Darius Quebec 🏳️⚧️
@ksej.bsky.social
Trans, mental, trying to write more, gestational dad to xCLP and Scunthorpe United until one of us dies. Now with a Ko-fi https://ko-fi.com/ksej2610
Had an argument at work with someone who thinks dead people pay inheritance tax. I suggested that's like saying your employer pays income tax, but this confused them because employers pay National Insurance
November 27, 2025 at 8:28 PM
Had an argument at work with someone who thinks dead people pay inheritance tax. I suggested that's like saying your employer pays income tax, but this confused them because employers pay National Insurance
My boiler is apparently dangerously leaky and has been shut off until such time as they can fit a replacement. They have offered me electric heaters in the interim but they can't do anything about hot water. I wonder if they'd let me shower at the leisure centre
November 27, 2025 at 9:21 AM
My boiler is apparently dangerously leaky and has been shut off until such time as they can fit a replacement. They have offered me electric heaters in the interim but they can't do anything about hot water. I wonder if they'd let me shower at the leisure centre
Just got a call on my landline from a double glazing sales rep. I had no idea that was still a thing!
I was probably quite grouchy but I didn't swear at him and I told him very clearly that I'm a social housing tenant so I'm not making those decisions
I was probably quite grouchy but I didn't swear at him and I told him very clearly that I'm a social housing tenant so I'm not making those decisions
November 27, 2025 at 9:08 AM
Just got a call on my landline from a double glazing sales rep. I had no idea that was still a thing!
I was probably quite grouchy but I didn't swear at him and I told him very clearly that I'm a social housing tenant so I'm not making those decisions
I was probably quite grouchy but I didn't swear at him and I told him very clearly that I'm a social housing tenant so I'm not making those decisions
Share the last movie you watched!
Bend It Like Beckham
Bend It Like Beckham
November 26, 2025 at 2:41 PM
Share the last movie you watched!
Bend It Like Beckham
Bend It Like Beckham
Today in tops: sir, I have lived in this body for 47 years and you have simply seen a couple of pictures of it. Which of us do you think has a better understanding of its capabilities?
November 26, 2025 at 2:33 PM
Today in tops: sir, I have lived in this body for 47 years and you have simply seen a couple of pictures of it. Which of us do you think has a better understanding of its capabilities?
xCLP is complaining about "kids today" and "6-7". I reminded her about "ten plus nine" and she insisted that had wit and charm and kids today are going to the dogs. I'm sure she's too young for that!
November 26, 2025 at 10:58 AM
xCLP is complaining about "kids today" and "6-7". I reminded her about "ten plus nine" and she insisted that had wit and charm and kids today are going to the dogs. I'm sure she's too young for that!
I'm still working my way through the recipes in So Much Cooking by @naomikritzer.bsky.social. Tonight's effort is Miscellaneous Soup
November 25, 2025 at 9:17 PM
I'm still working my way through the recipes in So Much Cooking by @naomikritzer.bsky.social. Tonight's effort is Miscellaneous Soup
One of the things that makes me angry fastest is when people say "you're doing everything right". Correct, I am doing all the things you keep telling me to do and my life still sucks. It's almost like it's impossible to solve a problem like that just by changing my behaviour
November 25, 2025 at 4:33 PM
One of the things that makes me angry fastest is when people say "you're doing everything right". Correct, I am doing all the things you keep telling me to do and my life still sucks. It's almost like it's impossible to solve a problem like that just by changing my behaviour
"Everything is bleak and the best thing I can imagine doing is sleeping for 24 hours. Time to log on and see what's happening in the wider world..."
November 25, 2025 at 3:42 PM
"Everything is bleak and the best thing I can imagine doing is sleeping for 24 hours. Time to log on and see what's happening in the wider world..."
I can't afford to buy books, so what I do is wait until I see them for 50p in Sue Ryder. I've discovered some very cool books that way, but also it means not being a thief
"I pirate books because I can't afford to buy them."
Well...maybe save up until you can?
Nobody's entitled to books just because they want them.
Well...maybe save up until you can?
Nobody's entitled to books just because they want them.
November 24, 2025 at 8:50 PM
I can't afford to buy books, so what I do is wait until I see them for 50p in Sue Ryder. I've discovered some very cool books that way, but also it means not being a thief
"The beautiful game doesn't end at the final whistle" Yes it does, that's what makes it final
November 24, 2025 at 7:33 PM
"The beautiful game doesn't end at the final whistle" Yes it does, that's what makes it final
Do people hear that and think I mean everyone is actively avoiding me? Because yeah sure that would be over the top. People are quite happy to have me around to suck them off or move a sideboard or whatever. They just don't want to spend time with me outside that context
Me: nobody wants to spend time with me
CPN: that's your perception
Me: literally everything I experience is my perception so that is not a meaningful response
CPN: that's your perception
Me: literally everything I experience is my perception so that is not a meaningful response
November 24, 2025 at 6:17 PM
Do people hear that and think I mean everyone is actively avoiding me? Because yeah sure that would be over the top. People are quite happy to have me around to suck them off or move a sideboard or whatever. They just don't want to spend time with me outside that context
I am not wildly into roasting as an art form but I fondly imagined the point was to be witty rather than just vulgar
Everything about this might be the saddest thing I’ve ever seen
November 24, 2025 at 3:55 PM
I am not wildly into roasting as an art form but I fondly imagined the point was to be witty rather than just vulgar
xCLP's other dad once informed me that he is "110% heterosexual" and that he is "a masculine man who needs a feminine woman". I asked him how he squared that with dating someone who even the gee cees would describe as a masculine woman
November 24, 2025 at 3:27 PM
xCLP's other dad once informed me that he is "110% heterosexual" and that he is "a masculine man who needs a feminine woman". I asked him how he squared that with dating someone who even the gee cees would describe as a masculine woman
Yes yes, I know what he meant. He meant I am perceiving things wrong and need to perceive them differently, because that's so much more meaningful
Me: nobody wants to spend time with me
CPN: that's your perception
Me: literally everything I experience is my perception so that is not a meaningful response
CPN: that's your perception
Me: literally everything I experience is my perception so that is not a meaningful response
November 24, 2025 at 2:57 PM
Yes yes, I know what he meant. He meant I am perceiving things wrong and need to perceive them differently, because that's so much more meaningful
Thinking about Mahmood and the gee cees and how they use essentially the same rhetorical dodge. "I have suffered and therefore I am correct about the response to this suffering, which is to demonise a more vulnerable group. If you disagree, you're denying my suffering"
November 24, 2025 at 1:30 PM
Thinking about Mahmood and the gee cees and how they use essentially the same rhetorical dodge. "I have suffered and therefore I am correct about the response to this suffering, which is to demonise a more vulnerable group. If you disagree, you're denying my suffering"
CPN: you're depressed. Sorry to say that
Me: yeah I know. The part where Scunthorpe win and I'm still not happy kind of clued me in
Me: yeah I know. The part where Scunthorpe win and I'm still not happy kind of clued me in
November 24, 2025 at 12:56 PM
CPN: you're depressed. Sorry to say that
Me: yeah I know. The part where Scunthorpe win and I'm still not happy kind of clued me in
Me: yeah I know. The part where Scunthorpe win and I'm still not happy kind of clued me in
Neither BrE nor AmE biscuits are really biscuits because you only cook them once *runs away and hides*
November 24, 2025 at 4:30 AM
Neither BrE nor AmE biscuits are really biscuits because you only cook them once *runs away and hides*
Things I wish sanes understood part five million: when you tell me the things that are hurting me aren't that bad, it doesn't stop me hurting. It just tells me you don't take my pain seriously
November 23, 2025 at 8:51 PM
Things I wish sanes understood part five million: when you tell me the things that are hurting me aren't that bad, it doesn't stop me hurting. It just tells me you don't take my pain seriously
Opened a chat window to tell the gooner gf, if that's still an accurate term for her, that they will not win the title in my lifetime. Didn't quite dare type it out
November 23, 2025 at 6:13 PM
Opened a chat window to tell the gooner gf, if that's still an accurate term for her, that they will not win the title in my lifetime. Didn't quite dare type it out
I forgot that Doctor Who shares xCLP's birthday. What a wonderful day!
November 23, 2025 at 2:32 PM
I forgot that Doctor Who shares xCLP's birthday. What a wonderful day!
I'm no longer the parent of a teenager 😭😭😭
November 23, 2025 at 12:45 AM
I'm no longer the parent of a teenager 😭😭😭
Me, reading the bus route information at the station: Gallagher Retail Park for Scunthorpe United FC
Fellow fan: sounds like a fair swap
Fellow fan: sounds like a fair swap
November 23, 2025 at 12:08 AM
Me, reading the bus route information at the station: Gallagher Retail Park for Scunthorpe United FC
Fellow fan: sounds like a fair swap
Fellow fan: sounds like a fair swap
Today we're playing Braintree, who are also nicknamed the Iron. So I just messaged xCLP to tell her the Iron had scored (positive) #football
November 22, 2025 at 3:18 PM
Today we're playing Braintree, who are also nicknamed the Iron. So I just messaged xCLP to tell her the Iron had scored (positive) #football