YZA bby ✨🦋
@oyiza.blacksky.app
Tv-addict, Science witch, Lover of all things Music, Plant mum. Striving for ma’aticity .
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ẹni tí oòrùn fẹ́ràn
She/her/Dr
30+
📍- wherever the love, fun, and joy decides to live.
(Views are mine)
🌈 🏳️⚧️
ẹni tí oòrùn fẹ́ràn
She/her/Dr
30+
📍- wherever the love, fun, and joy decides to live.
(Views are mine)
Is emotional intelligence actually a thing? Or do people just mean emotional awareness?
Especially considering how trauma works, and how there’s very little room for intelligence when you’re triggered or your in your limbic system
I also feel like there’s some conflation stoicism going on.
Especially considering how trauma works, and how there’s very little room for intelligence when you’re triggered or your in your limbic system
I also feel like there’s some conflation stoicism going on.
December 22, 2025 at 1:46 PM
Is emotional intelligence actually a thing? Or do people just mean emotional awareness?
Especially considering how trauma works, and how there’s very little room for intelligence when you’re triggered or your in your limbic system
I also feel like there’s some conflation stoicism going on.
Especially considering how trauma works, and how there’s very little room for intelligence when you’re triggered or your in your limbic system
I also feel like there’s some conflation stoicism going on.
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too many people read to regurgitate instead of reading to understand. and that's where critical thinking is lost.
December 22, 2025 at 12:00 PM
too many people read to regurgitate instead of reading to understand. and that's where critical thinking is lost.
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Some people are so ableist. They disregard disabled people. Audio books are perfect for the blind as well. Get your books in any way you can.
December 22, 2025 at 9:22 AM
Some people are so ableist. They disregard disabled people. Audio books are perfect for the blind as well. Get your books in any way you can.
I saw this behaviour on clubhouse (the app).
It was really chilling but eye opening.
Also, that was in 2021.
It was really chilling but eye opening.
Also, that was in 2021.
if you're not dropping n bombs in the group chat, can you really be trusted?
December 22, 2025 at 12:24 PM
I saw this behaviour on clubhouse (the app).
It was really chilling but eye opening.
Also, that was in 2021.
It was really chilling but eye opening.
Also, that was in 2021.
Learning to voice wanting attention instead of (unintentionally!) being a passive aggressive mess 😮💨.
December 22, 2025 at 11:39 AM
Learning to voice wanting attention instead of (unintentionally!) being a passive aggressive mess 😮💨.
So does the “mutuals” tab only show posts?
Because I haven’t been seeing the replies of my moots on that tab.
Because I haven’t been seeing the replies of my moots on that tab.
December 22, 2025 at 9:57 AM
So does the “mutuals” tab only show posts?
Because I haven’t been seeing the replies of my moots on that tab.
Because I haven’t been seeing the replies of my moots on that tab.
Imagine constantly misgendering a person and making no effort to appreciate their identity and still expecting access to that person.
What???!
I get extending grace because we’re all raised on cisnormativity and transphobia, but I feel like respect is the minimum to be in community with a person
What???!
I get extending grace because we’re all raised on cisnormativity and transphobia, but I feel like respect is the minimum to be in community with a person
December 22, 2025 at 9:50 AM
Imagine constantly misgendering a person and making no effort to appreciate their identity and still expecting access to that person.
What???!
I get extending grace because we’re all raised on cisnormativity and transphobia, but I feel like respect is the minimum to be in community with a person
What???!
I get extending grace because we’re all raised on cisnormativity and transphobia, but I feel like respect is the minimum to be in community with a person
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“I haven’t lost everything; I still have you.”
Asiri and Zara in ”Shadows Like Mine”
Asiri and Zara in ”Shadows Like Mine”
December 22, 2025 at 8:53 AM
“I haven’t lost everything; I still have you.”
Asiri and Zara in ”Shadows Like Mine”
Asiri and Zara in ”Shadows Like Mine”
What do you do when the entity with the largest megaphone/attention keeps spewing inflammatory rhetoric towards you and lies about you every chance they get?
December 22, 2025 at 9:16 AM
What do you do when the entity with the largest megaphone/attention keeps spewing inflammatory rhetoric towards you and lies about you every chance they get?
Watching a lot people learn the hard way that you have to have values and assess/evaluate people’s ideas independent of their character.
You know, broken clocks that are right, throwing out bath-water, and all that.
You know, broken clocks that are right, throwing out bath-water, and all that.
December 22, 2025 at 8:52 AM
Watching a lot people learn the hard way that you have to have values and assess/evaluate people’s ideas independent of their character.
You know, broken clocks that are right, throwing out bath-water, and all that.
You know, broken clocks that are right, throwing out bath-water, and all that.
This means that if your values are say, patriarchal, I’m not going to empathise with any consequences of those beliefs from a non-patriarchal lens (aka my values) … this also means that I can’t expect you to empathise with me for any of the impact patriarchy has on me.
One of the most important things I learned this year is that it's best to hold people accountable to their beliefs and values, not mine, otherwise.
It's also generally impossible to hold someone accountable to values they don't share/have.
It's also generally impossible to hold someone accountable to values they don't share/have.
December 21, 2025 at 9:53 PM
This means that if your values are say, patriarchal, I’m not going to empathise with any consequences of those beliefs from a non-patriarchal lens (aka my values) … this also means that I can’t expect you to empathise with me for any of the impact patriarchy has on me.
One of the most important things I learned this year is that it's best to hold people accountable to their beliefs and values, not mine, otherwise.
It's also generally impossible to hold someone accountable to values they don't share/have.
It's also generally impossible to hold someone accountable to values they don't share/have.
December 21, 2025 at 9:51 PM
One of the most important things I learned this year is that it's best to hold people accountable to their beliefs and values, not mine, otherwise.
It's also generally impossible to hold someone accountable to values they don't share/have.
It's also generally impossible to hold someone accountable to values they don't share/have.
This!
The reason why queer identity is framed as choice is because bigots want to argue that there is a “right” choice, and use that to justify cruelty/bullying people into making the “right” choice.
The narcissism is that bigots don’t see their own sexuality as a choice. It’s “default” to them.
The reason why queer identity is framed as choice is because bigots want to argue that there is a “right” choice, and use that to justify cruelty/bullying people into making the “right” choice.
The narcissism is that bigots don’t see their own sexuality as a choice. It’s “default” to them.
“born this way" sometimes functions as a materially useful rhetorical defense. it can pressure cishet people to drop their objections to queerness.
a thought-terminating cliche is not a bad thing if the thought being terminated is “i should hate crime this trans woman”.
a thought-terminating cliche is not a bad thing if the thought being terminated is “i should hate crime this trans woman”.
December 21, 2025 at 9:44 PM
This!
The reason why queer identity is framed as choice is because bigots want to argue that there is a “right” choice, and use that to justify cruelty/bullying people into making the “right” choice.
The narcissism is that bigots don’t see their own sexuality as a choice. It’s “default” to them.
The reason why queer identity is framed as choice is because bigots want to argue that there is a “right” choice, and use that to justify cruelty/bullying people into making the “right” choice.
The narcissism is that bigots don’t see their own sexuality as a choice. It’s “default” to them.
I’m not “transitioning”, I’m healing.
I feel like the “transition” word/phrasing has done a lot of damage to trans people.
It’s so easy to frame/interpret trans identity as a choice (and subsequently a glorified hobby) because of that word.
It’s so easy to frame/interpret trans identity as a choice (and subsequently a glorified hobby) because of that word.
December 21, 2025 at 11:35 AM
I’m not “transitioning”, I’m healing.
I feel like the “transition” word/phrasing has done a lot of damage to trans people.
It’s so easy to frame/interpret trans identity as a choice (and subsequently a glorified hobby) because of that word.
It’s so easy to frame/interpret trans identity as a choice (and subsequently a glorified hobby) because of that word.
December 21, 2025 at 10:29 AM
I feel like the “transition” word/phrasing has done a lot of damage to trans people.
It’s so easy to frame/interpret trans identity as a choice (and subsequently a glorified hobby) because of that word.
It’s so easy to frame/interpret trans identity as a choice (and subsequently a glorified hobby) because of that word.
I'm so so so grateful for my heritage as a black person every day.
It feels me up with life.
It feels me up with life.
December 20, 2025 at 8:56 PM
I'm so so so grateful for my heritage as a black person every day.
It feels me up with life.
It feels me up with life.
I'm beginning to discover who I am outside of work/academics.
I'm also beginning to fall in love with this person 😇.
It's still a work in process, but I'm so glad I'm at a place where I can give myself permission to be!
No survival mode, no hypervigilance, just be.
I'm also beginning to fall in love with this person 😇.
It's still a work in process, but I'm so glad I'm at a place where I can give myself permission to be!
No survival mode, no hypervigilance, just be.
December 20, 2025 at 8:53 PM
I'm beginning to discover who I am outside of work/academics.
I'm also beginning to fall in love with this person 😇.
It's still a work in process, but I'm so glad I'm at a place where I can give myself permission to be!
No survival mode, no hypervigilance, just be.
I'm also beginning to fall in love with this person 😇.
It's still a work in process, but I'm so glad I'm at a place where I can give myself permission to be!
No survival mode, no hypervigilance, just be.
Dear trans girl,
Your spiritual journey is to bring balance to and between your spirit and your body.
Honour spiritual deities that focus on balance.
Your spiritual journey is to bring balance to and between your spirit and your body.
Honour spiritual deities that focus on balance.
December 20, 2025 at 8:01 PM
Dear trans girl,
Your spiritual journey is to bring balance to and between your spirit and your body.
Honour spiritual deities that focus on balance.
Your spiritual journey is to bring balance to and between your spirit and your body.
Honour spiritual deities that focus on balance.
Joy Crookes - First Last Dance
Listen to First Last Dance on TIDAL
tidal.com
December 20, 2025 at 3:14 PM
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They rewrite history to escape accountability
One thing about narcissists is that they always go too far. Because nothing is enough, no amount of money, power, or oppression.
And one thing about the universe? She loves balance. She may not notice your shenanigans for a while, but once she does, it’s over for you.
And one thing about the universe? She loves balance. She may not notice your shenanigans for a while, but once she does, it’s over for you.
December 20, 2025 at 11:13 AM
They rewrite history to escape accountability
One thing about narcissists is that they always go too far. Because nothing is enough, no amount of money, power, or oppression.
And one thing about the universe? She loves balance. She may not notice your shenanigans for a while, but once she does, it’s over for you.
And one thing about the universe? She loves balance. She may not notice your shenanigans for a while, but once she does, it’s over for you.
December 20, 2025 at 10:48 AM
One thing about narcissists is that they always go too far. Because nothing is enough, no amount of money, power, or oppression.
And one thing about the universe? She loves balance. She may not notice your shenanigans for a while, but once she does, it’s over for you.
And one thing about the universe? She loves balance. She may not notice your shenanigans for a while, but once she does, it’s over for you.
“I miss you when you’re in there all the time” 🥹
I love love.
This somehow made me understand why the question “what are you thinking about?” from a loved one always made me feel warm.
They didn’t question or punish my silence. They saw I was in my head, respected it, wanted an invitation.
I love love.
This somehow made me understand why the question “what are you thinking about?” from a loved one always made me feel warm.
They didn’t question or punish my silence. They saw I was in my head, respected it, wanted an invitation.
December 20, 2025 at 9:35 AM
“I miss you when you’re in there all the time” 🥹
I love love.
This somehow made me understand why the question “what are you thinking about?” from a loved one always made me feel warm.
They didn’t question or punish my silence. They saw I was in my head, respected it, wanted an invitation.
I love love.
This somehow made me understand why the question “what are you thinking about?” from a loved one always made me feel warm.
They didn’t question or punish my silence. They saw I was in my head, respected it, wanted an invitation.
"Anytime we fight you go no I'm not eating"
Being able to be vulnerable with your partner is a blessing.
Love is the ability to hold your partner's vulnerabilities (not exploit them).
tidal.com/track/312207...
Being able to be vulnerable with your partner is a blessing.
Love is the ability to hold your partner's vulnerabilities (not exploit them).
tidal.com/track/312207...
Ajebo Hustlers - Kisses
Listen to Kisses on TIDAL
tidal.com
December 20, 2025 at 9:26 AM
"Anytime we fight you go no I'm not eating"
Being able to be vulnerable with your partner is a blessing.
Love is the ability to hold your partner's vulnerabilities (not exploit them).
tidal.com/track/312207...
Being able to be vulnerable with your partner is a blessing.
Love is the ability to hold your partner's vulnerabilities (not exploit them).
tidal.com/track/312207...
We've seen this story so many times. The evil monster always lets out a big cry/yell before it dies.
We're living through the big yell of white supremacy, but its death will come.
Nothing is above death.
We're living through the big yell of white supremacy, but its death will come.
Nothing is above death.
December 20, 2025 at 9:21 AM
We've seen this story so many times. The evil monster always lets out a big cry/yell before it dies.
We're living through the big yell of white supremacy, but its death will come.
Nothing is above death.
We're living through the big yell of white supremacy, but its death will come.
Nothing is above death.