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WittyWallflower
@wittywallflower.bsky.social
deaf queer midwestern elder millenial. she/her.
i expect you to know how to behave at your big age.
or the sweet note they wrote you was word-for-word taken from what an AI told them they should say…

May as well just date the chatbot at that point, it cant give me an STD or hog the covers or eat my snacks.
November 11, 2025 at 10:38 PM
Frustrating af because I'm an intelligent person, I can figure most things out. But my brain just goes *brrr*, dissociates, and refuses to decode the legalese.
November 5, 2025 at 6:28 PM
But if I am having a lazy morning and the weighted blanket is just TOO cozy… the laptop does on the pillow I am not using and my work still gets done.
October 30, 2025 at 9:41 PM
btw this is on the heels of me leaving ~6 months ago, my friend ‘leaving’ (working maybe one day a week when he felt like it but otherwise being a stay at home dad) around the same time, and then the week before the firings happened the other two staff in my room put in notice or quit without.
October 17, 2025 at 11:40 PM
One of them was the woman who was my mentor when I stared, taught me everything about the job because I was fully new to the field. I am shocked that she of all the ppl in that building would be the one doing that.
October 17, 2025 at 11:38 PM
I was there ten years, only 2 employees aside from the boss had been there longer, most of the rest of staff sitting at 1-3 years when I left.

Both of those two got suddenly fired. And this job only fires for actual serious misconduct. 😳
October 17, 2025 at 11:37 PM
WELL. I heard some gossip about my last job and daaaaamn that place is imploding. so glad it’s not my problem.

$5 says my old boss tries to feel me out about coming back part time
October 17, 2025 at 4:53 AM
lest this thread end up too braggy, I should note there are downsides

its harder to feel like I have clocked out for the day when my work pc is also where I browse tumblr and write my silly little fanfics. I will open my work email out of muscle memory and start a reply before I realize it’s 9:30pm
October 3, 2025 at 9:48 PM
I honestly can’t imagine what it would be like for a person who was born fully deaf. Would they be able to have tinnitus, or identify that they have it? would it be maddening to them too, or would be an interesting experience like “oh, so this is what hearing sound is like”?
October 3, 2025 at 9:33 PM
I’ve worn hearing aids all my life been able to get by, like I worked retail jobs with minimal difficulty because I can lipread very well.

but the tinnitus is loud enough that it drowns out so much. I can’t hear a lot of what I used to be able to hear.
October 3, 2025 at 9:31 PM
To my knowledge it’s fairly rare that deaf = total absence of sound, but there is a wide range of profound hearing loss where the remaining hearing is not enough to be useful, therefore deaf.

I actually considered myself “hearing-impaired” versus “deaf“ until I developed chronic tinnitus.
October 3, 2025 at 9:29 PM
the ringing sound was and continues to be louder than the sounds I can actually hear in the environment around me, with or without a hearing aid. I wont hear a phone ringing unless it is in my hand or closer. there's really nothing else it could be except tinnitus
October 2, 2025 at 10:49 PM
my commute involves rolling out of bed and walking to the living room, with a detour to the bathroom as needed
October 1, 2025 at 9:35 PM