that they noticed me and had enough concern to ask, but afterwards I always overthink it-like “dang I must’ve looked really rough today”. It wasn’t even an especially hard day, just regular hard.
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Abusers are increasingly misusing therapy language to control, confuse, and discredit their partners.
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The Abuser in Therapy: When Psychological Terms Become Tools of Control
Uncover the impact of therapy language abuse on survivors. Learn how terminology can be weaponized to maintain power.
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December 7, 2025 at 8:02 PM
Abusers are increasingly misusing therapy language to control, confuse, and discredit their partners.
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Denial protects the abuser. It’s often easier for outsiders to doubt a survivor than face the horror that someone they know could be dangerous.
#BelieveSurvivors #DomesticAbuseAwareness
#BelieveSurvivors #DomesticAbuseAwareness
December 7, 2025 at 1:02 PM
Denial protects the abuser. It’s often easier for outsiders to doubt a survivor than face the horror that someone they know could be dangerous.
#BelieveSurvivors #DomesticAbuseAwareness
#BelieveSurvivors #DomesticAbuseAwareness
I love love LOVE how the Lord so often encourages me with just the right verse at just the right time!! The Bible app is an excellent resource for daily reading, study & prayer. Sharing today’s devotional incase you need a little reminder of God’s love!! ✌️❤️🩹 www.bible.com/en/videos/51...
Psalm 34:18
Psalm 34:18 with Alpha
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December 6, 2025 at 2:09 PM
I love love LOVE how the Lord so often encourages me with just the right verse at just the right time!! The Bible app is an excellent resource for daily reading, study & prayer. Sharing today’s devotional incase you need a little reminder of God’s love!! ✌️❤️🩹 www.bible.com/en/videos/51...
Struggling tonight. Leaning on the Lord and thanking Him that He is right here with me ❤️
December 6, 2025 at 12:54 AM
Struggling tonight. Leaning on the Lord and thanking Him that He is right here with me ❤️
A lot of truth in this. Enmeshment is something I’ve not considered before, but it’s spot on. My abuser even says that we will be judged by God as one person because we are married. I wasn’t allowed to think for myself, do anything without his permission, or have any thought that he didn’t share.
The most dangerous part of abuse is not the outburst, but the beliefs and attitudes that drive it.
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Inside the Abusive Mindset: Control, Entitlement, Ownership and Superiority
Explore the abusive mindset and uncover the beliefs that fuel harmful behaviors in relationships. Understand the COERCES framework.
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December 5, 2025 at 5:08 AM
A lot of truth in this. Enmeshment is something I’ve not considered before, but it’s spot on. My abuser even says that we will be judged by God as one person because we are married. I wasn’t allowed to think for myself, do anything without his permission, or have any thought that he didn’t share.
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Nebraska Domestic Violence Help, Programs and Statistics
Find help and statistics for Nebraska`s 32 domestic violence programs located in 25 cities that provide help for dealing with domestic abuse.
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December 5, 2025 at 1:30 AM
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Exactly. As survivors, it’s engrained in us to make excuses for our abusers-giving the benefit of the doubt. To say that my abuser only hurt me because he was hurting, that’s a total cop out. I bet an abuser came up with that line…someone who didn’t want to take responsibility for their actions.
Hurt people don’t always hurt people. Many with trauma choose healing over harm. Accountability matters.
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
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December 5, 2025 at 4:03 AM
Exactly. As survivors, it’s engrained in us to make excuses for our abusers-giving the benefit of the doubt. To say that my abuser only hurt me because he was hurting, that’s a total cop out. I bet an abuser came up with that line…someone who didn’t want to take responsibility for their actions.
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Standing up for yourself does not equal "unkind." Setting boundaries does not equal "unkind."
In relationships that value authenticity-- which are the only relationships worth deeply investing in-- it's actually EXTREMELY kind to be clear & consistent about limits & needs.
In relationships that value authenticity-- which are the only relationships worth deeply investing in-- it's actually EXTREMELY kind to be clear & consistent about limits & needs.
July 12, 2025 at 7:09 PM
Standing up for yourself does not equal "unkind." Setting boundaries does not equal "unkind."
In relationships that value authenticity-- which are the only relationships worth deeply investing in-- it's actually EXTREMELY kind to be clear & consistent about limits & needs.
In relationships that value authenticity-- which are the only relationships worth deeply investing in-- it's actually EXTREMELY kind to be clear & consistent about limits & needs.
It’s not about me.
July 6, 2025 at 4:45 PM
It’s not about me.
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How do I help my daughter see that a guy that likes her enough to make out with her consistently over the last year but not enough to call her his girlfriend is just using her? Telling her does nothing. 😩 She’s worth so much more than that.💔
June 9, 2025 at 6:45 PM
How do I help my daughter see that a guy that likes her enough to make out with her consistently over the last year but not enough to call her his girlfriend is just using her? Telling her does nothing. 😩 She’s worth so much more than that.💔
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Thinking about what it means to be SEEN.
- to be understood
- to be represented accurately
- to be embraced and acknowledged
To be seen is to be loved.
And we can't see what we hide or ignore.
This is why representation matters.
We're teaching each other to SEE.
We're teaching each other to LOVE.
- to be understood
- to be represented accurately
- to be embraced and acknowledged
To be seen is to be loved.
And we can't see what we hide or ignore.
This is why representation matters.
We're teaching each other to SEE.
We're teaching each other to LOVE.
June 5, 2025 at 1:25 PM
Thinking about what it means to be SEEN.
- to be understood
- to be represented accurately
- to be embraced and acknowledged
To be seen is to be loved.
And we can't see what we hide or ignore.
This is why representation matters.
We're teaching each other to SEE.
We're teaching each other to LOVE.
- to be understood
- to be represented accurately
- to be embraced and acknowledged
To be seen is to be loved.
And we can't see what we hide or ignore.
This is why representation matters.
We're teaching each other to SEE.
We're teaching each other to LOVE.
Ice cream for supper? Yes please!!
May 31, 2025 at 1:38 AM
Ice cream for supper? Yes please!!
The more people I get to “know”, the more I wonder if we can ever truly “know” anyone. I mean if my husband (I married the “nice” guy) could see me daily and deceive me for 15 yrs and then convince me his abuse was all my fault… smh
May 30, 2025 at 10:15 PM
The more people I get to “know”, the more I wonder if we can ever truly “know” anyone. I mean if my husband (I married the “nice” guy) could see me daily and deceive me for 15 yrs and then convince me his abuse was all my fault… smh
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I'm slowly feeling more like my self with each day that passes. Catching up on fasting that I couldn't do while I was in the states for that month is helping (too many appointments over meals to block one day off each week).
Fasting folks, it's good for your mind, body, and soul.
Fasting folks, it's good for your mind, body, and soul.
May 30, 2025 at 6:05 PM
I'm slowly feeling more like my self with each day that passes. Catching up on fasting that I couldn't do while I was in the states for that month is helping (too many appointments over meals to block one day off each week).
Fasting folks, it's good for your mind, body, and soul.
Fasting folks, it's good for your mind, body, and soul.