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Julie S. Lalonde

@julieslalonde.bsky.social

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6x award-winning feminist buzzkill. Franco-ontarienne du nord de l'Ontario. 🏳️‍🌈 Femme. I teach community care for a living and wrote a book about why resilience is futile, babyyyy ✌🏻 Actually fun™️ 📍Ottawa, Canada YellowManteau.com

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · Nov 12

Lots of new folks here! 👋

I've spent 20+ years working as a violence prevention educator.

- Find my free bystander intervention webinars here : linktr.ee/JulieSLalonde

- Hire me for trainings : yellowmanteau.com

- My memoir "Resilience is Futile" is available globally wherever books are sold✌️

Julie S. Lalonde holding a copy of her memoir "Resilience is Futile : The Life and Death and Life of Julie S. Lalonde"

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 5d

Have you ever witnessed sexual harassment on the bus & not known what to do? Ever heard a transphobic slur being hurled at someone and worried that stepping in would just make it worse?

Let me teach you effective bystander intervention - for free!

I've got 4 webinars left! Registration links :

@julieslalonde | Linktree

Come learn bystander intervention with me - It's free!

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 47m

Booksellers do occasionally make offers like that for e-pubs to drum up interest.

Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 12h

Co-signing this.

I co-founded the Radical Handmaids in 2012 to defeat an anti-choice bill* and a huge reason we were effective is that anti-choicers couldn't make fun of us because at least we *knew* we looked silly. They looked stupid as hell but took themselves seriously.

*we succeeded 💅

RDS (formerly shawphd) @rds773.bsky.social · 13h

This is why we need more costumed protesters

Hard to cosplay as a badass when a giant frog or a dino or a big pink pig is waving its arms and thrusting its pelvis at you

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Paris Marx @parismarx.com · 18h

from elbows up to warm embrace. it’s a betrayal of he told canadians to expect from him.

Aaron Rupar @atrupar.com · 21h

"You are a transformative president" -- I regret to inform you that Mark Carney is kissing Trump's ass

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 16h

Totally.

I think suffering *shows* your character, it does not necessarily build it.

Covid-19 pandemic is the best example of that. If suffering inherently creates empathy and builds your moral character, then we should all be thriving now after so much suffering and isolation AND YET...

shuilian.bsky.social @shuilian.bsky.social · 17h

In connection w/your point, do you not find it a pernicious myth that suffering is ennobling & 'makes you a better person'? That can happen, of course, & people do learn from experiences, but we underestimate how often people learn the wrong lessons. Suffering often warps & damages victims, I find.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 17h

a wooden box has the word fragile written on it

Alt: a wooden box has the word fragile written on it

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Between the Lines @btlbooks.com · 18h

Out now! Toute résilience serait futile
Vie et mort et vie de Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social

www.quebec-amerique.com/collections/...

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 18h

We can, and should, honour and acknowledge people's journeys to survival without glamourizing the struggle.

"Resilience is Futile" is available worldwide as a paperback, e-book and audiobook (narrated by me) and "Toute résilience serait futile" is available now in paperback form!

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 18h

I wrote my grad thesis on elderly women living in poverty & my goal was to show the gaps between policy & lived experience but I ended up writing a whole ass dissertation on the way their resilience minimized or downright hid the struggles they were experiencing. "Nana seems happy. Must be fine!"

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 18h

Finally, "resilience is futile" is also a challenge to the ways people glamourize suffering.

"Yes, horrible things happened to you but look at you now! Thriving!"

1- don't give *him* credit for the life I built.

2- I'm not a better person because of what happened. I'm a *different* person.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 18h

I survived 2 years of DV & 10 years of stalking because I got lucky & outlived my abuser.

The police left me to die. My employer abandoned me, as did my campus & most of the people in my life.

Telling me none of that matters because I should just be grateful to be alive is insulting.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 18h

My memoir dropped the day the pandemic was declared & initially, the title got major blowback. "Julie's telling people to give up!"

But as the pandemic dragged on, people saw how they were abandoned by systems of power who told them to just "Be resilient" as though that's separate from privilege

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 18h

I liken resilience to a rodeo clown or a magician's assistant - a shiny way of focusing attention away from the main act.

We don't have to fix systems, provide support or build community care if we individualize every problem as "You're either resilient or you're a weak victim."

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 18h

Instead of praising people for their ability to withstand hardship, why not make life softer for them? More than that, my resilience and ability to get up in the morning despite the violence I was experiencing, were used to minimize the violence. "It can't be that bad! You seem fine!"

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 18h

Since the French edition of my memoir comes out today, seems an ideal time to explain why "resilience is futile" is not just the snappy title of my book but the conclusion of my academic research and the overall theme of my life and those of other survivors :

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Flannery Dean @flannerydean.bsky.social · 19h

See the term “national divorce” a lot and that means something different when one partner is abusive

Nicole Bedera @nbedera.bsky.social · 19h

One of the fundamental truths we need to acknowledge in this moment is that domestic violence is where fascists learned how to get away with their violence.

“What did you do to provoke him?” is exactly what victims hear when they try to seek help in an abusive relationship.

Preorder Read This When Things Fall Apart @mskellymhayes.bsky.social · 20h

Y'all who keep lecturing protesters to "not give them an excuse" need to pause for a minute. Imagine yourself telling a DV victim, "Be sure not to mouth off or make any mistakes so he won't hit you. Don't give him an excuse! It's what he wants!" That's what you fools sound like.

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 19h

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 23h

L'édition française de ma mémoire, lance aujourd'hui! ✌🏻

Toute résilience serait futile - - Québec Amérique

Voici le récit autobiographique bouleversant de Julie S. Lalonde, une militante pour les droits des femmes dont le copain Xavier, un charmeur aux allures de troll inoffensif, s’est peu à peu transform...

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 20h

Thanks! The OG English version is available as a paperback, e-book or audiobook (narrated by me) if that helps!

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 20h

Writers often refer to their books as their babies but unlike parents, there's no tradition of newborn photo shoots.

Anyway, as a femme, I say match your book to your heels because both are worth celebrating 🥂

"Toute résilience serait futile" is now available!

Julie's stocking clad leg in a red and black stiletto heel standing beside a copy of her book "Toute résilience serait futile".

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 23h

L'édition française de ma mémoire, lance aujourd'hui! ✌🏻

Toute résilience serait futile - - Québec Amérique

www.quebec-amerique.com

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 1d

I crushed it on a cross country flight and was RIVETED

Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 1d

SO MUCH

It was a helluva ride

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Julie S. Lalonde @julieslalonde.bsky.social · 1d

It. Really. Is.

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Shawn Micallef @shawnmicallef.bsky.social · 1d

More shit for the Ontario voter to eat. Eat it up yum.

Jessica Smith Cross @jessiecatherine.bsky.social · 1d

NEW: Clients of lobby firms connected to the premier and his nephew were given tens of millions from the Skills Development Fund.

Clients of Rubicon — a lobbying firm owned by the premier’s campaign manager — got more than $100M, records show.

www.thetrillium.ca/news/politic...

Clients of lobby firms connected to premier, his nephew given tens of millions in training funds

Groups represented by a lobbying firm owned by the premier’s campaign manager got more than $100 million in grant money, a Trillium analysis has found

www.thetrillium.ca

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HerRoyalBOO👻bies @ourflagmeansbeth.bsky.social · 1d

FYI: These are water resistant not waterproof in case you have a drink in hand and notice someone recording you without your consent.

Gizmodo @gizmodo.com · 1d

Buckle Up, the Smart Glasses Backlash Is Coming https://gizmodo.com/buckle-up-the-smart-glasses-backlash-is-coming-2000668213

Buckle Up, the Smart Glasses Backlash Is Coming

Is this #glassholes 2.0?

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