Marissa Lingen
@marissalingen.bsky.social
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Science fiction writer, poet, essayist. Minnesota nerd par excellence. Tisanes, leaves, Moomins, snow. She/her. Repped by Kurestin Armada. www.marissalingen.com tinyletter.com/MarissaLingen
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bmcnett.bsky.social
This is a very sweet tale. I enjoyed it very much.
marissalingen.bsky.social
Back from my family trip to tell you that I have a new story in @kaleidotrope.bsky.social ! "What a Big Heart You Have" is my tender tribute to Grandma and Aunt Ellen, though the characters aren't literally them. kaleidotrope.net/autumn-2025/...
“What a Big Heart You Have” by Marissa Lingen
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lauraadrian2.bsky.social
This story is exactly what I needed to read this morning.
marissalingen.bsky.social
Back from my family trip to tell you that I have a new story in @kaleidotrope.bsky.social ! "What a Big Heart You Have" is my tender tribute to Grandma and Aunt Ellen, though the characters aren't literally them. kaleidotrope.net/autumn-2025/...
“What a Big Heart You Have” by Marissa Lingen
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devanbarlow.bsky.social
Read this at once, for a marvelous and cozy fairy tale interlude in your day!
marissalingen.bsky.social
Back from my family trip to tell you that I have a new story in @kaleidotrope.bsky.social ! "What a Big Heart You Have" is my tender tribute to Grandma and Aunt Ellen, though the characters aren't literally them. kaleidotrope.net/autumn-2025/...
“What a Big Heart You Have” by Marissa Lingen
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stephanieburgis.bsky.social
OK, I already boosted @marissalingen.bsky.social's own post about her new story, but I just have to add, now that I've read it - oh, this is LOVELY: kaleidotrope.net/autumn-2025/...

Such a funny, sweet gift of a story about grandmothers and granddaughters. I loved it and will definitely re-read!
“What a Big Heart You Have” by Marissa Lingen
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marissalingen.bsky.social
When it's just family I absolutely sing it
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naomikritzer.bsky.social
This story is a DELIGHT.
marissalingen.bsky.social
Back from my family trip to tell you that I have a new story in @kaleidotrope.bsky.social ! "What a Big Heart You Have" is my tender tribute to Grandma and Aunt Ellen, though the characters aren't literally them. kaleidotrope.net/autumn-2025/...
“What a Big Heart You Have” by Marissa Lingen
kaleidotrope.net
marissalingen.bsky.social
I even managed to refrain from singing "vegan paella!" at the teenagers to the tune of "Viva Las Vegas," so I feel like I get extra good auntie points for that.

Also I brought gf brownies.
marissalingen.bsky.social
What if the teenager brings an additional five friends, one of whom has celiac and one of whom has a meat allergy, will we be able to feed them all happily

(Empirical answer this weekend: yes. But it was a "put me in, coach, I've been training my whole life for this" moment.)
marissalingen.bsky.social
Back from my family trip to tell you that I have a new story in @kaleidotrope.bsky.social ! "What a Big Heart You Have" is my tender tribute to Grandma and Aunt Ellen, though the characters aren't literally them. kaleidotrope.net/autumn-2025/...
“What a Big Heart You Have” by Marissa Lingen
kaleidotrope.net
marissalingen.bsky.social
Up until recently I think we were seeing a lot of "autistic people have theory of mind problems" and now we're recognizing that allistic people do TOO, in the other direction, and adjusting to that information is useful but fraught.
marissalingen.bsky.social
So one, I think that it's easy to be frustrated with a world that isn't designed for you and overgeneralize, and I think we're seeing some of that in some autistic people.

And two, I think theory of mind is harder than we gave it credit for, and in multiple directions.
marissalingen.bsky.social
My interaction with other brains is like, here, I brought this wild rice salad to the picnic. Oh, you brought potato salad? and someone else brought a key lime pie? GRAND, we did not need three wild rice salads.
marissalingen.bsky.social
So like--sure, there are people who are like "Ugh, I wish I didn't have to interact with people of a different neurotype than me."

Those people are ASSHOLES, and when they share my neurotype I am still not their friend. I like my friends having different brains than mine. I already have my brain!
marissalingen.bsky.social
You know the saying "If you know one autistic person, you...know one autistic person," meant to indicate that autistic people vary a lot? Allistic people do too.

I think of that a lot when people are making sweeping statements about allistic/autistic people's preferences.
marissalingen.bsky.social
Farmer's market haul: bell peppers, cherry tomatoes, and the entire world's supply of winter squash (to take up north and cook for college students).
marissalingen.bsky.social
It was a beautifully well-written speech. It made me gasp at several points at how well she'd done it.
marissalingen.bsky.social
Younger Nibling: Aunt Marissa, you're such a Willow.
me: OH NO I FEEL SEEN
marissalingen.bsky.social
This is such a great advice post from Fran! Happy launch day, friend, and happy 10 years on the shelves!
franwilde.bsky.social
Hi everyone from launch day for A Philosophy of Thieves!

Thieves is my 9th novel & it’s launching close to the10-year birthday of my first book, Updraft. To celebrate, I’ve made my monthly craft essay public, with how-to-writer thoughts I’ve picked up over the past decade.

www.patreon.com/post...
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marissalingen.bsky.social
I am a fan of this, and also I deliberately subscribed to some magazines on paper so that I could read a magazine at lunch and not scroll on my phone. Even political/news magazines are better for my brain than the scroll there. But bedtime even more so.