reluctant anchorite
@vaneharriet.bsky.social
ex-homeschool kid • ex-fundamentalist • ex-Saskatooner • ex-academic • mom to a non-speaking autistic teen • unlearning it as I go
acutely aware this morning how much, and in how many ways, I feel like a (mostly) functional shell of some other self
December 22, 2025 at 10:26 AM
acutely aware this morning how much, and in how many ways, I feel like a (mostly) functional shell of some other self
deep-breath bracing for the next two weeks being tougher than usual and also for the emotional dislocation/weirdness of ubiquitous cultural expectation that they should be much **easier** than usual
December 21, 2025 at 10:27 AM
deep-breath bracing for the next two weeks being tougher than usual and also for the emotional dislocation/weirdness of ubiquitous cultural expectation that they should be much **easier** than usual
guys it took 15 years of living here but I have caved and bought an actual real raincoat
December 20, 2025 at 12:48 AM
guys it took 15 years of living here but I have caved and bought an actual real raincoat
apropos of nothing but Myrna Loy is hair gOALs
December 19, 2025 at 7:55 PM
apropos of nothing but Myrna Loy is hair gOALs
one
of
those
days
of
those
days
December 18, 2025 at 7:23 PM
one
of
those
days
of
those
days
I’m not esp into Xmas music but this is my one of my exceptions, just a great fucking belter of a song
in case you haven’t seen it yet this year youtu.be/l-oVPVsCqs4?...
I have 2 remarks :
1. Mick Avory did you bring that from home
2. Ray Davies here displaying EXACTLY the correct ratio of neck:unbuttoned collar and also shirtsleeves:arms, men pls take note
I have 2 remarks :
1. Mick Avory did you bring that from home
2. Ray Davies here displaying EXACTLY the correct ratio of neck:unbuttoned collar and also shirtsleeves:arms, men pls take note
The Kinks - Father Christmas 1977
YouTube video by Vinny Eastwood
youtu.be
December 17, 2025 at 5:26 PM
I’m not esp into Xmas music but this is my one of my exceptions, just a great fucking belter of a song
in case you haven’t seen it yet this year youtu.be/l-oVPVsCqs4?...
I have 2 remarks :
1. Mick Avory did you bring that from home
2. Ray Davies here displaying EXACTLY the correct ratio of neck:unbuttoned collar and also shirtsleeves:arms, men pls take note
I have 2 remarks :
1. Mick Avory did you bring that from home
2. Ray Davies here displaying EXACTLY the correct ratio of neck:unbuttoned collar and also shirtsleeves:arms, men pls take note
The Kinks - Father Christmas 1977
YouTube video by Vinny Eastwood
youtu.be
December 17, 2025 at 5:22 PM
in case you haven’t seen it yet this year youtu.be/l-oVPVsCqs4?...
I have 2 remarks :
1. Mick Avory did you bring that from home
2. Ray Davies here displaying EXACTLY the correct ratio of neck:unbuttoned collar and also shirtsleeves:arms, men pls take note
I have 2 remarks :
1. Mick Avory did you bring that from home
2. Ray Davies here displaying EXACTLY the correct ratio of neck:unbuttoned collar and also shirtsleeves:arms, men pls take note
checking my parcel’s tracking status with the optimism of someone who understands the rules of neither time nor space
December 16, 2025 at 8:12 PM
checking my parcel’s tracking status with the optimism of someone who understands the rules of neither time nor space
alternately authoritarian-shaming and gentle-parenting myself into accepting this new haircut
December 14, 2025 at 2:26 PM
alternately authoritarian-shaming and gentle-parenting myself into accepting this new haircut
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13/12/25 - nocturn
December 13, 2025 at 6:41 PM
13/12/25 - nocturn
**bargaining** I don’t even need a win just a day it doesn’t actively hurt to live in this brain
December 13, 2025 at 2:27 AM
**bargaining** I don’t even need a win just a day it doesn’t actively hurt to live in this brain
ew get her the fuck outta my province
It is real.
Noem, Niece Bag Bears in Saskatchewan – Dakota Free Press share.google/jJ6I2I2FkbsX...
Noem, Niece Bag Bears in Saskatchewan – Dakota Free Press share.google/jJ6I2I2FkbsX...
Noem, Niece Bag Bears in Saskatchewan
A couple weeks ago, Governor Kristi Noem made a big whoop-de-whoo about National Travel and Tourism Week. Last week she evidently celebrated international tourism by going up to Canada with her nie…
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December 12, 2025 at 9:17 PM
ew get her the fuck outta my province
so every once in a while if E is in an esp tolerant mood I will give his hair a couple of big snips with the thinning shears, usually the top or bangs where it’s longer
tonight I did this and
reader I had not grabbed the thinning shears but the actual haircutting scissors 🤦♀️
tonight I did this and
reader I had not grabbed the thinning shears but the actual haircutting scissors 🤦♀️
December 11, 2025 at 8:20 PM
so every once in a while if E is in an esp tolerant mood I will give his hair a couple of big snips with the thinning shears, usually the top or bangs where it’s longer
tonight I did this and
reader I had not grabbed the thinning shears but the actual haircutting scissors 🤦♀️
tonight I did this and
reader I had not grabbed the thinning shears but the actual haircutting scissors 🤦♀️
friendsRomanscountrymen I have successfully returned an online purchase within the return window, this legit has gotta rank just under my SSHRCs for Unlikeliest Life Achievement
December 11, 2025 at 7:22 PM
friendsRomanscountrymen I have successfully returned an online purchase within the return window, this legit has gotta rank just under my SSHRCs for Unlikeliest Life Achievement
🎶 I hope tomorrow
you’ll find better things 🎶
you’ll find better things 🎶
December 9, 2025 at 11:57 PM
🎶 I hope tomorrow
you’ll find better things 🎶
you’ll find better things 🎶
thread!
Something I'd like to address. There's this idea that TQ+ folk are all 21 year-old art students... and all the 'normal' old school folk are LGB and entirely left behind and confused by 'pronouns'...
Every talk I give, know who the most outspoken trans allies are? Queer folk in their 70s!!
Every talk I give, know who the most outspoken trans allies are? Queer folk in their 70s!!
December 7, 2025 at 10:15 AM
thread!
fuck it is a hard thing to try to unlearn hating your own brain
December 6, 2025 at 6:35 PM
fuck it is a hard thing to try to unlearn hating your own brain
window-shopping clothes on eBay (as one does) and it keeps suggesting stuff to me tagged “y2k” (rude) which I almost invariably like (TOUCHÉ, algorithms)
December 2, 2025 at 4:22 PM
window-shopping clothes on eBay (as one does) and it keeps suggesting stuff to me tagged “y2k” (rude) which I almost invariably like (TOUCHÉ, algorithms)
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Tim Walz on Meet the Press about Trump calling him "Retarded":
"We have fought, three decades, to get this out of our school. Kids know better than to use it. But look, this is what Donald Trump has done. He's normalized this type of hateful behavior and this type of language."
"We have fought, three decades, to get this out of our school. Kids know better than to use it. But look, this is what Donald Trump has done. He's normalized this type of hateful behavior and this type of language."
November 30, 2025 at 6:33 PM
Tim Walz on Meet the Press about Trump calling him "Retarded":
"We have fought, three decades, to get this out of our school. Kids know better than to use it. But look, this is what Donald Trump has done. He's normalized this type of hateful behavior and this type of language."
"We have fought, three decades, to get this out of our school. Kids know better than to use it. But look, this is what Donald Trump has done. He's normalized this type of hateful behavior and this type of language."
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hey guys, super good place to throw a few bucks, if you’ve got ‘em! Ellie and I were at KCL together (approx one hundred years ago) and I babysat the kiddo in question when they were teensy 💖
So I am running the London Lea Valley 50km in March and trying to raise some money for Step Forward - a youth centre in Tower Hamlets, Kiddo attends their LGBTQIA+ group and it's been such a brilliant and supportive space for them, which feels so important when trans youth are under constant attack.
Ellie's fundraiser for Step Forward (Tower Hamlets)
Help Ellie Mackin Roberts raise money to support Step Forward (Tower Hamlets)
www.justgiving.com
November 27, 2025 at 4:09 PM
hey guys, super good place to throw a few bucks, if you’ve got ‘em! Ellie and I were at KCL together (approx one hundred years ago) and I babysat the kiddo in question when they were teensy 💖
this would have been E if he’d been born a few generations sooner (& would have been one of the **better** scenarios)
November 28, 2025 at 5:27 PM
this would have been E if he’d been born a few generations sooner (& would have been one of the **better** scenarios)
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Malls should have a coat check
November 28, 2025 at 4:31 PM
Malls should have a coat check
happy Thanksgiving to all my American friends! I am wistfully envious of all the food I am seeing described in your posts, lol
November 27, 2025 at 5:05 PM
happy Thanksgiving to all my American friends! I am wistfully envious of all the food I am seeing described in your posts, lol
look at this adorbs pic from FOURTEEN (14) years ago today
November 27, 2025 at 5:04 PM
look at this adorbs pic from FOURTEEN (14) years ago today
has @iwriteok.bsky.social seen this because I heard the motto in his voice
this pack of Korean cigarettes has the greatest logo I've ever seen
November 27, 2025 at 4:13 PM
has @iwriteok.bsky.social seen this because I heard the motto in his voice