The Road Jess Travelled
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Feminist. Atheist. Progressive. Intersectional. Pro-Abortion
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You can only dehumanize people so much before they come to see it is you who lacks any humanity. Don't expect kindness or even civility from those you've treated as subhuman.
Yeah, sometimes we don't see it, esp if we're surrounded by ppl who accept them & we convince ourselves those red flags aren't enough to cut ties. I've been there with a lot of ppl. So I recognize there are ppl who are duped, society pressures our acceptance, & then there are ppl who don't care.
February 11, 2026 at 8:26 PM
Yeah, sometimes we don't see it, esp if we're surrounded by ppl who accept them & we convince ourselves those red flags aren't enough to cut ties. I've been there with a lot of ppl. So I recognize there are ppl who are duped, society pressures our acceptance, & then there are ppl who don't care.
I do know predators groom allies as much as they groom their victims so there are certainly people who don't know. Which is why they shouldn't vouch for them. But often people did hear the whispers & simply chose to preserve their comfort.
February 11, 2026 at 7:58 PM
I do know predators groom allies as much as they groom their victims so there are certainly people who don't know. Which is why they shouldn't vouch for them. But often people did hear the whispers & simply chose to preserve their comfort.
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This is required reading, and I share the philosophy.
If you’ve got a problem with that, you need to look within yourself because that’s where the actual problem lies.
If you’ve got a problem with that, you need to look within yourself because that’s where the actual problem lies.
Going to reshare an old Twitter thread about why I don't vouch for men. Because I know it isn't EVERY man, but it could be ANY man. People should consider do you really want to lend your reputation to a potential predator.
February 11, 2026 at 7:41 PM
This is required reading, and I share the philosophy.
If you’ve got a problem with that, you need to look within yourself because that’s where the actual problem lies.
If you’ve got a problem with that, you need to look within yourself because that’s where the actual problem lies.
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The ones who fold will forever be remembered as the ones who folded. It's his Covid "strategy"--"stop testing and Covid will go away"--all over again.
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February 11, 2026 at 7:51 PM
The ones who fold will forever be remembered as the ones who folded. It's his Covid "strategy"--"stop testing and Covid will go away"--all over again.
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It also hurts my feelings that a lot of "good" people associate with men who hurt women but claim they didn't know, forgot, can't judge, or don't believe the accusations. And those associations give the impression that a guy is safe.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
It also hurts my feelings that a lot of "good" people associate with men who hurt women but claim they didn't know, forgot, can't judge, or don't believe the accusations. And those associations give the impression that a guy is safe.
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When men say "it hurts my feelings when women give us tests, are scared, fail to exclude me when describing men," it hurts my feelings that men sexually assault us. Then blame women for trusting the wrong guy, which women should know but also not restrict men's access by being cautious.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
When men say "it hurts my feelings when women give us tests, are scared, fail to exclude me when describing men," it hurts my feelings that men sexually assault us. Then blame women for trusting the wrong guy, which women should know but also not restrict men's access by being cautious.
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I also learned a lot of people prefer to not be discomforted by holding men they like accountable for their abuses. People I thought were good.
(A lesson I already knew personally, a lot of men will wait for a vulnerable moment, or person, to pounce.)
(A lesson I already knew personally, a lot of men will wait for a vulnerable moment, or person, to pounce.)
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
I also learned a lot of people prefer to not be discomforted by holding men they like accountable for their abuses. People I thought were good.
(A lesson I already knew personally, a lot of men will wait for a vulnerable moment, or person, to pounce.)
(A lesson I already knew personally, a lot of men will wait for a vulnerable moment, or person, to pounce.)
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I learned from this no matter how well they wear the mask & play the role, they can still be predators. Anyone can be deceived. Had someone asked me if he was safe, I'd have likely said I didn't know him well but he seemed kind.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
I learned from this no matter how well they wear the mask & play the role, they can still be predators. Anyone can be deceived. Had someone asked me if he was safe, I'd have likely said I didn't know him well but he seemed kind.
It also hurts my feelings that a lot of "good" people associate with men who hurt women but claim they didn't know, forgot, can't judge, or don't believe the accusations. And those associations give the impression that a guy is safe.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
It also hurts my feelings that a lot of "good" people associate with men who hurt women but claim they didn't know, forgot, can't judge, or don't believe the accusations. And those associations give the impression that a guy is safe.
When men say "it hurts my feelings when women give us tests, are scared, fail to exclude me when describing men," it hurts my feelings that men sexually assault us. Then blame women for trusting the wrong guy, which women should know but also not restrict men's access by being cautious.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
When men say "it hurts my feelings when women give us tests, are scared, fail to exclude me when describing men," it hurts my feelings that men sexually assault us. Then blame women for trusting the wrong guy, which women should know but also not restrict men's access by being cautious.
So no, I don't believe a man is good because he performs decency & is liked. I won't be an accomplice so I try to remember this lesson wrt vouching for men. And "good" people who would "never tolerate abusers" absolutely will if that's more convenient.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
So no, I don't believe a man is good because he performs decency & is liked. I won't be an accomplice so I try to remember this lesson wrt vouching for men. And "good" people who would "never tolerate abusers" absolutely will if that's more convenient.
How do men benefit from the violence of other men? Guy benefited from the husband's abuse & isolation. Husband benefited from guy's assault driving her back. Even if she wasn't trying to escape an abuser, a sexual assault could drive a woman back to the false safety of a husband.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
How do men benefit from the violence of other men? Guy benefited from the husband's abuse & isolation. Husband benefited from guy's assault driving her back. Even if she wasn't trying to escape an abuser, a sexual assault could drive a woman back to the false safety of a husband.
I also learned a lot of people prefer to not be discomforted by holding men they like accountable for their abuses. People I thought were good.
(A lesson I already knew personally, a lot of men will wait for a vulnerable moment, or person, to pounce.)
(A lesson I already knew personally, a lot of men will wait for a vulnerable moment, or person, to pounce.)
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
I also learned a lot of people prefer to not be discomforted by holding men they like accountable for their abuses. People I thought were good.
(A lesson I already knew personally, a lot of men will wait for a vulnerable moment, or person, to pounce.)
(A lesson I already knew personally, a lot of men will wait for a vulnerable moment, or person, to pounce.)
I learned from this no matter how well they wear the mask & play the role, they can still be predators. Anyone can be deceived. Had someone asked me if he was safe, I'd have likely said I didn't know him well but he seemed kind.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
I learned from this no matter how well they wear the mask & play the role, they can still be predators. Anyone can be deceived. Had someone asked me if he was safe, I'd have likely said I didn't know him well but he seemed kind.
While this wasn't the only factor - she had no support, no money, her husband hired a lawyer & threatened her, on top of stalking - I have no doubt the assault contributed to her deleting all social media & returning to him.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
While this wasn't the only factor - she had no support, no money, her husband hired a lawyer & threatened her, on top of stalking - I have no doubt the assault contributed to her deleting all social media & returning to him.
With her permission I confronted him. He didn't deny it. Don't think he even apologized. Instead he launched into what a monster he was, poor him. After sharing my thoughts, I blocked him. Then I blocked everyone who hadn't blocked him despite learning of it, which was many.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
With her permission I confronted him. He didn't deny it. Don't think he even apologized. Instead he launched into what a monster he was, poor him. After sharing my thoughts, I blocked him. Then I blocked everyone who hadn't blocked him despite learning of it, which was many.
Of course he was supportive of my friend & happened to live near her. As she had no one in her life to even meet for coffee, & everyone seemed to like him, she ended up meeting up with him. And he sexually assaulted her.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
Of course he was supportive of my friend & happened to live near her. As she had no one in her life to even meet for coffee, & everyone seemed to like him, she ended up meeting up with him. And he sexually assaulted her.
He said all the right things & when anyone was struggling or down, he was there to try to lift them up. He had said some things to me that'd given me pause (& have since been added to my red flags) but he came across as quite lovely & supportive. Many ppl I knew befriended him.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
He said all the right things & when anyone was struggling or down, he was there to try to lift them up. He had said some things to me that'd given me pause (& have since been added to my red flags) but he came across as quite lovely & supportive. Many ppl I knew befriended him.
Years ago I had a friend online who was trying to escape an abusive husband. She had no support system, by design, not even from her own family. She did have some online friends & we had a lot of mutuals. One was a man who was charming, well-liked, & seemed kind & supportive.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
Years ago I had a friend online who was trying to escape an abusive husband. She had no support system, by design, not even from her own family. She did have some online friends & we had a lot of mutuals. One was a man who was charming, well-liked, & seemed kind & supportive.
I'm going to tell a story about Good Ones, why I don't vouch for men, & how all men benefit from the violence of other men.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
I'm going to tell a story about Good Ones, why I don't vouch for men, & how all men benefit from the violence of other men.
Going to reshare an old Twitter thread about why I don't vouch for men. Because I know it isn't EVERY man, but it could be ANY man. People should consider do you really want to lend your reputation to a potential predator.
February 11, 2026 at 7:07 PM
Going to reshare an old Twitter thread about why I don't vouch for men. Because I know it isn't EVERY man, but it could be ANY man. People should consider do you really want to lend your reputation to a potential predator.
Unless I misread it, yeah. The father's attorney demanded she recuse herself citing bias & she refused.
February 11, 2026 at 1:31 AM
Unless I misread it, yeah. The father's attorney demanded she recuse herself citing bias & she refused.
Sometimes it isn't even misinterpreted. There's just an assumption that every woman is "secretly" available. Another reason they insist women smile & present as warm & inviting. Then they can claim she led him on.
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February 11, 2026 at 1:29 AM
Sometimes it isn't even misinterpreted. There's just an assumption that every woman is "secretly" available. Another reason they insist women smile & present as warm & inviting. Then they can claim she led him on.
Forced intimacy. Definitely creepy, manipulative, & predatory.
February 11, 2026 at 1:27 AM
Forced intimacy. Definitely creepy, manipulative, & predatory.
The good news is even if you have settled for being poorly loved, you don't have to one second more. Also in good news, you can & should drop male-centered friends who encourage you accept mistreatment.
February 11, 2026 at 1:26 AM
The good news is even if you have settled for being poorly loved, you don't have to one second more. Also in good news, you can & should drop male-centered friends who encourage you accept mistreatment.