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Tyger Songbird 💜♠️🏹🂡 @tygersongbird.bsky.social · 8h

Today begins Asexual Awareness Week, my favorite week. Finding out I'm asexual was a godsend. When I discovered I'm asexual at age 26, I finally felt like the puzzle pieces fit together. The Ace community helped give me the words to understand myself. I'm forever grateful to the Ace Community!

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Vanessa Perry @vanessaperrywrites.bsky.social · 10h

So important!

We all get along better when we understand and empathize with the complexity of humans versus trying to shove people in little boxes they don’t fit in.

The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 11h

#AceWeek

Men's voices are often overlooked in this community. I write about my own experiences to show other men out there who are ace/demi or think they might be ace/demi, that they are not alone. They are not broken or weird for not feeling what the men around them seem to feel.

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Reptilefan2 @reptilefan2.bsky.social · 11h

For #aceweek, I would like people to know that demisexuals are ace-spec. I have only liked two people (that I knew for two years before attraction started) in my entire life. Outside of that, I don't really get attraction and have always felt out of place. Why shouldn't I count as ace then?

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 10h

I'm demi myself and been told my standards are too high for such an average guy. Like... that's not what it's about?

When I was last single, the women I dated were a range of ages and body shapes and sizes.

I was open to anyone who seemed like they were interesting and reasonably intelligent.

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 11h

Naturally. I've written a few (fairly decent, I feel) sex scenes in some of my books. The main reason I don't do it more often is usually because I want to centre other types of relationship, definitely not because I am against them.

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 11h

Oh, and prudish too. That's an accusation not exclusively reserved for women. Me not liking strip clubs (when my overall feeling towards them isn't dislike, but confusion that this is a thing people can enjoy) was seen as being a prude

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 11h

Definitely. Many allos presume that only women can be ace, as demonstrated by a post I saw on Instagram a while back. "Isn't acephobia just misogyny by another name?" Not the first and it won't be the last.

We're that invisible.

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 11h

presumes our consent by default. "Men always want it!" "They won't ever say no!"

So any man who says "no" is seen as faulty. He is mistrusted. He is shallow or secretly gay. If we're partnered, the knee jerk reaction is "he's getting it elsewhere"

Sex ed NEEDS ace views of all genders 2/2

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 11h

#AceWeek

Men's voices are often overlooked in this community. I write about my own experiences to show other men out there who are ace/demi or think they might be ace/demi, that they are not alone. They are not broken or weird for not feeling what the men around them seem to feel.

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 12h

Hear, hear.

Ell Huang 🖤🤍💜 @nocturnalxlight.bsky.social · 14h

Hey it’s #AceWeek! 🖤🩶🤍💜

More people should realize that asexual advocacy isn’t just “people trying so hard to be oppressed becauss they’re loudly single.”

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Ell Huang 🖤🤍💜 @nocturnalxlight.bsky.social · 14h

Hey it’s #AceWeek! 🖤🩶🤍💜

More people should realize that asexual advocacy isn’t just “people trying so hard to be oppressed becauss they’re loudly single.”

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 8d

For those who don't follow my main account... 🧵

TL;DR version is that I was hospitalised on Monday with suspected appendicitis. But I have cancer of the pancreas

Matt Mason - One Chaotic Author @chaoticauthor.online · 9d

THE POST I NEVER WANTED TO WRITE

On Monday I was hospitalised after having severe abdominal cramps, no appetite, a mild fever and a racing pulse. After a CT scan a couple of days ago, it seems I have pancreatic cancer.

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AVEN @avenofficial.bsky.social · 13d

For almost 25 years, AVEN has been working to help ace and aro people across the globe understand themselves and promote open, honest public understanding of our experience. In that time we've had a tremendous impact, and we're asking for your support to fund the next two years of our work.

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QueerAF @wearequeeraf.com · 13d

When we understand that our history is diverse, it changes our outlook. I hope that this Black History Month, we all take the time to uncover the history lessons we were denied in school

https://www.wearequeeraf.com/how-many-more-generations-will-be-denied-black-queer-history-before-we-take-action/

How many more generations will be denied Black queer history before we take action?

When we understand that our history is diverse, it changes our outlook. I hope that this Black History Month, we all take the time to uncover the history lessons we were denied in school

www.wearequeeraf.com

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Ell Huang 🖤🤍💜 @nocturnalxlight.bsky.social · 18d

At long last, here is my take on Interview with the Vampire, queer time, and the existential horrors of asexual yearning. It also happens to be my 50th blog post (though it’s become a full-length essay)!
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worrydollsandfloatinglights.wordpress.com/2025/10/01/i...

Interview with the Vampire and Asexual Loneliness

“I can tell you about it, enclose it with words that will make the value of it to me evident to you. But I can’t tell you exactly, any more than I could tell you exactly what is the exp…

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 23d

I love this thorough review of Being Demi from @aspiraldance.bsky.social! Thank you so much, Amanda.

This poetry and essay collection chronicles my demisexual coming out journey. Five days until release...

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Being Demi is a short but powerful read full of poems and essays about coming out as demisexual later in life.

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 18d

My poetry and essay collection is out today!

Check out the buying links...

Matt Mason - One Chaotic Author @chaoticauthor.online · 18d

RELEASE DAY! Demisexuality is a complex little understood sexuality, often confused with idealised social expectations.

This short collection of poems and essays is my story.

🌈📚💙📚👀📢📚💙📚🪐♠️🌈📚

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onechaoticauthor.itch.io/being-demi

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Book cover mock up shows same background and text. Author name MG Mason. Cover also shows a black triangle pointing downwards with a white, grey, and purple ace of spades inside

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 18d

I think to these people it's just a cheap insult to meaninglessly throw at anyone they disagree with or dislike.

Asexual men challenge the gendered narrative of how men are supposed to act in the pursuit of romance and sex. And rather than unpacking it, they lash out.

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Matt Mason - One Chaotic Author @chaoticauthor.online · 19d

Eep! I have a new book out tomorrow 😍

This one is available wide from the start. Will also be available on Ko-Fi and Itch.

Matt Mason - One Chaotic Author @chaoticauthor.online · Sep 7

Demisexuality: a complex little understood sexuality, often confused with idealised social expectations.

I came out three years ago. This collection of poems and essays is a personal and intimate look at my personal journey.

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PREORDER HERE
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QueerAF @wearequeeraf.com · 19d

Asexuality is a spectrum, and all of us who fall somewhere on that spectrum have different relationships with sex and sexual attraction

https://www.wearequeeraf.com/asexuality-is-a-spectrum-that-answered-a-lifetime-of-questions/

Asexuality is a spectrum that answered a lifetime of questions

Asexuality is a spectrum, and all of us who fall somewhere on that spectrum have different relationships with sex and sexual attraction

www.wearequeeraf.com

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 22d

Thanks Ell!

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Ell Huang 🖤🤍💜 @nocturnalxlight.bsky.social · 23d

Love this!

And wow I resonate deeply with that last takeaway about punishing self for crushes even if they’re queerplatonic, about wanting closeness with friends in a world that reduces and restricts what affection is allowed.

Thanks for sharing! Keeping an eye out for when this book comes out!

The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 23d

I love this thorough review of Being Demi from @aspiraldance.bsky.social! Thank you so much, Amanda.

This poetry and essay collection chronicles my demisexual coming out journey. Five days until release...

🌈🖊️💻

aspiraldance.com/ad-review-of-being-demi-by-mg-mason/

AD| Review of Being Demi by MG Mason - A Spiral Dance

Being Demi is a short but powerful read full of poems and essays about coming out as demisexual later in life.

aspiraldance.com

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The Grey Rainbow @thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 23d

I love this thorough review of Being Demi from @aspiraldance.bsky.social! Thank you so much, Amanda.

This poetry and essay collection chronicles my demisexual coming out journey. Five days until release...

🌈🖊️💻

aspiraldance.com/ad-review-of-being-demi-by-mg-mason/

AD| Review of Being Demi by MG Mason - A Spiral Dance

Being Demi is a short but powerful read full of poems and essays about coming out as demisexual later in life.

aspiraldance.com