Radical Relating
@radicalrelating.bsky.social
they/them. Somatic Relationship Coach specialising in Consensual Non-Monogamy, Relationship Anarchy, and Post-Monogamy. Queer. Solo Polyamorous. Roma Diaspora. Living in Canada. Here to dismantle the patriarchy.
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Hello Bluesky! My name's Mel and I'm a somatic relationship coach who works with the queer and questioning (and those who love them) who are exploring consensual non-monogamy and post-monogamous paradigms of relating.
Follow me for hot takes on relationships, somatics, queerness, and feminism!
Follow me for hot takes on relationships, somatics, queerness, and feminism!
"Why do polyamorous people always look like THAT?"
Me: Because they're having better sex than you are, lady!
#Polyamory
Me: Because they're having better sex than you are, lady!
#Polyamory
March 1, 2025 at 3:04 PM
"Why do polyamorous people always look like THAT?"
Me: Because they're having better sex than you are, lady!
#Polyamory
Me: Because they're having better sex than you are, lady!
#Polyamory
THE LOGO FOR DEEP SEEK IS AN ORCA
@orcassinkingyachts.bsky.social 👏🏽 well played
@orcassinkingyachts.bsky.social 👏🏽 well played
January 27, 2025 at 8:30 PM
THE LOGO FOR DEEP SEEK IS AN ORCA
@orcassinkingyachts.bsky.social 👏🏽 well played
@orcassinkingyachts.bsky.social 👏🏽 well played
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I really did not have Costco leading the Resistance 2.0 on my bingo card, but I am here for it!
January 27, 2025 at 6:35 PM
I really did not have Costco leading the Resistance 2.0 on my bingo card, but I am here for it!
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Pentagon Warns China Developing Love, The Greatest Weapon Of All
theonion.com/pentago...
theonion.com/pentago...
January 27, 2025 at 7:00 PM
Pentagon Warns China Developing Love, The Greatest Weapon Of All
theonion.com/pentago...
theonion.com/pentago...
I'm asking this of everyone I see divesting from Meta, because I'm seeking solutions for myself: where and how are you finding diverse community connection spaces that replace the group spaces that Meta has provided?
January 27, 2025 at 8:21 PM
I'm asking this of everyone I see divesting from Meta, because I'm seeking solutions for myself: where and how are you finding diverse community connection spaces that replace the group spaces that Meta has provided?
Yeah, it's chaotic out there. But don't let the chaos drive you into the arms of would-be cult leaders.
January 21, 2025 at 8:29 PM
Yeah, it's chaotic out there. But don't let the chaos drive you into the arms of would-be cult leaders.
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After the Palisades fire burned down his home, Casey Colvin feared the worst for his dogs, who he couldn't get back to despite desperately trying. But after five days, he and Oreo finally got a tearful and ecstatic reunion. "I'm never gonna let him go." 14/10 for all
January 13, 2025 at 5:15 PM
After the Palisades fire burned down his home, Casey Colvin feared the worst for his dogs, who he couldn't get back to despite desperately trying. But after five days, he and Oreo finally got a tearful and ecstatic reunion. "I'm never gonna let him go." 14/10 for all
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Why Pigeons Make Bad Nests: A defense of pigeon aesthetics
January 13, 2025 at 3:00 PM
Why Pigeons Make Bad Nests: A defense of pigeon aesthetics
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1) The RECOVER study found that adults who got a SARS-CoV-2 infection were approximately 5 times as likely to develop ME/CFS.
But there are some important caveats…
But there are some important caveats…
January 13, 2025 at 6:52 PM
1) The RECOVER study found that adults who got a SARS-CoV-2 infection were approximately 5 times as likely to develop ME/CFS.
But there are some important caveats…
But there are some important caveats…
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January 13, 2025 at 2:43 PM
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Me at the start of 2024: straight guy
Me at the start of 2025: Asexual heteroflexible polyamorous relationship anarchist
Cheers for self-development and becoming more intentional in my relationships with others.
#asexual #polyamory
Me at the start of 2025: Asexual heteroflexible polyamorous relationship anarchist
Cheers for self-development and becoming more intentional in my relationships with others.
#asexual #polyamory
January 13, 2025 at 2:02 PM
Me at the start of 2024: straight guy
Me at the start of 2025: Asexual heteroflexible polyamorous relationship anarchist
Cheers for self-development and becoming more intentional in my relationships with others.
#asexual #polyamory
Me at the start of 2025: Asexual heteroflexible polyamorous relationship anarchist
Cheers for self-development and becoming more intentional in my relationships with others.
#asexual #polyamory
Please give a shout out to @sullux.bsky.social who has helped me figure out the, er, back end of skyfeed, and tune up both the #RelationshipAnarchy and #SoloPolyamory feeds.
January 12, 2025 at 8:18 PM
Please give a shout out to @sullux.bsky.social who has helped me figure out the, er, back end of skyfeed, and tune up both the #RelationshipAnarchy and #SoloPolyamory feeds.
A lot of folks confuse Relationship Anarchy with Relationship Libertarianism - so let's clear this up? RA is about decentering a single romantic partnership in favor of community building. RL is about doing whatever on a whim without any consideration for how it impacts others.
#RelationshipAnarchy
#RelationshipAnarchy
January 12, 2025 at 5:08 PM
A lot of folks confuse Relationship Anarchy with Relationship Libertarianism - so let's clear this up? RA is about decentering a single romantic partnership in favor of community building. RL is about doing whatever on a whim without any consideration for how it impacts others.
#RelationshipAnarchy
#RelationshipAnarchy
Sometimes I think that Relationship Anarchy is the inevitable result when you never stop being that kid who incessantly asks "But why, but WHY, BUT WHY?"
#polyamory #nonmonogamy #butwhy #RelationshipAnarchy
#polyamory #nonmonogamy #butwhy #RelationshipAnarchy
January 11, 2025 at 10:56 PM
Sometimes I think that Relationship Anarchy is the inevitable result when you never stop being that kid who incessantly asks "But why, but WHY, BUT WHY?"
#polyamory #nonmonogamy #butwhy #RelationshipAnarchy
#polyamory #nonmonogamy #butwhy #RelationshipAnarchy
Let's talk about Solo Polyamory!
How did you first learn it was a thing?
Back in 2012 I decided to be in a primary relationship with myself, and described it as being polysingleish. Then someone introduced me to the SoloPoly blog by Aggie Sez... and the rest is history!
#SoloPolyamory #Polyamory
How did you first learn it was a thing?
Back in 2012 I decided to be in a primary relationship with myself, and described it as being polysingleish. Then someone introduced me to the SoloPoly blog by Aggie Sez... and the rest is history!
#SoloPolyamory #Polyamory
January 11, 2025 at 4:34 AM
Let's talk about Solo Polyamory!
How did you first learn it was a thing?
Back in 2012 I decided to be in a primary relationship with myself, and described it as being polysingleish. Then someone introduced me to the SoloPoly blog by Aggie Sez... and the rest is history!
#SoloPolyamory #Polyamory
How did you first learn it was a thing?
Back in 2012 I decided to be in a primary relationship with myself, and described it as being polysingleish. Then someone introduced me to the SoloPoly blog by Aggie Sez... and the rest is history!
#SoloPolyamory #Polyamory
Okay. I am assured that the Relationship Anarchy and Solo Polyamory feeds are working for folks, and even though I am not convinced, I'll roll with that and trust that when someone sees how to improve them they'll let me know 🫠 #ImposterSyndrome
January 11, 2025 at 2:57 AM
Okay. I am assured that the Relationship Anarchy and Solo Polyamory feeds are working for folks, and even though I am not convinced, I'll roll with that and trust that when someone sees how to improve them they'll let me know 🫠 #ImposterSyndrome
Thought for the day:
Patriarchal, white supremacist, or colonial ideas about bodies may have influenced your aesthetic attraction to others... however, these things do not need to define eroticism, and your experience of the erotic does not need to be limited by them.
#RelationshipAnarchy
Patriarchal, white supremacist, or colonial ideas about bodies may have influenced your aesthetic attraction to others... however, these things do not need to define eroticism, and your experience of the erotic does not need to be limited by them.
#RelationshipAnarchy
January 10, 2025 at 8:45 PM
Thought for the day:
Patriarchal, white supremacist, or colonial ideas about bodies may have influenced your aesthetic attraction to others... however, these things do not need to define eroticism, and your experience of the erotic does not need to be limited by them.
#RelationshipAnarchy
Patriarchal, white supremacist, or colonial ideas about bodies may have influenced your aesthetic attraction to others... however, these things do not need to define eroticism, and your experience of the erotic does not need to be limited by them.
#RelationshipAnarchy
@bsky.app is skyfeed the only way to set up a feed? I've tried to set up a couple, but they aren't grabbing everything. Is there an easy how-to guide that explains it with less programmer jargon?
#Help #ElderMillenial #TechMage
#Help #ElderMillenial #TechMage
January 10, 2025 at 6:49 AM
@bsky.app is skyfeed the only way to set up a feed? I've tried to set up a couple, but they aren't grabbing everything. Is there an easy how-to guide that explains it with less programmer jargon?
#Help #ElderMillenial #TechMage
#Help #ElderMillenial #TechMage
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Given all talk re: Post Exertional Malaise/Post Exertional Symptom Exacerbation in #LongCovid:
Here is "Symptoms made worse due to physical or cognitive exertion" in #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis & #ChronicFatigueSyndrome
Also shows all the range of ME/#CFS
symptoms
#MECFS
1/
Here is "Symptoms made worse due to physical or cognitive exertion" in #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis & #ChronicFatigueSyndrome
Also shows all the range of ME/#CFS
symptoms
#MECFS
1/
January 10, 2025 at 3:27 AM
Given all talk re: Post Exertional Malaise/Post Exertional Symptom Exacerbation in #LongCovid:
Here is "Symptoms made worse due to physical or cognitive exertion" in #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis & #ChronicFatigueSyndrome
Also shows all the range of ME/#CFS
symptoms
#MECFS
1/
Here is "Symptoms made worse due to physical or cognitive exertion" in #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis & #ChronicFatigueSyndrome
Also shows all the range of ME/#CFS
symptoms
#MECFS
1/
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New bird divination, available as a stand-alone print at https://bit.ly/savannahbunting. More of them (available as a deck of 100) and the story behind my process at https://almanacofbirds.org
January 10, 2025 at 5:47 AM
New bird divination, available as a stand-alone print at https://bit.ly/savannahbunting. More of them (available as a deck of 100) and the story behind my process at https://almanacofbirds.org
LA is on fire, it's snowing in Texas, and I'm coping with SAD in BC by sitting at my window to work today.
How about you?
#ClimateChange #ClimateGrief
How about you?
#ClimateChange #ClimateGrief
January 9, 2025 at 7:10 PM
LA is on fire, it's snowing in Texas, and I'm coping with SAD in BC by sitting at my window to work today.
How about you?
#ClimateChange #ClimateGrief
How about you?
#ClimateChange #ClimateGrief
I have also attempted to make a feed for Solo Polyamory but I am really taking stabs in the dark with this. Am reminded of the mid 90s when I figured out how to rewire all the satelite dish decoders and our VCR so I could record any tv show- that was *easier* than figuring out Sky Feed :/
January 9, 2025 at 3:11 AM
I have also attempted to make a feed for Solo Polyamory but I am really taking stabs in the dark with this. Am reminded of the mid 90s when I figured out how to rewire all the satelite dish decoders and our VCR so I could record any tv show- that was *easier* than figuring out Sky Feed :/
I am going to attempt to make a feed for Relationship Anarchy.
Wish me luck!
Wish me luck!
January 8, 2025 at 9:38 PM
I am going to attempt to make a feed for Relationship Anarchy.
Wish me luck!
Wish me luck!
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Idk who needs to heart this but nonmonogamy/polyamory/relationship anarchy means you have to be WAY BETTER at all things relational. Yes it is more authentic, there is more freedom, etc, but if you don't do it well you just mess up more people, often simultaneously.
December 24, 2024 at 7:18 PM
Idk who needs to heart this but nonmonogamy/polyamory/relationship anarchy means you have to be WAY BETTER at all things relational. Yes it is more authentic, there is more freedom, etc, but if you don't do it well you just mess up more people, often simultaneously.